Yesterday my boyfriend told me that all guys, no matter how loyal, look at other girls and called me insecure when I got upset?

[Anonymous]

Is he right and am I just insecure or should I dump him?

[richardcory]

Depends on what "look" means. Most people notice attractive people and in some cases their eyes may linger on them. Harmless and normal IF that is all that is going on. If he tries to talk to them, etc, that's different.

Most people learn to look with their eyes, not their head, so its less obvious

[Anonymous]

He is being honest. Why allow something like this to bother you. Do you want to know something, the relationships that last the longest are those who don't get jealous and can accept the fact that their man or woman is going to look at the opposite sex.

It's life and if you can't accept it, then it's best you stay single forever because you won't ever meet a guy who won't ever look at another girl even while he is in a relationship or married

[Sasha0426]

I’m guessing you ogled other men in front of your husband in a a disrespectful way.

[Asker]

I replied this to someone else but:
I suppose…just makes me sad because since we started dating I feel like no other guy is even worth looking at, he’s genuinely the most beautiful guy in the world to me…it just makes me kind of sad he doesn’t feel the same but I suppose man and woman are very different. Is there any way to help overcome this feeling? Should I start enjoying looking at other men?

[Sasha0426]

@Asker Do it! Your boyfriend wouldn’t mind.

[Opinion Owner]

@Sasha0426 go away. How the f is it being disrespectful if 2 people in a relationship can openly talk about looking at other people and we can even sit there talking about how beautiful another girl is or how I think the other guy is cute. I'm not a jealous type and I personally don't give a f if my man looks at another woman because at the end of the day as long as he is loyal and honest that's all that matters to me. All the other crap regarding checking people out is ridiculous and stupid

[Sasha0426]

Hey, as long as it’s just admiring their beauty and that’s it 🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

@Sasha0426 haha he actually does get a little upset the few times I’ve joked about finding another guy attractive (he jokes about other girls all the time) but he never seems upset for more than a few minutes so I suppose you’re right lol

[Sasha0426]

@Asker If he can do it, so can you. If he says anything, remind him what he has said.

[Quackthulu2]

If you are going to get offended every time the person you are dating admires somebody else’s beauty you probably shouldn’t be dating anyone in the first place.

[Asker]

I suppose…just makes me sad because since we started dating I feel like no other guy is even worth looking at, he’s genuinely the most beautiful guy in the world to me…it just makes me kind of sad he doesn’t feel the same but I suppose man and woman are very different

[Quackthulu2]

It’s not healthy to idolize the people you date.

[Anonymous]

He's right. But there's a fldifference between looking and having actual interest. If you're with the right guy and if he feels loved and truly values you. He doesn't really want another woman because he knows regardless of how she might look. He cannot find all that makes up his current partner in her.

[AviatorTom]

He's right. Guys look at girls... nothing wrong with just looking.

I'm willing to bet you look at guys... nothing wrong with that.

[Iron_Man]

This is a double edged sword answer people always look at somebody that’s walking in front of them. Doesn’t mean they’re going to react and get her phone number?

[MementoMori777]

I second this

[Asker]

When I got upset, he also asked me “well don’t you look at guys?” And I mentioned that I don’t, not any more than a passing glance just like everyone else and he said it was the same for him unless the girl had a “nice ass” and then “even the most loyal guys look” and called me really insecure when I got upset

[Iron_Man]

Thanks

[Iron_Man]

You guys are gonna have to straighten that out on your own

[Iron_Man]

But that is disrespectful

[Asker]

He’s extremely blunt and so that’s what I’m blaming it on but he says stuff like that often and I can’t tell if it’s his personality anymore or if he just doesn’t care about me, especially since I’ve expressed on more than a few occasions he can be a very hurtful person. But thanks for the answer!

[Iron_Man]

That’s disrespectful if he makes sexy comments about other women

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah we all look. I have an extensive art collection at home. I still go to the museum. Doesn't mean I'm trying to steal a piece there.

[VikingWarLord]

Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.

Prepare to be mind blown

[Sparkie460]

Yes guys do look at other women. I'm sure women look at guys too. It's ok and perfectly normal as long as they don't touch

[mommymommymommy]

I mean, i think women think that when a guy gets with her, that all the other girls on the planet go away. LMAO

[Sasha0426]

There’s a difference between admiring someone’s beauty and putting that person on the back burner. A lot of women are afraid of their man leaving them for not looking hot enough for him to stay.

[mommymommymommy]

@Sasha0426 What im saying is, i think they think that once a guy gets with a girl, every other woman on the planet, vanishes, like, as if they're the only two left. when that's simply not true

[Abdulwahh]

He should try not looking at other women infront of you sometimes your eyes just fall on someone maybe your eyes fall on another man as long as both don't cheat.

[dudeinohio]

He is correct. It doesn't mean he wants to cheat. It's entertainment, like watching TV

[Sasha0426]

Start looking at other guys. He wouldn’t mind.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Guys look, but decent guys don't go beyond that.

[msc545]

Your boyfriend is right - all men do this.