What’s better? A meaningful relationship or casual?

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I think casual is better because it’s easier and there’s no expectations of any kind. You can just fuck and go. That’s it.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I always preferred an exclusive, boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in which we were infatuated and couldn't get enough of each other.

I didn't call it love because love is way deeper than infatuation and requires total trust and commitment. When I loved someone, it meant that I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with them. And I only planned to do that once in my life. So I wasn't in a rush to jump into that kind of commitment. I had to be 100% sure.

I never wanted kids, either. So I wasn't motivated to hurry up and get married and start a family at an early age.

I liked doing guy stuff with my bros. But I also wanted a pretty, female best friend to hang out, go places and do things with. To hold hands, walk with our arms around each other, laugh, chat, confide, kiss, cuddle, hunger for each other's bodies, and revel in sex. I think women are delightful.

Sex with someone like that is better. We get to know what each other likes. We trust each other enough to try things. She knows I won't hurt her. We want to take each other to euphoric heights. And again, we can't get enough of each other. We can spend days and nights together, live at each other's places, and engage in sex all the time. But we don't have the commitment or responsibilities of marriage.

I had those kinds of relationships from the age of 16. I finally did get married when I was 42. My wife and I have been happily married now for almost 26 years. We've had a lot of amazing experiences and fun over the years, and we've built a wonderful life together. We're best friends, companions and partners for life. At this point, my life would be empty without her.

Keyboardkat · Accepted Answer

I really hate to burst your balloon, but if sex is a part of your "casual relationship," it's NOT CASUAL anymore!
Sex is supposed to MEAN SOMETHING! Don't you get it? Even a kiss is supposed to mean something. You don't dispense them like pretzels! If you are sharing your most intimate self with another person, I don't see how it's possible for you to treat it like a throwaway nothing! If you are able to do that, then I would say your are emotionally damaged! It's not supposed to be that way!

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I think it would depend on your priorities in life. Some people want to have a family (marriage and babies and a companion for hopefully life). If it is just a casual thing, some people think that if something bad were to happen to you, they would not have someone there? But yeah, if you like casual (to where the other person could date and have sex with other people or form bonds with them and you would not care), then I guess all the more power? Also, what if you get attatched to that person but like it's only casual for them? Maybe they drop you because you got cancer or they found someone they liked more. But yeah, I guess it would depend on how strong you are. Just tryi to make sure you don't have any children with them because that would probably be harder on you. You will see this person more than necessary. Also, yeah, some people romanticizing things. They want someone to grow old with like their parents traditionally had it.

Loveydove · Accepted Answer

Definitely meaningful. I know people just want to ask you put it “fuck and go” but I think there is a real beauty in being with someone who not just understands your body but your mind and soul. Someone who cares for you deeply. Someone who wants to take their time with you, make love to you. Fall asleep together. Someone who doesn’t just see you as a means to an end but values you and all you are. Casual can be “better” in terms of easiness if you aren’t the type to fall in love easily. A no strings attached kind of person. In terms of what it offers you in comparison to a meaningful relationship it pales.

A meaningful relationship can include sex and all the other great things. It is work however and takes two. Some don’t want that… that’s their choice

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’m not a stray dog to just fuck and go. I gotta have some connection with that other person.

ohsheeT · Answer

I like both it kind depends on timing
I love the thought and the moment of a meaningful relationship because I love the connection

Depending who you are in a a casual relationship more like a friends with benefits can also be the same a meaningful and beautiful at the same time. Your both just always going different directions and in some ways more intense and hotter and even deeper

EmyyWolf · Answer

People still cheat in meaningful relationships LMAO 🤣  People still cheat in marriages LMAO 🤣  I choose casual dating people you know and trust. F-W-B. Situationship.

Emelina · Answer

I used to like the casual and it was so much work, and one day I said no more. A meaningful relationship is better for me now, no more hassle and demanding, just one men to love and cherish for long term. ❤️

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Sadly, I can’t have casual relationships, I am too sensitive for that.  I would easily develop feelings.  So, I’d rather have a relationship with someone who wants the same thing.

Vikkrram · Answer

You know it really depends seen people who started as casually but as time passed it devloped in meaningful and people had expectations.

EricSummer · Answer

For me, love and sex belong together and I will not settle for anything less. First we need to have an emotional connection already before having sex.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

As you've said, casual if people don't have the time or schedule. Or a relationship if people want emotions rather than just actions. 👍🏻😀

RingOfFire · Answer

Oh you poor thing. Sounds like you've never had the meaningful kind or your perspective would almost certainly be different. I'm also hearing some undertones of sour grapes. Am I wrong?

sheenagwapa · Answer

meaningful because my body is a temple of the holy dpirit and i feel that if i don't do hedonistic lifestyle i am not comitting sins

UnknownSwede · Answer

Casual things is something I've definitely grown out of a long time ago. I couldn't care for someone like that and give myself to then if it wasn't serious.

Minahh · Answer

A relationship. I'm looking for something meaningful. Although that's like looking for a unicorn these days. I have to admit that I've considered being a professional dominatrix to at least experience some fun.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Whatever you do, don't listen to EmyyWolf. She's a trainwreck. You'll never get anywhere by following her advice.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm of the view now that having a regular casual friends with benefits is better as there's no unrealistic expectations, unnecessary drama is avoided and you can simply enjoy fucking each other and have fun 😉

itsalyssaagain · Answer

It depends on what stage you’re at in life. I’ve enjoyed both at different points in my life.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know about that, but there's nothing worse than a casual relationship disguised as a meaningful one. So in that sense you're right

magiusX26 · Answer

at this point, neither. being single, peaceful, and less drama is best.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

What is better is dog ownership. They are always happy and bring you peace.

dudeinohio · Answer

Im relationship oriented. I need someone who. will be there for me

In_Trance · Answer

how can you think that way if you've never been in one?

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