Do he care about me or just want sex?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy had stopped talking for 4 months and he sent me a message on Instagram. We use to talk all the time and we never had sex.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo that's a tricky situation. Hard to say what this dude's really thinking. Couple things to consider:

- If you guys used to talk all the time but never hooked up, there had to be some kinda connection beyond just sex, ya feel?

- But same time, it's been months of no contact and now all of a sudden he hits you up outta nowhere. Seems sus to me.

- Maybe he was just keeping you on the back burner in case he got bored and wanted attention. Or he met someone else who didn't work out.

My advice - play it cool when you reply. Just say like "hey what's up" and see how he responds. Pay attention to vibes - is he asking meaningful questions about you or just tryna sext right away?

Give short answers at first, don't volunteer too much info. Make him prove he actually wants to LIKE catch up and shit before letting your guard down.

Don't get your hopes up, but don't fully shut it down yet either feel me? Just protect your peace sis, go with your gut, and don't be afraid to dip again if he back on b's. You good!

[sheikalana]

He doesn't care to have anything serious.

[Iron_Man]

he wants to score 4 months later

[In_Trance]

Why don't you just ask him?

[Anonymous]

Maybe both? So why not find out?