Three Dates Down but no kissing or hand holding. Is this normal?

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Gone on three dates with a guy all lasted 7 hours or more. Since the second date he likes to stand close to me, hold the door open for me, complement me, tease me, and we started making two future dates. He said he really likes me after the second date. The third date he said he really cares about me and wants to see this through. He offered me his jacket on the third date too and kept checking in to make sure I was warm enough. We both agree to enjoy each other’s company. In addition laugh and carry on good. I think it strange he hasn’t tried to hold my hand or kiss me yet. Am I strange in thinking so?

Pyrofox · Accepted Answer

Guys are at this current time HYPER aware of the whole MeToo BS so if you want anything intimate you gotta start it. At this point. Guys are sick and tired of the whole HE did that this and the other thing that all gets wrapped up as abusive. As a result most guys will go to take a date but leave any and all the intimate stuff or an analogy give the ball to the girl to start playing with. Its like if you want to start handholding just like reach out and hold his hand. As most things romantic now a days are okay if a girl is the one who starts it and wants it. But its taboo at this point for guys to do it. Under the pretense that most girls are literal jailbait if we do anything that looks like we hit you. Now a days can end up with us spending as little as a day in jail to what may as well be life in prison which could be anything from a single year to 20 or 40+ years >.>.

FR_Ruby · Accepted Answer

He seems nice, maybe he's really respectful. It's possible that he just doesn't wanna mess up with you. It seems like he's putting a lot of effort in his time with you so I think he would've said something by now if he wasn't feeling it.
I'd bet he does wanna kiss you or hold your hands.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Does he have an older brother? Preferably in his 30s? Asking for a friend...

Is is normal? No. Which is wrong, because modern dating culture has made it to where people are expected to be horny, ill-mannered twits that don't know how to act like gentlemen and ladies.

Whoever raised your guy, did a damn good job! THAT is how men should treat women: he's being respectful, thoughtful, and not trying to jump into your pants right away. The fact you think it's strange tells me you've been out with some guys that don't know how to treat you right... sad really.

There is no set "timeframe" for a guy to kiss you, hug you, or hell, even have sex with you! It sounds like he's trying to get to know you, not rush into things, and treat you like a lady-

Enjoy it. Seriously. He sounds like a keeper and I'm very envious of you~

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Normal only if you're in middle school. If you're actually both adults, and you want to move faster... take control. Kiss him. See what happens. You'll find out if he was just being intensley polite or if he's hiding something, perhaps asexual or super religious.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Love is an amazing thing & when it comes to making the first move just remember it isn’t a one way street nowadays & if you really like him make a move on him. Grab his hand & hold it or kiss him you chicken shit.

Jjcatt · Answer

Can’t relate, with someone now , but when I dated different ladies, I was holding their hand before the first hour (I ask if they want to hold hand, never had a lady say no), always got a first date kiss, so I just don’t understand what his problem is with this guy

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's only strange because you're used to guys sending dick picks and asking you for hookups. But it's really not that strange.

exitseven · Answer

He is nervous. It is hard for guys to know when to make a move. If you like him, just give him a little encouragement.

Anonymous · Answer

How about you take his hand and hold his hand? Give him the green light. You can also lean in close to his lips and see if he meets you halfway there.
Not all of us are careless pigs, who want sex by the first or 2. nd date.

wankiam · Answer

you either found a guy with no self confidence or you found a friend but you need to ask him about it i guess, so you know where you stand

DWornock · Answer

That is normal because it is neither abnormal nor undesirable. However, it is not typical in modern times; and, although typical and normal are synonyms, there is a difference.

rcljr · Answer

He may be afraid to go to jail with all the feminazi crap going around.

Anonymous · Answer

That's definitely strange. By the end of the third date--especially if these are long dates--I'd expect at the very least to have gotten very acquainted with your breasts if not much more!

Anonymous · Answer

1st date he was holding my hand, second date hand holding, opening doors for me grabbing my boob, 3rd date boob grab, butt grab, kissing me, hand holding, dinner date

Shy_Steve · Answer

Just talk with him about it and tell him what you want.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Maybe he's waiting for you to make a move

Wise4myage · Answer

Time for you to make a move on him.

Anonymous · Answer

If a female hasn’t taken some money shots in the mouth and swallowed by the third date I call it.

In_Trance · Answer

Is this how dates usually are in your experience?

TheFlak38 · Answer

yes nowadays it's normal

Anonymous · Answer

Do something about it then, make a move, phewl.

Yaharro · Answer

No hand holding? WTF

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes…

jimmy2 · Answer

Sound like Asain

Anonymous · Answer

he's gay

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