25 and single and I want a child before 30? Is it okay to have a child as a single woman?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Don't become a single mum. I am a single mum myself as my baby's dad abandoned us and it is extremely hard doing it on your own. With no help

I'm lucky if I get 2 hours of sleep a night. Sometimes I don't get any sleep at all. Sometimes I can't even have a shower because my baby most times won't sleep unless they are in my arms or because baby wants to fight their tiredness to stay awake.

It's also hard to eat as well when my baby wants to be held all of the time.

If you end up having a caesarian you will need help as you aren't supposed to lift anything heavy for 6 weeks among other things

even if you have a forceps birth you will also need help as well as you are bedridden for the first 1 to 2 days of your baby's life. I physically wasn't able to get up out of bed to change my baby's nappies for 2 days, i couldnt even get up to really feed her. I needed help from the midwives but even with their help there was only so much they themselves could do to help.

[dreamer123912]

My mum had me when she was 30 so you still have time. I would probably say aim to have kids at 28. This may sound crappy but work on your fitness/body a little and dress well in something that is comfortable and suits you. Guys want to marry someone that is at least moderately attractive. Match the effort that men make toward you. Seek guys older than you, preferably nice guys that will simp a bit but beware as f (k) boys can fake this.

25 is the peak age of attractiveness for women so I wouldn't panic just yet. Even though you don't feel you have time, act like you believe the opposite! Make guys wait for it and look for men that respect you.

As a guy I am just glad I don't have to deal with this although being a guy that wants a relationship is ridiculously hard af too.

This is my opinion, I would probably ask for advice from a woman in your life that is already married and you trust. Guys don't have to deal with fertility window so I am not in the best position to help.

[Asker]

Is it a good thing if I look younger than 25 tho? I’m a Latina woman and people tell me I look 20 all the time, I’m all natural, I don’t wear makeup, don’t drink, smoke or so drugs and never had surgery. My body type is average.

[dreamer123912]

Sure, that's fine too. All natural is great and nothing wrong with average body type! Just have confidence. Good luck and you'll be fine.

[lightbulb27]

if you are wealthy and have lots of support.

These days, life is expensive, it's hard to balance everything. I think it's crazy to do so single unless you like suffering and your child does as well.

[Asker]

I don’t plan on having a child right this second I mean in my late 20s once I have enough money and im ready and if I didn’t find anyone this is the plan.

[lightbulb27]

save like crazy, skimp, get out of debt, so you have freedom.

[Adam1978]

Why can't you get a man? If kid is what you want maybe it time to drop your demands and be nice to guys so you don't have to go through life alone.

[Asker]

Most have only wanted sex

[Asker]

I’m not picky with height or dick size I just have trouble where I am. The last guy I was with cheated on me but he was in the navy, that was a red flag already.

[Adam1978]

Maybe you are using the wrong waterhole or you forgot your friend zone.

[Asker]

I’m still trying it’s not like I gave up yet but I can’t force it either.. especially if these guys in this generation are like that. Back in the day it was better I wish I grew up back then.

[Asker]

I also got friend zoned recently and this was a guy who was probably an average guy in society.

[Adam1978]

Well maybe date older men, if you think that solves it.

[Asker]

I think that may have been the issue:( most guys I dated were younger like 19-22

[Adam1978]

Don't expect men to want kids until they are your age or older. They are still trying to find their place in life and don't want to be locked down. So they should have a steady job and live on their own.

[midnightmoon05]

Good advice Adam. 👍
Girly yiu still have time. Learn and grow a little more. There are good men who are more mature around 30ish.
19-22…25…before 30… most are still trying to figure out who they are…
Don’t become a single mom… then raise a kid to be a grown up kid.
Both men/women… have to learn to care for themselves and learn from some challenges.. and become financially stable, emotionally stable to raise a staple child.
Why are you so desperate to have a kid when you are still a kid.
My sister just had her first at 38.
I had my first at 33. We are all financially free… and have enough for the kids college and more… to help them buy their first home… but we won’t tell them that they are cover… they have to work and eat that.
Stop raising generations failures.

[jshm2]

No. Why the fuck do you want to give birth to your master?

[VikingWarLord]

Why not just date an older guy with money? It's really not that hard

[Anonymous]

As long as you're OK with remaining single.

[andreasderjuengere]

Sounds egoistic to me. No matter which age

[TheFlak38]

Single motherhood. The plague of our time.

[Asker]

From a biological standpoint of view you’re agreeing I don’t have much time either right?

[TheFlak38]

Purely from a biological point of view I would say yes. Time is always a bitch for women.

[Asker]

So I have to make it happen then..

[TheFlak38]

If you give birth to a boy he will become gay or trannie, junkie, communist. If you give birth to a girl she will become a repulsive feminist or a whore who will end up as a single mother herself. Those are the products of single motherhood in society.

[Asker]

My mom was a single mom to my half sister but she turned out just fine, my sister is now 44 and is a manager at her job, very kind and loving, healthy, has 3 children and her own home. That’s not all single mothers, sometimes they also come from broken homes remember and the dad is abusive or a drug addict, or alcoholic, or something. There are some great single mothers out there, surely it’s ideal to have two parent households but it doesn’t mean it’s picture perfect just because the kid has two parents.

[TheFlak38]

Yes the dad is an abusive asshole, alcoholic and the worst man possible yet the woman is the one who chose him because he made the area between her legs wet. Then she breaks up and asks where all the good men are. Also, tell me how many sorts of anti-depressants your sister takes.

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you