Guys, Do guys really hate insecure girls?

[Anonymous]

So me and a guy were flirting, then he did something so I kinda wrote "sad", long text messages with questions. I later apologized and he told me it was fine. IRL he acts normal and shows interest. He's the one that talks to me first and teases me etc. but he doesn't talk much through text.

Next time I see him I'm planning to tell him that I'm not a crazy girl who get's annoyed and types long messages. I was just insecure and wanted to know what I had done wrong. (I don't see him as much anymore because he had to switch schools just recently. Before, I saw him every day. And before he left our school he felt a bit off. I don't know.) I'll wait a month from now before I even contact him. He even forgot his headphones at school and a few other stuff so I'm going to tell him I'll bring it to him. Hopefully he wants to see me then. But that's in a month... Need to keep distance... haha.

Will he get completely turned off if I tell him that I'm insecure and thought I had done something wrong and blamed myself.. That's why I wrote long messages? Because I've never been like that before. I don't know why I was doing it. It won't happen again because I'm not like that and I'm ashamed. Is it ok for me to confess that?

He's kinda shy and he's said things to me that make it seem that he's also a bit insecure... He's said he used to talk to girls before because he wanted some kind of confirmation from them etc. But sometimes people turn down people although they don't realize they're the same so... yeah.

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I should might add that when we met I was shy and uncomfortable, and he told me it was okay. He told me he felt the same... So maybe he doesn't have a problem with me being insecure? I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Don't wait a month. If you want to date tell him. Women always tend to read all kinds of negative interpretations into men's behavior that simply are not there. Men really are not that complicated. All you have to do is listen to what he says. I don't know how your generaton is, but I personally hate long conversations through text messages, and most of the men in my circle, even the younger ones, feel the same. We find our women are always searching our words and body language for some deeper meaning that simpy isn't there, and texting only increases the likelyhood of a misunderstanding. When I'm speaking to my wife I'm succinct and direct. she didn't get it at first, but over the years she's come to appreciate it, and now takes what I say at face value.

[RamyDarwishEG]

I would not hate her , i would solve her insecurity problem by any means , problem is , i'm insecure myself and ALL women hate insecure guys , so , closed circle :D :D

[Anonymous]

you should see how women hate insecure men. next level stuff!

[Asker]

Personally, I wouldn't ditch a guy because he was insecure. I give people a chance. I know girls who have dated insecure guys so...

[Opinion Owner]

maybe there are exceptions to every rule. well, i'd date an insecure girl depending on three things. the severity of the insecurity and if it is a deterrent for a healthy relationship, the roots of the insecurity and if they are somewhat rational, and other virtues the girl might have that overshadow this aspect of their character. overclinginess, overjealousy, and obsesive compulsive behaviior are turn offs i admit.

[Opinion Owner]

als know that this type of character it might be founded on some since-birth inclinations and perculiarities of the person, at a 95% it is a choice. the person can choose, and is able to choose to change that to a degree.

[Sam19XX]

I just avoid them/.