I've tried dating a few girls. All were terrible experiences. Now I have a sour taste for women in general. Is this common for men? Why?

[Anonymous]

First girl used me for attention. That was a whole 'thing'. (over 1 year)

Second was using me as emotional support. I don't want to think about it. (3-4 months)

Third wanted attention constantly, she flipped out if I would say no to something like facetime or didn't respod to a text within 5 minutes, especially when I was busy. (Like 2-3 weeks)

So you can already see a trend of them being sorter and shorter, with the last one being about a month ago now.

I don't want to have this view, but the best way I can explain it is through the saying one bad apple ruins a bunch, but in this case several.

In case it makes a difference, here's some info. I'm straight and nearly 17. I don't know if I just don't know at this point if it's my fault like for example, maybe I'm aromantic or something and haven't figured that out?

Either way, It unfortunately has given me a sour taste for girls now and I'm not sure what I can do about it.

I don't know if it's on my end, if it's worth even trying again with someone else, or anything that could help relieve this 'trauma' for lack of better terms.

I don't know if this is common thing that happens to people either.

One last bit, my best friend keeps saying that I just had really bad experiences with girls and they aren't all like that, which I know is true, but still, it made me not even want to try any more after this stuff happened 3 different times.

Any response will help, thank you so much.

[Lord_Ateag]

It takes time to see how people work. Your best course of action, as a prior gentleman wisely said, is to see how you work and figure out what you want to do after high school. I think your best bet is to start working in an entry-level position and start saving money.

If you live with your parents, work something out with them. If you work and don't have to pay an obscene amount of money for rent, perfect. Just save your earnings and figure out whether you can afford to go to a trade school for something useful. It takes maybe up to one year to finish your course and become an apprentice.

Now you may be wondering what the fuck this has to do with dating. Like life, this comment isn't about dating. This is about setting yourself up to be around the kind of people you want to keep around. That includes women (ah, here it is). You're going to be busy. You're going to get used to it and learn to manage your down time. Don't waste it on people who don't respect it, because that means you don't respect it. When a girl sees you respect your time and expect others (including her) to respect it, that's attractive. If she DOES respect it, that's a good sign. Is it a good time to date and get serious with anyone? No. Not until you're out of school and have a solid foothold in your trade. I'm not saying to write these good ladies off. Keep in contact if your gut (not your dick) thinks she could be a good potential partner when you're ready. It's not rare to meet the right person along the way. Just don't create an instance of a 'right person, wrong time' scenario. That's how we waste the good ones.

If no one along the way seems promising, and you're done with trade school, go have some fun, but keep saving and building. If you keep building yourself a better spot, you're going to have access to higher quality women. You will always have room to improve. The second you think you've made it is the second you're open for life to slap you off your tower. Again, it's not about the women. It's about you. The reward is every lesson you learn along the way until you're dead, not your trophy wife. Godspeed, son.

[TruthBringer]

little bro, we all have gone through these girls and many of us didn't let it stop us from finding fulfilling relationships, afterall. Remember that especially at your age, that's literally what girls are all about. Getting their feefees validated. And frankly, at your age, trying to have a serious relationship is like trying to win the lottery. Almost impossible.

You said it yourself, one bad apple is ruining the rest. But it doesn't have to be this way. But I do believe you should focus on other areas on life other than dating.

There are two roads you can take:

1. Giving up entirely which is very unfulfilling and easy.

2. Take it as a motivation to learn more about female nature to use it to your advantage and become more successful with girls/women.

I took the second option and despite having dealt with lower quality women in the past, I used the newly fount knowledge to my advantage and managed to find me a wonderful girl whom I'm in a relationship with for years.

You keep falling for the wrong girls because your boundaries are too low. Once you start to get to know yourself, what you want and know your boundaries, you won't just allow any girl in your life. So if you're adamant in pursuing relationships at your age, then make sure to do proper research about female nature. The red pill is a good place to start which has helped me tremendously in my own love-life.

Send me a DM if want some links which I can share.

[Anonymous]

Bad experiences happen. Live, learn and move on. Don’t let them stop you

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to hear that you've had negative experiences with dating and that it has left you with a sour taste for women in general. It's understandable to feel this way after going through multiple bad experiences, and it's important to take the time to process your feelings and figure out what you want moving forward.

It's worth keeping in mind that not all women are the same, and that it's possible to have positive experiences with dating in the future. However, it's important to take the time to reflect on your own needs and boundaries, and to be mindful of red flags in future relationships.

It's also possible that you may benefit from taking a break from dating and focusing on yourself for a while. This can give you the time and space you need to process your feelings and figure out what you want in future relationships.

As for your friend's advice, it's true that not all women are the same and that it's possible to have positive experiences with dating. However, it's important to be mindful of your own needs and boundaries, and to take things at your own pace.

It's up to you to decide what you want moving forward. If you do decide to try dating again, take things slowly and be open-minded, but also be mindful of your own needs and boundaries. You deserve to be in a healthy, respectful relationship where you feel valued and respected.

[slatyb]

Just give it a rest. After you graduate high school your dating pool will expand considerably. What are your plans?

[shades777]

you win some you lose some, even more so when you date aimlessly

[Anonymous]

Unfortunate fact, they only get worse with age.

[Anonymous]

So you are only 17 and already failing at relationships. Sad!

[Lord_Ateag]

You're in your 30s or 40s, anonymously ripping on a kid for not succeeding in his first attempts at something. I hope you're not a parent, holy shit.

[Iron_Man]

Try church if not, try Christian mingle’s

[PhantomMenace22]

Christian mangoes are better lol 😂

[Iron_Man]

@PhantomMenace22 lol you always catch my typos

[PhantomMenace22]

Hahaha yeah 😂

[Iron_Man]

@PhantomMenace22 Good job

[LazerBean]

Just give up then.