Walking and talking, going to a park. The whole fun is talking with him. I'd love to explore the man I fell in lust with. So much adrenaline.
I find eating out together cringy. So cafes and restaurants are a no for me. (Plus I HATE coffee)
Real answer: avoid the cliche (inactive activities) like fancy restaurant or movie for first couple dates. We see people as couples go out to restaurants and movies all the time but it’s probably not their first date lol and these are great options for the first date because there is less bonding and interaction. What are you gonna do play footsie’s? I think great first dates are best with maybe 2-3 small objectives that you both may enjoy. Like roller skating and ice cream or park walk with small picnic and wine. Trampoline park and quick pizza. The bowling alley with the arcade inside. Definitely if you’re are the person initiating and asking about the date, then have a couple of these activities in mind with a back up plan. Like if she don’t like ice cream, take her for water, ice. Avoid the bar scene or night club, you don’t want to set yourself up and be around drunken idiots, or even have to yell at the music is too loud. They have to be relatively fun and worth it for the both of you and not extremely lengthy or costly events. As a guy, I am expecting and willing to pay, being a guy and all, we get it but, it’s not about the spending of the money. Unless really no know her well and she’s already your best friend, No new girl is worth taking out to a fancy restaurant it’s on the first date and if so, then she’s probably not the kind of girl I want to have around if she expects some thing like that on the first date. I would even say if you’re paying over 80 bucks on this first date you’re going in way too much and haven’t included yourself in as much. You guys are going out to meet and have a great time with each other and that’s it.
“I remember the last time a girl took me out to a fancy restaurant on my first date and paid” said, no guy ever! Anything that includes an activity like or some real brief fun in the mix!
(Brace your self)
Sad truth about the psychology of guys:Deep down, guys are lazy af and would be super down if the girl they fancy asked to “chill” at the dudes house. For real if the girl I desire texts me right now and she’s down to come over and hang out I’m not gonna say no. But my take on that style would have me questioning and go crazy in my head.
Because it never happens like that I believe I wouldn’t trust it fully if I received a text like that as that seems to good to be true. Understanding that some girls are rarely down for that, no girl that I ever had a crush on has had the nerve to text me and say “hey, I want to chill at ur house.” And I still would badly want to but, that’s too easy. I would be confused and it sounds so out of character that I may be paranoid to think does she just “chills” with other guys.
I feel that other guys would be even more down than I am to chill directly at the house right away if it were that easy. Guys don’t want to work if they don’t need to and that just how they are with are with women generally. I’m personally not looking for a quick hook up so for me that would kind of turn me off, but everybody’s different I still think most dudes would be down to chill instead of date.
I definitely think a date is most appropriate; I would never ask a woman to “chill“, what are we smoking a blunt?
It used to be a long walk in nature. Or a slow drive to nowhere in particular just to have time to talk and connect.
Movies and meals come later.
I used to live near a lake in England. I'd take a girl I liked up there for an evening walk. It was in a natural depression of Dartmoor so the hills blocked a lot of light pollution so after the sun went down the stars were more spectacular.
Only got a second date from one girl I took there. Also she was the only one I ever asked for a second date.
Grabing dinner at the mall and then walking around and getting to know each other or hanging at the beach.
A nice meal and live music. Talking later.
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You nailed it right on the head! The walk and talk are always the best! No coffee, no watching them eat or awkward pauses waiting for the food to arrive. The walk has so much flexibility and in my experiences made every aspect way more comfortable :)
Or watching them talk while chewing lol
And deciding who's gonna pay!
Or even arguing lol
Anyways that topic kills the mood
Real men pay for the dates they ask a woman out on, they don't argue about it. smh
@loveslongnails real women cook
@loveslongnails Nah real men don't involve pay on dates outside of paying attention.
Yes because real women want his attention not money.
Irrelevant to the point, as usual. It's a date, not an invite to dinner. Duh.
WTF does that mean? Real men pay for the date when they are the one who asked the woman to go on it. Anything less is says to the woman " I'm a cheap ass motherfucker".
@loveslongnails
How is this irrelevant? You say how REAL men should act but avoid giving any opinion on how REAL women should act. I wonder if you are the type of femininsts who think men should respect women but women don't have to respect men or men should pay for dates, provide and protect women but women shouldn't even cook or clean the house, etc.
So what do real women do?
Let's say I ask a woman out on a date for lunch. She says "only if you let me pay for myself". I say "never mind".
Let's say I ask a woman out on a date for lunch. She says "I'd love that" and we make arrangements. After the meal, she offers to contribute to the bill and blabs on about how she didn't
expect me to pay for everything and doesn't want me to think she's disrespectful or assumes I "should" pay for everything. I say, thank you for the offer, but I didn't think that, and it's my pleasure. If she makes a really big deal about it, there's likely no second date.
But here's the kicker. Like it or not, I've already paid for the bill with the restaurant before we even arrived, thus avoiding the whole thing. No check will arrive at the table. If she questions it, I just say "everything's taken care of". All she needs to do is say "thank you", or "thank you, I wasn't expecting that or assuming that", and then drop it !
That, in my humble opinion, is what a real man should do, AND what a real woman should do. At least, for me, that's my kind of real woman. A woman going off about the meager cost of the meal, or your "principles" on date #1, is not the woman for me. If she had a great time and she asks ME out on a second date and wants to buy, I'd probably let her.
@loveslongnails
If on your first date she says she INSISTS she wants to pay what would you do?
If a woman asks for splitting she is a real woman. If a man asks for splitting he is not a real man. Is this what you believe?
Ok, y'all need to find a separate place besides on my answer to argue this out! Quit blowing up my notifications! Like if dude actually gave an answer just reply there.
If on your first date she says she INSISTS she wants to pay what would you do? --- As I explained, that won't happen because it's already paid for. What is she going to do, throw money at me? If she makes a scene about it, I just say good bye.
If a woman asks for splitting she is a real woman... That's not what I said, is it?
f a man asks for splitting he is not a real man. Is this what you believe? - Try and understand this once and for all and stop asking the same question 10 different ways ,,,,,
Yes, if the MAN asked the WOMAN on the FIRST DATE, he should EXPECT to pay for the whole thing!! Geeeeeeezzzzz !!!
If a man asks a woman on the FIRST DATE and at the end of it ASKS HER to " please split the check", or sheepishly accepts money from her, he's a freaking loser in my book, and you can have him and anyone like him.
Ok, you got that now?
@loveslongnails calm down. Getting dramatic over this is pathetic. I only wanted to clarify what a real woman is to you.
"that won't happen because it's already paid for."
How would you know what she wanted to order?
You didn't say if a woman insists to pay for herself is a real woman or not.
"I only wanted to clarify what a real woman is to you." - I've done this with you time and again in previous posts about "who should pay!" My position is clear.
"that won't happen because it's already paid for." How would you know what she wanted to order?
LOL It doesn't matter what she orders. I've given my credit card to the servers, it's been swiped and they've been instructed to add a tip (we do that in the USA) to whatever the bill comes to. Whatever she orders is irrelevant.
You didn't say if a woman insists to pay for herself is a real woman or not... On the first date that I asked her out on, TOO MUCH insistence is awkward and uncalled for, and what shape will that take? When it's time to go, she'll ask " where's the check, I want to pay for myself?" I'll say "already taken care of, thank you". How much more will she persist? If she turns it into a scene, that's NOT very womanly. A real woman would graciously accept and "bank it" for some other time, presuming there's going to be one. If not, just accept it.
@loveslongnails Quit replying on my answer! If you want to keep typing your long ass essay arguments to this chick, than post as an answer. She is the asker of this question ya know.
Hey... this isn't YOUR answer. LOL it's part of a thread, that hopefully she gets now. Deal with it and quit whining.
@loveslongnails I'm not whining you cuck, I'm telling you to answer the question in your own thread and get the fuck off this one. by the way it is my answer. Go walk it off somewhere else.
@loveslongnails
"I've done this with you time and again in previous posts about "who should pay!" My position is clear. Try and understand this once and for all and stop asking the same question 10 different ways ,,,,,"
Boy, just a little reminder that I'be never invited you to answer my 10 questions about paying for the dates. It has ALWAYS been your ass inviting yourself to my 10 questiond about paying for the dates. You can't complain about me making the same question when you are the one WILLFULLY leaving your opinion on each of those 10 questions.
Imagine a bad situation when ypur plans don't go the way you wanted. Before you go to the restaurant you gave your credit card but she offers to go to a different restaurant. What would you do?
"You didn't say if a woman insists to pay for herself is a real woman or not... On the first date that I asked her out on, TOO MUCH insistence is awkward and uncalled for, and what shape will that take?"
TOO MUCH insistence is two sided. If she INSISTED TOO MUCH then you INSISTED TOO MUCH TOO.
You don't own the thread you dolt. LOL It's an open forum. Mute the question if it bothers you. Neither I nor Marish apparently give a shit about your little misplaced ego. Although we're done now, so you too can screw off.
@loveslongnails You are the dateless retard that jumped on here with your pussywhipped bullshit and still won't shut the fuck up! I'm not muting a goddamn thing, so take your stupid replies and go fuck yourself!
You're irrelevant. I hope you know that. LOL
@loveslongnails Only if you think so.. Now get your weak ass back to paying for drinks and dinner.
gladly, with a gorgeous, smart woman, like a real man should. And you can save your post, I'm done dealing with your stupidity. You're a waste of my time, thank you Mr. Block button.
@loveslongnails a gorgeous smart woman who gets fucked by other men. And you as a real man are proud of her holes being banged by others' dicks.
You as a real man worship other men's dicks.
@marish01 Correct. That loser talks shit than blocks because he's a cuck! Women don't respect him let alone be around unless cash is involved.
He is not happy that "his" woman gets banged by other men but he has no choice lol
Bowling and pizza. Plenty of opportunities to talk and get to know each other, plus then I could see how she handles losing or winning at games which will help me determine if we could be compatible for long term. It would also give me the opportunity to see if sd he would pay for either the food or the activity (bowling), or to see if she is a typical greedy selfish woman that sees men as an atm.
I prefer doing the walk and talk thing or sitting beside a waterway and chatting. It is all about getting to know the person.
I don't want to be interrupted by servers, food, etc. at a restaurant or coffee shop. Eating together comes later on when you know you have a connection.
A first date is for a single purpose:
Do I actually like you ENOUGH to want a second date and beyond?
I prefer to keep it simple and cheap. Meet at a coffee shop or get an ice cream. Make it someplace public enough for both of you to feel safe and comfortable, yet private enough to have a real conversation.
I one time had an awesome first date. My father went to Florida for a couple of weeks and I was house sitting for him. I invited this girl I had just met to have dinner with me. it was winter but my father had a setup in his fireplace so we could have a cookout indoors. I bought a couple of steaks and made baked potatoes, We had ice cream with strawberries for dessert. She must have been impressed because I asked her on a second date and she agreed.
All women ever want to do is talk, talk, talk. My ideal is something more active than walking and chatting. Any kind of activity for me is better than the long walk on the beach! Unlike the poster, I want to have some food with the girl so I can see how she conducts herself around a meal. That tells me a lot about her without all the chatter. There will be no argument about who is paying. If I asked her out, I'm paying. If she offers, that's nice, but when I say no, she should accept it.
I love talking 😊
Anything is an ideal date as long they both have fun.
And as long as I'm not part of it.
Lol didn't
Expect the last part
Zoo for walking and talking, thats If I don't know her already and I'm trying to figure out if she is worth getting to know further.
If it was a girl I knew long term already, probably cook her dinner or something.
We went to Pelican Hill Resort and had a light dinner and walked along the ocean
I would like to show you America. :) I will give you a tour.
After reading some of your comments and discussions, I think that my ideal first date would be to serve you for an evening, goddess.
So you don't expect the man to spend lots of money on you, that sounds good to me. :)
Lots?
I don't want him to spend a penny on me.
It's cheap. If he feels masculine for buying it then he can buy it
Agree - except getting food somewhere good but not fancy can be nice too
Or ice cream
100% agree on ice cream. That way you even get to find out if they are vanilla ;-)
I come over and help move boxes and eat pizza and watch a movie on cushions because her furniture has not been delivered yet.
Like a park park as opposed to an amusement park? Yeah that could be fun. Eating together can be bonding. 2 Million BC instincts kick in
Going someplace quiet so we can chat and get to know each other.
The simplest thing. A walk, some food, time to get to know each other.
oh that's simple, we have a ton of sex and go to sleep, and we wake up and i make her breakfast and we spend all day out together doing something fun. then we come home and have sex and cook dinner
repeat until one of us dies of old age
Having fun, laughing and finding some things in common to bring us closer, and some chemical attraction.
Sharing a few laughs, having fun and getting to know each other in a relaxed place or atmosphere
Anything where we can get to know each other, yet allows for a simple exit if we end up loathing each other.
I thought I was the only one who hates coffee
My ideal first date is going clubbing, dancing, the back to my house for a great night of fucking and cumming.
I understand, It can be a bit cringey eating in front of someone.
I'm open to any kind of date though because I have never been on one.
Miniature golf, or the observatory is always fun and inexpensive.
Swimming pool, can't trust no girl anymore with mask on their face🤡
Going to a bookstore, a movie or a restaurant or some combination of the three.
I agree!
Walks are better👌🏻
I don't waste time in dating..
Only simps do dating...
What do you waste your time on then?
In making money & getting more richer every fucking day. ✌️
In your dreams?
Cunt what you called rich is my daily routine business... stfu 😘
A man who uses someone elses picture could very easily lie about being rich
You're free to think whatever you want I'm rich I know idgaf to you 😘
@bros26 Watch your language. You're talking to a lady there.
@Jamie05rhs not English for sure
Poor girj 😂😂😂
Pizza, games, netflix, something simple and chill
Wine and small plates if any food at all.
together in bed
Chill at the park.
Eat shit fuck
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