My boyfriend cheated and refuses to admit it?

[Anonymous]

A few people, including the girl he cheated with, told me he had hooked up with someone once a few months into dating. This was almost 5 months ago, and about 4 since I found out. He refuses to admit it and calls them liars, even after the girl sent me messages from that night in which she told her friend that she “doesn’t care he has a gf” and was planning on hooking up with him that night but he claimed he blacked out and so it was nonconsensual, which he claimed a few days after that night. I believed him, but when I saw his deleted messages ( he doesn’t know I looked at these) I saw messages from one of his friends telling him “once a cheater always a cheater” and referenced that night, since he was there. I stayed, choosing to pretend to believe him. How do I get past this, how do I get him to own up to what he did? Or should I just leave him as soon as possible? Can this be saved at all?

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+1 y

I’m choosing to finally leave him…I just don’t know how. Since writing this post, he’s been acting strange and I wrote it off as him getting a new job and being a lot busier than usual but so many little things just don’t add up and I just don’t trust him at all anymore. I could add a million details, but I won’t. How do I leave him? He’s my first everything, first love, first rs, first kiss, first time, heck the first guy I’ve held hands with so I’m attached horribly. Any advice would be app.

[MementoMori777]

Just leave him, for your own good tbh, he will just see you are okay with it and he will never change, he will keep cheating while you keep your loyalty to him, leave him and find a man that will return that loyalty to you, scraping the bottom of the barrel with this one missy.

[Anemone978]

If you know he cheated you can just dump him... or just get everyone who knows about the cheating who was there and has proof to all meet up then bring him there like a date. LOL confront him like the bitch he is.. he would probably leave all upset.. saying you set him up. I doubt even then he would admit to it even with proof in his face cuz guys like that are clowns.

[Anonymous]

Oh my goodness if he has already denied cheating do you really think he will actually own up to it. The answer is no.

Sorry for being a bitch I'm just sick and tired of all these people like yourself who choose to stay with a cheater and then you come here crying about it days, weeks even months later.

[Anonymous]

If you know for sure then you leave. Simple as that. If you stay don’t be crying when he does it again. This is why a lot of men do what they do cause women take them back after they’ve cheated numerous times or dumped them for another chick then came back. Leave!

[Emelina]

Dump the dude, he is wasting your time and effort to keep this relationship going. The trust has been broken and once it's done he will never change... a lie is a terrible thing to do in a relationship. Hope you make the right decision. Cheers

[EmmaMary]

Hopefully it won't be too much longer before you wake and realise what a complete and utter idiot you've been in wasting your precious time with this pathetic lowlife.

[Nikki1989]

Dump him, move on and stop wasting your time with this creep.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Why engross yourself into that level of drama? Even if all these other bitches are lying, that's still a lot of red flags!