Guys, I’m too scared to approach my gym crush. I came across another guy at our gym’s instagram and saw him tagged. Is it weird if I follow him?

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I want to follow him and tell him I’m attracted to him, but I feel like it’s kind of a strange thing to do because I’ve see him daily for years and never spoken to him. I’m an attractive lady and I feel like he gives me long stares sometimes but for some reason I’m afraid to approach him. If I write him and he rejects me I’ll still have to see him daily. Should I do it?

[Anonymous]

It is understandable to feel nervous or hesitant about approaching someone you are attracted to, especially if you will see them frequently in a shared space like a gym. However, following someone on social media and directly telling them you are attracted to them without ever having spoken to them in person could potentially come across as inappropriate or uncomfortable for the other person.

Before taking any action, it may be helpful to consider why you are interested in this person and what you hope to gain from pursuing a relationship with them. If you are primarily attracted to their physical appearance or have not had any meaningful interactions with them, it may be worth taking some time to reflect on what you are truly seeking in a relationship.

If you do decide to pursue this person, it may be more appropriate to start with small interactions in person, such as saying hello or striking up a casual conversation about a shared interest. This can help to gauge their interest and comfort level, and can also help to build a foundation of mutual respect and understanding.

It is important to prioritize respect and consent in any situation, and to avoid making assumptions about someone's feelings or motivations without clear evidence. It may be helpful to seek support from friends or a therapist if you are struggling with anxiety or fear around romantic interactions.