If you've never had a date, going on thirty. How would you fix that?

[Anonymous]

You've gone to school, have a couple friends circles (no, none are interested), enough money to spend on activities/hobbies, physically fit compared to the average, high esteem in most regards except dating (absolutely rock bottom).

[Guy13]

Try slow progression to date and maybe friends first and "I know somebody." That's what happened to me at www.meetup.com Sports and Hobbies via your zip code. Real live people at places and events.

[Asker]

Tried it for quite a while now for over a year. I have 3 friend groups going with women. All taken or only friends.

[Drumlin2001]

I was a 35yr old virgin. Never had relationship. Maybe a handful of dates but never went anywhere, had never done anything physical, not even a kiss.
6 years on, I had a failed relationship with woman I lost everything to, and am now engaged with 2 small kids.
I had reached a point in life i needed to talk a lot of things through with a shrink. Just vocalising things helped me. I was fortunate that I had made a previous objection which had fizzled out. I reconnected and things went from there. I just had to be entirely honest and fortunately she was a good woman who helped me. Online dating sites let you contact a lot of people, just got to work the numbers, make connections and slowly build something, and be honest when it's appropriate. Dumping too much too early will scare off some people.

[OddBeMe]

Assumptions coming…but I imagine your experience just being around women is limited. Having female friends, etc will give you everything you need. Basically: get comfortable talking to them. Enjoy talking to them. Stop seeing them as just sexual objects (we all do that).

[exitseven]

I would be trying to figure out why. Find some female friends and ask them what is wrong with you. I had a female friend that I could talk to about everything. She really helped me a lot.

[Adam1978]

I would ask someone out. Sure some may say no but eventually you will get a yes. Problem solved.

[Asker]

Break it down a bit more

[Adam1978]

Why the problem is really with your goal. Going on a date shouldn't be a goal. It's a means to reach a goal otherwise you would be fine with a dine and dash. Most men can get dates, they just don't get the end means ie a good family or sex. Whichever it is you are going for.

[Asker]

How do you get a date I mean.

[Adam1978]

You get to know a girl and ask her out. Or use a dating app and ask them out there.

[Heolurt]

I gave up trying, was tired of spending money on different things to try and get 1 date, just 1 in my entire lifetime that's all I wanted but instead was constantly told how ugly I am in the rejections.

[Anonymous]

I actually would just give up. It really sucks but unfortunately you are way behind things. Thier isn't much of a chance to learn all the steps that you should have learned in the last 10-15 years.

[slatyb]

I would meet some women and ask them out.

[Asker]

Break it down a bit more

[slatyb]

Ok, I would look online, possibly nationwide as I can live anywhere, and also ask my friends if they knew anyone local.

[IHateBeingaMan]

seems to be on the rise

[In_Trance]

Go on dates

[Flight0]

Buy sex.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't.