What is your ideal first date?

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For me my ideal first date is going somewhere to get some food and then taking a walk. Honestly, I don't think you should go all out on the first date.

bowenw · Accepted Answer

For me a lot would depend on how well I knew the person before the first date. If we had been work colleagues and/or friends for a long time before it may be a fancy dinner so we could talk. If it was with someone I had just met, something more active/fun may be best so there isn't a lot of pressure as we are probably both nervous, for example going to a sporting event or a movie followed by grabbing a bite at a casual restaurant, or maybe a coffee house with entertainment. A walk afterwards would always be nice.

Cubus · Accepted Answer

Romantic dinner in a restaurant

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For me, going all out would mean going away together for a long weekend, like the mountains or a three-four day cruise. A decent first date means meeting at a nice restaurant

Seasons 52, my "go to" location for a first date

because it offers consistently good food and good service, the atmosphere is nice, and it is quit enough to have enjoyable conversation. Also, it shows me how a lady conducts herself in such a setting. Finally, it has a nice lounge area and if the date is going well and I don't want it to end too early, after dinner I suggest that we move into the lounge area for an after dinner drink. It is certainly nice but not "over the top!"

If the date does not go well, then it concludes after about an hour and we go our separate ways.

Rosexøxø · Answer

OMG- totally unrealistic, but:

Going to a museum during the early part of the day.🏺In the afternoon-to-evening, go to the beach. 🏖 At night going to some sort of performance: ideally a concert symphony. 🎻 Later at night, a gas station run, and Netflix and chill. Later, LATER at night 🤣 a bath or just cuddle in bed.

(I get it’s a lot, but I mean, I don’t expect my date and I to be “high school standard.” If we date, we’d probably be pretty serious. It’s not realistic because things still can go wrong and it could still end up overall, incompatible for the both of us).

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think a mall is good for a first date with somebody because you can end the date in 5 minutes after coffee or keep it going for 4 hours by visiting stores, bars, make up stores, movie theatres. I did a lot of window shopping with my last boyfriend. We would only buy 1 item a month or two but would spend hours wondering the mall together and talking.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

The ideal date is one with an ideal connection to an ideal person 😂 it doesn’t matter what we are doing, as long as we’re having fun getting to know each other. It could as simple as playing pool or even going grocery shopping and running errands together.

I like to teach, so some really fun dates have been oriented around stuff like that. I once taught a girl I liked how to drive stick shift and it was a great experience. For her, she gained a new skill, and learned I am patient and kind, and wanted to boost her up to gain a level and leave with the confidence and good vibes of feeling accomplished. Another date I offered to show her some wrestling moves from jiujitsu. That was fun because we were in close body contact, and it wasn’t too long until we were wrestling around the rest of the weekend with our clothes off 😆 .

I also like showing a date some part of nature I like, a hike or take them sea kayaking or paddle boarding during a full moon. A museum or art gallery, or making some food at home. I like to be active rather than sitting at a restaurant, and the worst for me is a venue where we aren’t even interacting, like watching a movie. A girlfriend of mine once said “a movie is what you do with someone you don’t want to talk to. You just sit there ignoring each other for an hour and a half.” And that stuck with me.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

First date, I would suggest something local like a restaurant or if the weather is nice, maybe grab a beavertail and go for a walk by the waterfront.

If she and I know each other, but it is our first date, I love getting dressed-up and heading to the city for a concert or the theatre. Grab some sushi and go to the show afterwards.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

We could almost do whatever, first date is just about to learn about the other person and see if there's chemistry and potential for something.
So nothing fancy.
Usually I chose to take a walk in a park or something low key like that.
It's ideal if I feel the chemistry and we have good conversation, maybe some laughs and a feeling of wanting to see each other again after and such.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

To me, an ideal first date would be meeting at a coffee house, or maybe a decent restaurant for lunch. I agree that one shouldn't go all out on a first date and most women wouldn't be comfortable with that anyway.

Most women who I meet are "outdoors" type people anyway, so a good second date might be a short hike somewhere.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Walks, food trucks, talking, stealing kisses, holding hands, sitting on park benches hugging; all during the fall cool evenings with shorter days; where you both can keep each other warm. Hopefully with the aroma of an oak burning fireplace in the air.

melanieeeB · Answer

A great conversation and connection. I don't care much about the external circumstances, more about his behavior, demeanor and mindset

shades777 · Answer

A solid first date is focused on getting to know her and just seeing if you can vibe.
For example do you laugh together, are you two more into we and not you and I.

If I can spend less than 20 bucks and she is still happily with me I know she's more into than what I can spend on her. Which is a very good sign she isn't trying to use up my resources.

A solid first date also avoids all common red flags.

Stoner710 · Answer

Where I use to live Olive Garden and a walk on the point defiance Shoreline. (hopefully you will not be raining.). Where I live now probably a good hike on the Columbia basin. There’s not many dating spots around here.

Simslover92 · Answer

For me it's going to an arcade and playing some games together. Followed by dinner at a nice restaurant which is what I did on my first date with my boyfriend.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Anything that's not going to their house or sitting in their car. Ideal is walking and getting snacks from anywhere that looks interesting.

Texasgal95 · Answer

I don’t really care as long as starting care was put into it it don’t matter to me and once we’ve been dating a while it doesn’t matter I just want to spend time with them

NathanDavis · Answer

talk, talk, talk... some snacks, and then some more talking and some fun... never ever liked the idea of sitting to eat at a place full of strangers, lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

Good food, good music and conversation.

Mark987 · Answer

First date would be at a restaurant.. maybe a few drinks first to ease the situation. Depending how the dinner goes and we are both into each other.. I would maybe go for drinks after. Maybe hit up a cafe, or even a Hookah lounge.

xLyndseeyx · Answer

Walking the city and going somewhere to eat or snacking on something. A good coffee, bubble tea or maybe an alcoholic bevarage of your choice. I'd be okay going out to dinner on the second/third date.

scooogy · Answer

My ideal first date is about not asking for money, not asking if I wanted kids, not carrying another guy's baby around, not being brought around by the ex, not talking about exes, not asking anything sexual.

Likes2drive · Answer

And I like to actually walk and talk on the boardwalk and maybe get something at the restaurant for dinner depending on when we get there that is if it’s nice weather

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

My dates pretty much end with sex and her waking up because she still has to work for a living.  You fucking wage slaves... get to work. 😂

Ecologygirl76 · Answer

This is a really common question but for me, I base this entirely on the other person and what we decide we wanna get into.

Andres77 · Answer

Background check, have a friend follow us, lunch and a movie and end it during daylight in public. Take it from there

JustBeingReal727 · Answer

Being able to walk and express myself go out to eat without being accused of yelling just for simply having a deep voice. Start out as friends and work my up the ladder.

exitseven · Answer

I took my future wife out in my little boat to go fishing. When she got all insulted when I asked her if she wanted me to bait her hook I knew she was a keeper.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Glass of wine or coffee. Super casual, low pressure on both peeps

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Just having a normal day out, walking and talking, maybe grabbing something small to eat. It'd have a casual feel to it.

Akam93 · Answer

Dinner date so we can talk and learn about each other.

Surely · Answer

My best first dates were never really planned. Just meet up somewhere and let it go from there.

Iron_Man · Answer

Anything a walk on the beach dinner restaurant and a movie sightseeing

Vegasrunner · Answer

Coffee Dates are the only acceptable first date.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Same as you or buying something to eat, sit somewhere and enjoy a beautiful view while talking...

PointTaken · Answer

To have fun and enjoy each other. That should be for all dates.

SunnyRS · Answer

Anything under the starry night and some peace would work for me.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd love to have the luxury of having time, money, and things to do But I don't, and never will

sheikalana · Answer

Anything involving either food or drinks. Somewhere quite where we can both get to know each other.

justabuddy · Answer

Someplace simple usually. That way if it doesn't work out, it's no big deal.

Anonymous · Answer

The Georgia Tech Volleyball team takes me back to their hotel. A raucous good time is had by all. And the next week they all let me know that they are pregnant.

Avicenna · Answer

Outdoor activities

TheFlak38 · Answer

A night with you?

serious · Answer

There won't be one.

Anonymous · Answer

Blue blond hair guy with lots of money who can show me the world

Z1pTD · Answer

Anything outdoors :)

itsalyssaagain · Answer

That sounds perfect to me too.

Heue72 · Answer

May be a some talking and a cup of tea!

riverrat3 · Answer

Something that requires us to talk

In_Trance · Answer

Amusement Parks

CoolCatsims24 · Answer

I don't have one.

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