Is my gym crush into me if he keeps following and watching me?

[Anonymous]

Today was interesting I saw him and I did work my workout but he keep moving places where I was working and watching me? Is a good thing or not because I left him be and his friend did the same thing. What is this new situation going on? Also I did let him do his workout alone?

[HollyK21]

Sometimes you people in these “they keep watching me” situations genuinely seem to lack social awareness. You’re in a fully open space repeatedly looking at this man, you don’t think he ever sees you? Or are you just convinced yourself you’re so slick and incognito that you never ever get caught? Lol give me a break @Abbycado

[Abbycado]

He’s looking at her because she keeps creeping on him. Only natural.

[HollyK21]

Exactly! Yet they will comment all in their feelings, arguing that this is just impossible and the person in question absolutely IS staring and following. No other explanation and/or logic makes sense to them and I find that shamefully immature. He sees you seeing him, anon, that’s it and that’s all. If he happens to move around during his workout, you make it about yourself when in reality it’s likely not.

It’s a gym not a mall, the space isn’t that overly massive and it makes sense for him to switch exercises. Case closed🙏

[Asker]

@Abbycado actually I don’t Abby thank you I was locked into my gym session so saying that you are in the wrong girlfriend

[Abbycado]

If you are looking at him, how do you know he was watching you?

[Abbycado]

*Are not

[Asker]

Girl I go in and focus and just look to see what machines are open and he walks near me when I am there.

[Abbycado]

You said he is watching you. Your words. How do you know?

[Asker]

@Abbycado girl he kept walking around while I was doing my back muscles exercise

[Asker]

How do you know are you there cause I’m not I’m trying to figure it out seems like you make this way

[Asker]

Actually I focus on my workout and vibe and if you see it a different way then be it

[HollyK21]

See what I mean Abby? Nothing but getting defensive, arguing that there’s no possible way she’s wrong. Asker, you are not mature enough to accept anything other than being validated. Even when you’ve got people answering YOUR question, telling you it’s not what you think it is, you dont wanna hear it. It’s just so immature. Go write in your journal if all you want is a sounding board and not actual feedback.

[HollyK21]

You are NOT as slick as you think you are when it comes to watching this guy. I don’t care how absorbed with your workout you’re claiming to be, clearly your attention becomes divided when you can comfortably state that this guy keeps staring and following you.

[Asker]

I do listen like I said you aren’t there to witness it holly I do and I read and say my point of view. How about stop being a Karen

[Asker]

Girl please you have no idea I’m not defensive like I said you need to be there. I guess all attention is on me oh my lord get a grip and I’m very mature and I’m clocked into my workout routine and session.

[Asker]

Oh my oh my holly please get a grip. Abby saving is gonna help wow I listen and make a point but you say I bleep a lot and not listen look here next time don’t answer my question. Have a fabulous day honey

[Asker]

Girl you are wrong holly because i looked up to see what machine I was doing next and got caught glimpse of him staring and walking around as I moved to my next machine

[HollyK21]

Like I said — you lack social awareness (because you believe you’re fully incognito) and do not have the emotional maturity to have this sort conversation because it isn’t in direct agreement with what you believe is going on.

Question — if myself or anyone else needs to be present at that gym, witnessing all this transpire, in order to have an opinion, then why are you posting here? None of us on this site are around. You would NOT be saying all this if I’d commented like “oh yeah giiiirl it totally sounds like he’s following you! He must have a crush or something, there’s no denying that”. Would you then be like “well you weren’t there to witness it so you don’t know”. No you would not!

The moment you result to insulting people, calling them Karen’s and whatever other phrase you want to upset them with, then your argument is lost. In fact this shouldn’t even be an argument in the first place, it should be you having some sort of an open mind and asking us questions about our statements vs fighting them for it. That’s what someone who’s actually interested in understanding a situation would do. Instead you act like you’re being personally attacked and it’s fucking ridiculous.

[HollyK21]

“Girl you are wrong holly because i looked up to see what machine I was doing next and got caught glimpse of him staring and walking around as I moved to my next machine”

So each time you happen to look up, he’s just staring you down and hovering around you? Does he ever get to work out? I mean damn, the man has a whole gym membership just to wait around for you like some stalker and then follow you place to place. Get real.

[HollyK21]

Lastly — how the HELL would I know not to comment on your post? You’re anonymous!! Coward.

[Abbycado]

“caught a glimpse of him looking”

But she doesn’t look at him. What a fucking joke. Not surprised given it is an anon.

[HollyK21]

It makes zero sense Abby. Like I said, had we been commenting in full agreement she would have nothing bad to say. We wouldn’t have had to be present at the gym witnessing a damn thing, it would be valid in her eyes. Smh.

[Asker]

Actually he works out thank you

[Asker]

Hahah coward cracks me up

[Asker]

@Abbycado i do when I look up

[Asker]

Y’all are insecure I swear.

[Asker]

Nah I’m watching you bitch

[HollyK21]

You are crashing tf out🤣 and how come you can’t answer my question? I’ll rephrase it:

You claim that Abby and I don’t know what we are talking about because we are not at the gym to see when this happens. So why make this post if someone has to witness the interaction in order to have an opinion about it? Nobody on this site is around to see it.

Would you also say “well you weren’t there” if I were telling you he’s interested in you instead?

[Asker]

Ok I will answer when I looked up I saw him glance

[HollyK21]

That is answering Abby’s question. Re-read what I said above.

[Asker]

Why answer you need attention

[HollyK21]

So you have no answer and therefore look ignorant for your statement. Tough.

[Nikki1989]

Sounds like a typical gym pervert. This is why I only visit the gym during female-only hours.

[Asker]

He isn’t even like that

[Asker]

Nah nots not like that all trust me my gym would kick them out. None of the gym guys are like that there

[Anonymous]

He could be "floating" around you. It is something I did both consciously and subconsciously with a massive crush of mine who ate at the same time as me. The gym is a weird place for some guys to pursue women. Just try talking to him or something multiple times.

[Zionne]

that's interesting but they might seeing you some wrong forms lol

[Anonymous]

I guess it's possible.