Guys, as a guy in late 20s early 30, how would get a date if you've never had one?

[Anonymous]

The scenario is that you've moved across country for work. No family, some recently found friends, relatively tiny area.~300,000 in a 1 hour radius.

The one thing I ask is that bars, clubs, classes, and volunteering is not included. I don't really prefer, nor really get along with the bars and clubs scene people. Classes I've already done in the form of college and martial arts. Volunteering was my primary way of getting to interact with people. The only people that go are highschoolers, older people, or couples looking for something to do.

[EricSummer]

I suggest you try classes in pair dancing, for example Argentinian tango. This is better than martial arts for meeting women.

Personally, I also like language-learning events. You practice a language, but you also chat.

You mean you are an absolute beginner also in sex? There I would consider an initiation with a skilled professional who knows this situation. This can build your confidence and makes it easier to attract women.

[lightbulb27]

it's hard at that age. I'd keep going to places, you meet people everywhere... church, singles clubs, dances, walking, biking, out shopping, grocery store. start a cooking club. more opportunities means more chances. you have to always be on your best, available, and ready to take action and take the 100 rejections to get 1 yes or maybe.

[Adam1978]

I wouldn't start with dating, I would start building a network of contacts in the area, and perhaps that work leads to a date. Don't jump in on the deep end without knowing your new area.

[Chthou95]

Gonna be hard to try and date in your 20's. You should wait til your 30 because it is easier assuming you've done the work and created value in yourself and being someone that women will notice

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yeah because everyone wears a shirt with a list of all their accomplishments on the front AND back. Some even get a gold star!! That's how you know a man is high value, if he has the gold star

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm so sick of hearing this stupid word "value" thrown around like it means something. Women like good, caring, attractive men. Plain and simple

[Chthou95]

@WanderingLoveWizard Oh im sure they do. That's why there's so many men that are invisible who are good people who also take care of responsibilities

[WanderingLoveWizard]

They're invisible because they're ugly

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Can't conveniently leave the attractive part out

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm just starting shit man lol. I actually don't disagree with your comment

[Chthou95]

@WanderingLoveWizard Alrighty

[Hellraiser1984]

Just give up unless you look like a model, rich and are a complete as$hole that's all they want. Fuc* it!

[zagor]

Try Meetup groups and hiking clubs. Going camping with a group can be fun.

[BarryLiverstone]

By continuing to add friends and going out to events

[Actor3]

Kept asking women (or men if you are gay) until one or more says yes

[slatyb]

Online.