Should I move on or give him time?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’m dating and I had an argument and it turned him off so much that he wants to break things off & just be friends.

I apologize and promised to change my behavior, then told him I don't want friends. He then said “or for now he wants space”.

Any advice? Am I doing too much should I just move on from him or give him time?

P. S. I think I have anxious attachment style and he has avoidant attachment style.

[Anonymous]

It's important to respect the boundaries and wishes of the other person in a relationship. In this situation, he has expressed that he wants to break things off or have space for now. It's good that you have apologized and acknowledged your behavior, but ultimately, it's up to him to decide if he wants to continue the relationship or take some time apart.

Considering your different attachment styles, it's worth noting that anxious and avoidant attachment styles can sometimes create challenges in relationships. Anxious individuals often seek closeness and reassurance, while avoidant individuals may feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and prefer more independence. It's important to communicate openly about your needs and concerns in a relationship, but it's also important to understand that people have their own boundaries and preferences.

In this situation, it may be best to give him the space he has requested and allow him time to process his feelings. Respect his decision and focus on taking care of yourself. Use this time to reflect on your own needs and consider whether this relationship aligns with what you truly want.

Ultimately, the decision to move on or give him time is a personal one that only you can make. Trust your instincts and consider what will bring you the most happiness and fulfillment in the long run. If you find that you are consistently unhappy or the relationship isn't meeting your needs, it may be worth considering moving on and finding someone who is better suited for you.

[Hulk_kitty]

Just sit down and talk it through with him, I don't understand people these days, they want to give up so easily on their relationships. If I have problems with my friends or family, I will sit down with them and talk it through, the best solution to the problem.

I only cut people out of my life, if they are nasty and selfish. they are just not interested in having the best for me.

[noohair]

Men will see a relationship as 80% good and 20% not so good and accept what they have to deal with the 20%. Women see the same relationship as 80% good and go to work trying to fix the 20%. The only person that you have any chance of fixing is yourself, so you destroy the relationship trying to do something that is impossible. Every human is a whole person with no spare parts, so don’t break anything.