Three Dates Down but no kissing or hand holding. Is this normal?

[Anonymous]

Gone on three dates with a guy all lasted 7 hours or more. Since the second date he likes to stand close to me, hold the door open for me, complement me, tease me, and we started making two future dates. He said he really likes me after the second date. The third date he said he really cares about me and wants to see this through. He offered me his jacket on the third date too and kept checking in to make sure I was warm enough. We both agree to enjoy each other’s company. In addition laugh and carry on good. I think it strange he hasn’t tried to hold my hand or kiss me yet. Am I strange in thinking so?

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He recently wrote me a personalized poem about how he likes me, my inner/outer beauty, and how he can’t wait to continue our story last night! It was a long poem too. No one has written me a poem before!! So sweet

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We planned a fourth date and we both set the scene and touched base on hand holding and maybe cuddling. Wanted to put it out there and avoid miscommunication. He was a perfect gentleman when communicating. I think that’s solves it 😊 Thank you everyone

[Pyrofox]

Guys are at this current time HYPER aware of the whole MeToo BS so if you want anything intimate you gotta start it. At this point. Guys are sick and tired of the whole HE did that this and the other thing that all gets wrapped up as abusive. As a result most guys will go to take a date but leave any and all the intimate stuff or an analogy give the ball to the girl to start playing with. Its like if you want to start handholding just like reach out and hold his hand. As most things romantic now a days are okay if a girl is the one who starts it and wants it. But its taboo at this point for guys to do it. Under the pretense that most girls are literal jailbait if we do anything that looks like we hit you. Now a days can end up with us spending as little as a day in jail to what may as well be life in prison which could be anything from a single year to 20 or 40+ years >.>.

[FR_Ruby]

He seems nice, maybe he's really respectful. It's possible that he just doesn't wanna mess up with you. It seems like he's putting a lot of effort in his time with you so I think he would've said something by now if he wasn't feeling it.
I'd bet he does wanna kiss you or hold your hands.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Does he have an older brother? Preferably in his 30s? Asking for a friend...

Is is normal? No. Which is wrong, because modern dating culture has made it to where people are expected to be horny, ill-mannered twits that don't know how to act like gentlemen and ladies.

Whoever raised your guy, did a damn good job! THAT is how men should treat women: he's being respectful, thoughtful, and not trying to jump into your pants right away. The fact you think it's strange tells me you've been out with some guys that don't know how to treat you right... sad really.

There is no set "timeframe" for a guy to kiss you, hug you, or hell, even have sex with you! It sounds like he's trying to get to know you, not rush into things, and treat you like a lady-

Enjoy it. Seriously. He sounds like a keeper and I'm very envious of you~

[Jersey2]

That’s what I thought too. Well said.

[Cynicaldreamer]

In regards to your update: yeah... did I mention I'm VERY envious? Haha, wow girl. He's a romantic and gentleman.

You should thank him with a nice treat: maybe make the two of you a nice picnic lunch and go out together

[Asker]

He mentioned respecting my boundaries and letting me set the pace and he is in no rush. When we agreed on hand holding and cuddling he was 1000% on board. He is simply a gentleman in the twenty first century which is extremely rare! Thank you for your insight it was very helpful! Fourth date (drive in) 😊

[Cynicaldreamer]

" He mentioned respecting my boundaries and letting me set the pace and he is in no rush. When we agreed on hand holding and cuddling he was 1000% on board" Woot, you go anon! I"m so happy for you!!!

Guys like that give me hope there are still decent ones out there that were raised like gentlemen. Wow. So now you know you're setting the boundaries: DON'T BE TOO FORWARD!!! I can't emphasize that enough. Take it slow and enjoy the ride okay?

[Asker]

Wanted to give you an update!! He asked me to be his girlfriend today. And he surprised my with a ring pop and asked me. Prior to he asked me to pick a colour between blue, green and red. I choose red

[Anonymous]

Normal only if you're in middle school. If you're actually both adults, and you want to move faster... take control. Kiss him. See what happens. You'll find out if he was just being intensley polite or if he's hiding something, perhaps asexual or super religious.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Love is an amazing thing & when it comes to making the first move just remember it isn’t a one way street nowadays & if you really like him make a move on him. Grab his hand & hold it or kiss him you chicken shit.

[Jjcatt]

Can’t relate, with someone now , but when I dated different ladies, I was holding their hand before the first hour (I ask if they want to hold hand, never had a lady say no), always got a first date kiss, so I just don’t understand what his problem is with this guy

[Jamie05rhs]

That's only strange because you're used to guys sending dick picks and asking you for hookups.

But it's really not that strange.

[Asker]

True. I’ve wanted something slow it’s just strange to actually have it for the first time. You’re absolutely right!

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks! :)

[exitseven]

He is nervous. It is hard for guys to know when to make a move. If you like him, just give him a little encouragement.

[Anonymous]

How about you take his hand and hold his hand? Give him the green light. You can also lean in close to his lips and see if he meets you halfway there.
Not all of us are careless pigs, who want sex by the first or 2. nd date.

[wankiam]

you either found a guy with no self confidence or you found a friend but you need to ask him about it i guess, so you know where you stand

[DWornock]

That is normal because it is neither abnormal nor undesirable. However, it is not typical in modern times; and, although typical and normal are synonyms, there is a difference.

[rcljr]

He may be afraid to go to jail with all the feminazi crap going around.

[Anonymous]

That's definitely strange. By the end of the third date--especially if these are long dates--I'd expect at the very least to have gotten very acquainted with your breasts if not much more!

[Opinion Owner]

Would that be closer to what you'd expect?

[Opinion Owner]

That's pretty sweet and all, but the guy needs to make a move already!

[Anonymous]

1st date he was holding my hand, second date hand holding, opening doors for me grabbing my boob, 3rd date boob grab, butt grab, kissing me, hand holding, dinner date

[Shy_Steve]

Just talk with him about it and tell him what you want.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Maybe he's waiting for you to make a move

[Wise4myage]

Time for you to make a move on him.

[Anonymous]

If a female hasn’t taken some money shots in the mouth and swallowed by the third date I call it.

[In_Trance]

Is this how dates usually are in your experience?

[Asker]

No, they often are to forward and I don’t continue after the first conversation (chatting on dating app) or it doesn’t go past the first date. My first/last boyfriend kissed me on the first date and held my hand. The second we had a make out session. (He was my first for a lot of things please keep in mind). Then we made it official in the third.

This is potential my next boyfriend. I usually don’t make it past the first date. We show interest. He just approaches dating differently then I’m used too. I like it but miss the physical aspects a little but it’ll come in time I suppose.

[In_Trance]

So then it's not normal

[Asker]

I don’t have a lot of experience. Just dated the one guy. Was asking around to gain a different perspective for those who do have the experience. Thank you

[TheFlak38]

yes nowadays it's normal

[Anonymous]

Do something about it then, make a move, phewl.

[Yaharro]

No hand holding? WTF

[Iron_Man]

Yes…

[jimmy2]

Sound like Asain