Okay so to explain, I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months now and we recently made things “official” as in defined the relationship and agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend.
However, he has said a few times now that he doesn’t know if he is capable of a long term relationship nor does he know if he wants one.
We have awesome conversations, the sex is great, and we can spend hours on the phone together.
and before we became official he would ask me if I was seeing other guys, asked about my ex, and just showed an overall interest in me not being involved with anyone else
The problem is, I really like this guy and I don’t like that in his head, our relationship seems to have an “expiry date” (my words not his, since he said he doesn’t want long term I assume he expects this to end after a certain point).
so why even bother making things official if that’s the case.
Should I wait and enjoy the relationship for what it is or should I end things? I really, really don’t want to end things but I also don’t want to end up heartbroken and shattered.
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Don’t let your boyfriend stop you from meeting your husband, babe. When you’re dating, it’s important to not get so attached to a person that you allow them to become a hindrance to the life you actually want. Get attached to your standards, get attached to your boundaries and the vision you have for a relationship, marriage, and family. Staying attached to those things over individuals will make it infinitely easier to move on when you need to, like right now. If he’s basically prepping you for a heartbreak down the line, then leave. This step is hard, breakups suck, you know that. But it’s also important to know when to walk away from something that at one point you know will no longer serve you. Help your future self out a bit right now while you can, you’ll thank your present self later on.
Move on.