She cancelled our first date—should I text to reschedule or wait?

Question

She cancelled our first date a day before. Her reason seems to be genuine. Should I wait for her to text me, or should I text her to reschedule myself?

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

No.

She cancelled on you, but - I'm assuming - she didn't offer up an opportunity for another date, ex: "Hey, I have to cancel our date tomorrow night, so sorry. Can we try for (such and such time)?" If she didn't say anything like that, I'm going to take it as meaning she has no real intention of going out with you. Chicks do this all the time. She either got scared or decided to go out or have sex with someone else.

Don't reach out to her. If she's really serious or interested in going on a date with you then she'll get back to you. She was the one who canceled, so she should be the one offering another time, and you guys just have to figure out when that is.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Text her one more time and plan another date , if she bails on that one , move on from her and waste no more of your time on her. Because when a girl really likes you and is interested in you , she wants to see you as soon as possible but a girl that isn’t sure what she wants , will play games with you because she is more than likely weighing her options with other guys’ as well.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Depends how she did it.
Hey something came up, rain check? She wants to see you but legit something came up or do one dropped in from out of the blue and she has to deal with it in real time.

I’m behind schedule, rain check? She wants to see you but looks a mess and doesn’t have time to doll up before seeing you.

I’m busy OR hey I have to cancel. (No reason or rain check offer) Just say ok. She’s brushing you off for whatever reason.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Did she offered a new day and time? What’s her reason? Are you guys still texting? I think it’s attractive to offer a new date plans but if she’s no longer texting you.. I think her cancellation was actually her way of ending things. I have cancelled dates before but still offer another day bc I still wanna see them.

coachTanthony · Answer

She isn't interested. If she was she would bend over backwards to let you know she WANTS to reschedule and soon and she will be in touch. If you got none of that move on.

AviatorTom · Answer

If you asked her out, you should text her. If she asked you, she should text you. Host should be responsible for rescheduling.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Communication is so much more effective when people actually TALK instead of texting. If you two had actually been talking to each other, you wouldn’t be confused.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

The ball is in her court now. If she doesn’t contact you to reschedule, she’s just not that into you.

Cice369 · Answer

I had something like this happen. She cancelled and said "I'm sick, can't go out" that was the first time then the next excuse was "I was giving my dad a haircut" When we worked out a day and time I saw this on my phone "I had to get my computer worked on by the GeekSquad at BestBuy!" so I replied back and said "how about tomorrow night, OR is your Hard drive scheduled to break down next?" never had a "uhhh, no... uhm... okay tomorrow works!" reply so quick. Then on the date she kept telling me she was a flake and I took that hint. Tried to make another time to hangout and she said she couldn't. Then I went to a new bar in town by myself and I was still thinking about her and as I was sitting in the parking lot I explained that I knew she had said no, but if she decided to change her mind I was in the parking lot of a new bar that recently opened and said all of this in a text, I sent the text. AND wouldn't you know as I was walking in, I saw her sitting there with another date, and she had the OHH fuck, I'm caught in this one look. So I walked up to her table and said "Hi there, I see your busy because you're a flake, or was I the only one?" she kept saying, "omg, omg why are you doing this right now" I walked out and he wasn't too far behind me, we nodded to each other, got into our cars, and left. Guess we were both saved from that one.

Don't be a pushover. Call women out on their bs. Use good discernment. Learn to be funny; women love humor.

lightbulb27 · Answer

At that age... she's a chicken that's been around the pen a few times so to speak... she's got 2nd thoughts and cold feet, pmsing, sick possibly or just couldn't get herself together. Probability something urgent came up to interrupt something she's so excited about... is low. It's nerves... fears.

So you are trying to handle a nervous (for many reasons), hormonally wavering, pmsing, probably out of relational shape... female human... in all probability. Factor that into your re-calculations "Submarine Captain" as you take aim. We all know you want to launch "torpedo" at her, and she knows that too... ain't no secrets. Oh, that's bad ok... step 1, is laugh and get out of this logistical nightmare.

If you can reach out to her in a cheeky fun way to take any pressures off to rendevou without much effort, in what you think the right time is, go for it.

If its online, probability higher you get ghosted as she officially "freaks".

@Abbycado apologies for the use of the word "ain't". I know it ain't a word... yet.

RavVid · Answer

If the reason was genuine, I think you could have expected expected, aside from an apology, a request to reschedule. There is some arrogance or disinterest shown without that.

Nonetheless you may as well text and ask if she is interested but then I make sure the horse is dead before I stop flogging it.

OneViewpoint · Answer

One message to reschedule. Then no contact until she responds. You'll have your answer. If she disappears, be grateful. You've lost little time or money. Move on. No goodbye message. No begging for pointless explanations.

spartan55 · Answer

No, no, no... whoever cancels reschedules PERIOD. Rescheduling should be done at the time of cancelation. If she doesn't then give her 24 hours to reschedule. If she doesn't (which she won't) then you can move on.

Shroomie817 · Answer

Well at least she gave a days notice and didn’t cancel on the day of - if her reason sounded genuine then it probably was. (I like to give benefit of the doubt) - what you can do from here: If she didn’t offer a time to reschedule then I would send her a text message and just ask “hey, did you still wanna go out for dinner/date sometime?” & however she responds to that will be your answer lol… ( if she says yes but doesn’t communicate or make any effort in coordinating a reschedule w/ you then she’s prob not interested anymore)

Dargil · Answer

Wait for her to re-initiate contact. Never, ever chase a female after one invitation. You never want to place a woman in judgement over you. But she can choose to refresh your invitation but contacting you. But then, she should only one occasion to do so.

EmmaMary · Answer

Just send her a quick text making sure all is well and asking if she would like to reschedule another time.

Anonymous · Answer

if i was that girl and canceled a date for a good reason, i would immediately say "can we do ___ instead?" because i would feel so awful.

if she doesn't reschedule or even talk about it, then she probably doesn't want to go on a date

Zack-Bann · Answer

People cancel, it’s how it is. What would you do if it was your parent or sibling? Don’t overthink it, just don’t be needy and all will be ok.

Screenwriter · Answer

Either seems appropriate. But if you get no immediate response, plans update, it might be cold feet, so I'd let it go.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

Personally, id wait. If she didn't specifically offer another day I will just move on and think she really wasn't interested and im not wasting my time waiting in line.

MysticDevice · Answer

Move on my guy. If she wanted to go on the date, she'd have gone on the date. Don't let anyone waste your time like that.

jshm2 · Answer

Neither.  That's someone too uncertain and too flaky to have a relationship with.

ammar12343 · Answer

If she didn’t offer to reschedule then just move on.

Phunk_Fenomenon · Answer

non of the above, time for you to find a new date

Abbycado · Answer

Text and put the ball in her court. Ask her next time she is free, let you know.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Give it one more go, schedule something. If she cancels again then put it in her court to contact you when she can

Mark_Est · Answer

Only simps chase women. Men chase goals. Do your own thing.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Do nothing. If she's still interested she will reach out. If she's shit testing you, don't be a simp.

worldscolide · Answer

Offer to plan another date, if she bails, ghost her. Don't waste your time when there are better options.

exitseven · Answer

Take the initiative. If she cancells again you can write her off.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Reschedule immediately! You have to call their bluff. Don't let these bitches get away with their bullshit anymore.

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

No, because she canceled and didn't say ," im sorry can we do this another time?" I'd move on. Sorry to hear she bailed on you

thund3rlight · Answer

just wait, if she is interested she will text you.

RingOfFire · Answer

I would do nothing. If she's still interested she would let you know. That's up to her.

Anonymous · Answer

You will have to do it but if she doesn't respond enthusiastically then drop it.

November4th · Answer

Let her make the next plan; if she doesn’t, she wasn’t that into you.

Vegasrunner · Answer

If you really like this girl than dont text her again until she text back.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

If she cancelled, it's her choice to reschedule or not. Let her make the next move. If she doesn't, she's not interested.

Nucking_futss · Answer

I think she’ll text you when she has time. But if she doesn't reply within two days, maybe she simply doesn't want to.

Alexson_stormzy · Answer

Texting isn't a bad idea even if it tends to make you look desperate

msc545 · Answer

Wait a day or two, and if you don't hear from her, text her.

LarryBarnes130586 · Answer

Honestly it all depends on how you really feel about her. If you’re really into her you should do whatever it takes to get her

robocop666 · Answer

text her and do it asap either that or she is lying and chickening out

832dreamboy · Answer

Wait, and if she doesn't re-schedule, get another broad, boy-o !!!

crazyengineer · Answer

What reason did she give?

Interstate · Answer

Ask her what works best for her schedule.

queenofcardio · Answer

You can reschedule

rgb008 · Answer

I like to call but that’s just me.

Cidknee · Answer

She has the number! Let her reschedule.

dudeinohio · Answer

Contact her to reschedule

Staximus · Answer

What was the reason

LiamJHayden · Answer

Call her to show you are still interested.

whosnumber_1 · Answer

Wait. The balls in her court

Deserter3 · Answer

Don't text her, if she wants to follow up she will

Anonymous · Answer

Text her

In_Trance · Answer

Move on

ava_90 · Answer

Text

radiomechanic · Answer

Text to reschedule

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