My man told me he wouldn’t cheat on me because I’m out of his league. Is this reasoning a red flag?

[Hello4242]

I feel like it’s a red flag because there will always be beautiful people in this word, so that’s not a good reason to not cheat..

[kylee2437]

Hmmm well I mean a lot of women go for less league men because they are less willing to cheat than men that have a lot of options - so if you flip it that way, his reasoning would be logical. He knows he has someone that’s too good for him and if that stops him from cheating - then I’d say it’s a win

[Summeroflove]

If you feel deep down he won’t cheat. He shouldn’t cheat because cheating is wrong.

[teamvic]

Maybe he's saying he wouldn't cheat because you're out of his league and he's lucky to even have gotten with you, so cheating would be stupid.

Also you're right there will always be other fine ass women in the world but them wanting him is another thing.

[Hello4242]

What if another fine ass woman wanted him? Then his reason for not cheating would go out the window

[teamvic]

I think his point was he's appreciative and lucky to have gotten you. But if another fine ass women did want him, then well, does he have any indications of being a cheater? Do you trust him? If you don't trust him then maybe he would cheat, I mean why else would you not trust him? Unless it's all in your head and you're overthinking this who situation.

[Hello4242]

Maybe I am overthinking that, I probably am. It’s this one red flag I think is exacerbating it. He told me he didn’t have a FB when he actually did, and it’s mostly all just attractive woman. When I told him he did, he was like oh that one, ya I don’t have my password so I can’t get into it. I felt like that was suspicious and convenient to say. And I’ve since noticed that his friend count has gone up a couple times. I could be overthinking this one too, but he definitely could have lied to me. He told me that his past two relationships both cheated on him and he has never cheated, and I believe him. It’s really just the fb thing that has me wondering if I can trust him and what he says, and is maybe making me overthink other things.

[teamvic]

Hmmm here's what I say you do, just try not to overthink the situation for now, and yes I know you would've done that a while ago if you could. But I've learned sometimes overthinking isn't always overthinking. Now I'm not saying don't trust him and see him as a cheater. Cause he hasn't really given you and reasons to. For now it seems everything is fine, what I say you do is, from time to time check that Facebook account of his and keep track of the friends list to see if he's lying. Because I'm not sure but maybe when people on your friends list deactivate their profile it won't count as a friend and when they reactivate it it goes back up so let's say I had 10 friends, but one deactivates their profile, well now I got 9, but a week later they come back so now I'm back to 10, Giving the illusion that he's adding friends. I could very well be wrong but that's how it works for Instagram so. I dont know anyway just check it from time to time and make sure it ain't going up like crazy. And another thing. Most guys usually only add girls they find attractive so him having hella girls added isn't something out of the ordinary.

[Hello4242]

That’s what I was thinking too, that it could just be that people just deactivated and then reactivated their accounts (which would have had to happen twice) But, I looked into it, and what happens is they still stay a friend in your friends list, they’re just greyed out. I have a couple friends in my list still their but their accoun is deactivated. So, knowing that, I can’t think of another plausible reason. I was thinking just ride it out like you said and see if it keeps going up, but I’m not great at pretending everything’s fine when I feel I might have been lied to.

[Hello4242]

*there

[teamvic]

Well then if you want real results. And this may not be the best advice, but fuck it if you really wanna know get a friend that he don't know that you know and that also isn't your friend on Facebook and just have her Try to add him. Oh and she gotta be cute, but if he accepts well then that mu fucka is lying😆. Even if he denies the friend request that still means he had it and then you gotta figure out why he's lying about that🤔🤔 and I think I have an idea, but we will save that for another time

But just have someone add him and see what happens. And as I said it's not the most nobel thing to do but aye you want results or not🤔. But as I said in the beginning there's nothing to say he's cheating. If I had to give a yes or no I would say no. But that Facebook account is something you should keep a bookmark on juuuuussst to be sure

[teamvic]

I also just realized you're the same girl I commented on for this other post🤔😂

[Hello4242]

Genius! Why didn’t I think of that lol. If he does accept it, definitely breaking up with him.
What’s your idea?

[Hello4242]

Yep! Lol