I really hate the fact that I'm a virgin at 30 years old. I'm not really blaming anyone but... here I am, I guess?

[Anonymous]

I'm a fairly smart dude (I'm about to finish grad school)... generally considered well adjusted... generally good with women. I"m told I'm fairly decent looking and I'm told I have fantastic social skills. A lot of women seem to think I'm a player though, so... I guess that's not such a good thing.

I just never really connected with anyone and I guess the years just got away from me. I had a few dating experiences in college and the years since, but it was mostly just getting used and lied to a lot by women.

I had a girlfriend once. That was a long distance thing though. She basically just used me for emotional reinforcement while she was out of the country and broke up right as she moved back. I used to be an angry and toxic person. I'm not sure how much women picked up on that, but I'm sure it wasn't helping in my relationships.

See, I'm one of those dudes that the whole sex thing just never really happened. The stars just never quite lined up for me. I'm not mad about it, I guess I'm just not sure what to do with that information.

I really spent a lot of time working on myself because I wanted to become a guy women would want to interact with. Going to therapy, becoming emotionally healthy and all that. I finally succeeded; I am a functioning, happy adult...

And now I look at around the women I have to choose from and I am not lovin' my choices. I've gone from not inspiring to not being inspired.

So here I am... at 30... holding my damn V-card and pretty uninspired.

[RespectfulGuy]

Let me be frank: sitting on your ass and ask questions like this on G@G won't get you a girl.

And from your details, I think you're a bit arrogant and overly self confident.

To get yourself a girl and lose your V Card, I have these suggestions:

• Get out and start talking to girls in public area. Don't appear desperate otherwise you'll be viewed as a freak.
• Join social classes like dancing, cycling, sculpting, public speaking or cooking. Yes, there are many girls there. And as classmates, they're more willing to talk to you.
• Join a church or help in some charity. You may even find virgin girls there.
• Earn $$. Trust me, it helps, especially you're the marrying type. It's not that girls are gold diggers (they exist), but that they too want stability and security if they planned to settle down and be homemakers.
• Learn to be courteous, gentlemanly, and less stingy. Yes, the days of being a bad guy is over. And girls your age want a husband and father to her kids. Not punks.

I think you can get your girl. Just be courageous and keep trying. You'll failed and be heartbroken many times. But it takes only one success to join the man's club. So go for it dude!

[Anonymous]

This sort of stuff only matters when the opposite gender is ego led. Think about it. If they were only interested in who you were as a person, being a virgin wouldn't matter. Thus within this predicament is an uncomfortable truth. Even the pink that says she finds nothing wrong with it isn't going as far as to say she's looking for one, attracted to one, or would be with a virgin. Therefore you simply need to go beyond the ego and find a woman who has done the same. This can only be done through God, scripture and on the path of ascension. When you look toward the 'modern' woman, all she is concerned with is the path of pleasure, instant gratification and how things look from the outside.

[Simslover92]

I find nothing wrong with you being a virgin at 30. I find it admirable infact that you are still one at your age. Not a lot of guys are.

[Anonymous]

I hate to say it, but you can only blame yourself.

[Asker]

Eh... the concept of blaming anyone hasn't ever really occurred to me. The situation to hookup and all that just never presented itself.

Sex is definitely not as easy for men to come by as women.

[Anonymous]

"See, I'm one of those dudes that the whole sex thing just never really happened." If you were waiting for some cute girl walk up to you and whisper in your ear that she wanted to fuck you 'til your balls fell off. . . that doesn't happen very often.

"The stars just never quite lined up for me." It's got NOTHING to do with the stars. YOU never made it happen for YOU.

I think I know what the problem is.

[Asker]

Oh I am well aware that I am part of the reason I am where I am in life.

[IHateBeingaMan]

ya reminds me how i view and look at social interactions between men and women from a different mindset now

[Anonymous]

Cases like this just anger and make me mad

[shades777]

Whats the question

[Asker]

There isn’t one. Just reflecting on my situation