Should I expect my boyfriend to text me goodmorning?

[Anonymous]

I get upset or bothered bc my boyfriend doesn’t text me good morning. Should your boyfriend do this or does it not really matter?

[provokeesmokee]

Not if you haven't asked him to, or otherwise established a precedent.

What's he supposed to do? Read your mind? Remember: men are kinda dense and benefit from explicit instructions.

Like kinda derpy dogs. Lots of redirection and positive reinforcement.

Start by texting him good morning a week in a row. Make sure you follow up with conversation otherwise it's kinda just meh versus being exciting to hear from you.

See if he texts you a bit more, and thank him for texting you. If he's doing it more often, mention you like the frequency.

If he's still struggling with the concept, go blunt. Tell him you like hearing from him, and getting regular good morning texts with him initiating once in a while (if that's what you want) makes you happy.

If he doesn't get that hint, he's beyond helping or he doesn't care what you say.

[BoobSlayer]

Yeah, I'll send you some explicit instructions: 🖕🖕

[marrk]

yes! Also, check out Shelby Sacco’s Sad to Savage podcast where she talks about habits. You could teach him that his cue is his alarm in the a. m. and his habit is texting good morning and the reward is a happy girlfriend (as above poster mentioned, thank him, tell him how much you appreciate it, and engage with him in something interesting).
He could even set a separate alarm on his phone if he’s really struggling.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have 560 good morning message notifications from my ex back from the time when we were long distance. I now wonder, what was he doing the other 200 days?

Haha, just kidding, I indeed have 560 good morning messages from him while long distance but I am not that psycho to get upset for the other few days when he didn’t.

I guess it would be nothing if he messaged, but you don’t have to be too bothered if he doesn’t.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i’d be okay skipping some but when the majority of the days were not being said, that irks me

[Adam_Badry]

I think that really depends,
Maybe he just doesn't want to be heavy on you, and depends if he have something like a job or something that makes him busy,
(In the end he sure working on himself to improve your happy future hopefully together:) )
And maybe he just doesn't want to, and that's fine because each one show his love in a different way, ...
Surely if you like that to happen ask him nicely in love about it lol :)

[Justaguyagain]

If he didn't do that before, and you didn't told him to do it, i don't know why do you expect that to happen

[lolasmayona]

I personally don’t like that kind of boyfriend.
I want someone who isn’t available and has a life. He has important things to focus on and isn’t thinking about texting a girl “good morning!” Very childish

[sage2021]

You shouldn't expect something like that.
If he wants to call and say good morning then that's fine. But never EXPECT things from people.
You sound like someone that is from the GEN Z (or X) generation because you sound like you have that entitlement attitude they have. They expect everyone to give them everything.
You are from the worst generation yet.

[Simslover92]

If that's what you want then talk to him about it. I'm sure he wouldn't mind doing that. He probably doesn't know it upsets you so and doesn't think anything of it.

[dynamicyandere]

Yeah, I doubt he is intentionally not doing this gesture. It’s probably just something he’s not used to doing because he shows love in different ways. But if OP communicates their desire for this, I’m sure they’ll be open to start. 🙂

[Simslover92]

Yeah I definitely agree 🙂

[e232bm]

I think if it’s important to you and you have asked then yes he should be doing it.


Also, who gets up first? If you are up before him maybe you should text him good morning sometimes. Guys also appreciate that.

[rafaklabae]

Good morning texts are fine I guess. But not everyone thinks like that. It's cute from the guy you like but you can't expect him to always send you these texts. Maybe it's not necessary his thing to send those. I don't know

[DizzyDesii]

Good morning and good night are pretty important in my opinion. I’m not big on texting, but I NEED to see/hear those

[mikan_galena]

Expect? No.
But if it’s something you’d like to implement, then let him know. Whoever wakes up first messages good morning

[Paris13]

Yes. It is Only Right when a Couple. xxoo

[Beatrix7]

yeah if he talks to u before the afternoon yeah me abd my ex done it all the time

[shades777]

better if your the one saying it because a man comes off as needy if he does that, early good mornings is for girls

[justabuddy]

Maybe let him know that you like that kind of stuff. Men make poor mind readers.

[Truthatanycost]

How often do you text him 'Good Morning'?

[itsalyssaagain]

It’s the little things…

[NotTacocaT6969]

Did you tell him that you want good morning texts?

[ArwenCalcifur]

@NotTacocaT6969 would you ever feel bad if you never got those?

[NotTacocaT6969]

If I never told him I wanted them, no, I wouldn’t even notice.

[ArwenCalcifur]

Oh okay! I just know some people get really offended if you don't show them constant appreciation, or give them endless interactions.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Those people are mentally ill.

[ArwenCalcifur]

I suppose so! haha
Mind answering some of the questions I posted? If not its okay! Just looking for new friends and stuff.

[In_Trance]

Not unless you've told him you want this to happen

[humanearth]

What he can't call

[Ironic_Method]

No. Why do you need that?

[serious_miss419]

It’s just a text, move on.

[imfreeze95]

No but it would be a nice gesture on his part

[dudeinohio]

I always do it.