Is it possible to love an insecure woman?

[Anonymous]

I’m a huge ball of insecurity. I always have been… I’ve been to different therapist and tried different things. It helps sometimes but I feel like it’s something that I just can’t shake. I have been diagnosed with body dismorphia disorder so it is a bit more intense

I feel like building relationships are hard. I push men away, I turn them off with my negative self talk “I’m so ugly” I want lots of plastic surgery in the near future. I just can’t accept myself. They find someone better anyway

Could a woman like me still find someone or should I just let dating go

[BoopBoopBeep]

You should work on your self-esteem and your insecurity issues. Is it possible to love you? Absolutely, but it's going to be taxing as hell just to be around you, so a great many people won't get far enough and it'll be an uphill battle to anyone that does for them to stick around when they are going to have to deal with that high maintenance behavior on a consistent basis. Would you want to be with someone with that attitude? Men feel the same way.

Everybody in the world is diagnosed with BDD now a days. Don't get caught using it as a crutch. You're better than that. I promise.

[RingOfFire]

Of course you can find someone. There are people with far worse problems who have found their mates. If you find the right person they are patient and supportive and can help you deal with your problems far better than you can deal with them alone.

And don't think that other people don't have their own demons too. Everyone does. Some are more hidden than others. One of the best parts of a relationship is when you can help each other overcome them. I wouldn't even want to meet the perfect woman. What fun would that be?

[Staximus]

No guy wants a plastic surgery disaster or a Debbie downer. You don't need to fix your body, you need to fix your fucked up self image. Forget about all that plastic surgery bullshit and learn how to find inner peace and accept yourself first before you worry about finding a guy.

[magiusX26]

if it wasn't, then only about 10,000 women would have ever dated in the history of mankind.

[art84]

Negative self talk would definitely turn me off. Especially if you believe those things about yourself. Try positive self talk or writing things about yourself you like. You have to love yourself if it's possible.

[DextroShade]

You can so long as you don't let your issues make you treat men badly. My wife has had similar issues but it wasn't a deal-breaker. Just don't be fat, don't be a hoe, and don't be a bitch.

[Asker]

I don’t treat men badly ig but men have said that I’m angry. I say hurtful things to them out of anger

[FilmGuy93]

The real question is whether the insecure woman lets you love her.

[Asker]

True and that’s the hardest hardest part for me. I can’t. I don’t even know what love is if it was right in front of me

[FilmGuy93]

Unfortunately, I've known a few women in your position.

It's always a sad thing to watch =(

[Asker]

Why is it sad?

[FilmGuy93]

You don't think it would be sad to watch as someone's self doubt actively prevented her from being able to accept love into her life?

[Asker]

Yeah ig. I didn’t realize it would be considered sad

[Berethor]

Being weak and insecure is feminine, but having a body dysmorphic disorder is extreme.

[mommymommymommy]

Not really

[In_Trance]

I guess

[Anonymous]

Not me.