there are two options here...this guy is a player and has you trapped in his game OR he's being a gentlemen and being honest with you...
ok, here's why I think that...
number one (the player) - he travels a lot, goes to different states, NY to be exact, very often...who says he isn't doing the same to some girl while he's wherever you live?
number two (the gentlemen) - THIS IS MY PICK FYI...the reason I'm leading to believe he is a gentlemen is because well if you guys were in your younger 20's and this was happeneing id for sure say he's a player...but you guys are in your lower 30's...people usually try to find someone to be with, or want to be with or can see themselves with. On another note, he's telling you to see other ppl, does he want you to? no I doubt it, he's telling you that because NO ONE should put their lives on hold for anyone, which is why he's telling you that he wants to be fair...
now either this guys is a really good player and working his sh*t, or he truly cares about you and thinks about you often...
IMO I'd give him a shot, tell him how you feel, tell him the feeling and rush you get when your around him, ask him if he'd be OK taking things slow because you aren't used to someone traveling so often and it leaves you uneasey, not that you don't trust him it will just take some getting used to...
my father travels almost every week, he works at home when he can and is very faithful to my mother, so these things do work out, once he gets higher in his business travel will become less and he'll most likely be able to stay at home with you - esp with technology (webcams, digital meetings, etc)...but hey if he travels, at least you'll know you'll get to see him on weekends AND you'll be able to travel and stay places for free most of the time lol...i'd recommend taking things slow
btw to answer your question, if he wanted you jsut for sex, he'd sleep with you EVERY chance he get...sure being away form you is going to make him want you more, but by telling him you want to take things slow, this will really be the deciding factor if he wants you for JUST sex...doesnt seem that way to me tho
hope this helps! :)
good luck
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I'd say you're correct in your suspicions. Just think about this for a moment, how easy is it for a guy to do what he's doing? A few texts here or there is pretty easy to do with very little work on his part.
BTW oral sex is sex, there is no halfway classification, that's all BS so girls can feel better about themselves.
Here's what's going on.
This guy considers himself a nice guy. He likes to think that he doesn't mess with a woman's head. He thinks he's enlightened in some way. He looks down on guys who play with girls and he doesn't want to be that guy.
At the same time, he wants to have casual sex. He doesn't want to be in a relationship but he wants his primal urges to be satisfied.
This is where you come in. This guy is torn between "doing the right thing" and "doing you" basically. Half the time he doesn't want to screw you over so he encourages you to see other guys but the rest of the time he wants you sexually. He also doesn't want to see you get attached to him.
He's pretty much looking for a FWB. He's hoping you'll get the hint and start dating other people... while not completely closing off the possibility of sex with him.
What are the chances he actually wants to take things seriously? I'd give it about 10% or less.
Save your time and cut him loose fast. Chances are, you'll get odd text messages over the next few weeks asking to see you or something every time he has a weak moment. Either ignore them or reply back with "... you were right, it's not fair to either of us if we actually can't be together etc" and this will nudge him back to his place.
Good luck!
i think you should be with other guys,
and see what happens,
who knows? maybe u'll find someone who would be with you all the time, and say he loves you every day (I think guys should do that anyway :) )
u can always change your mind, after all, us women confuse men, lol
hope this helps sweetie xx
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I've been that guy lol...trust me he's probably got 6 other women just like you in other states he's bangin...while he texts you that, he texts a girl in NY the same sh*t...if the sex is good then give it to him, but if your looking for a relationship move on
That first guy was definitely using you -- under no circumstances see him again and if you know girl's he's dated, tell them what happened with you. (Just point them to your notes here.)
Because that guy is low.
The idea behind dating is to learn how to be honest with someone very important, to forgive, yes, but also to demonstrate real responsibility.
Which that fellow has no knowledge of.Never seeing him again.Think about his word "fair".
i think he likes you and missies you.
hopefully this will help you . continue to give updates.
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