A guy asked me out on a date yesterday but hasn’t planned anything?

[Anonymous]

So he asked me to meet up with him and I said are you asking me on a date? Which he said he have no problem with that what do I think? And I said I’d like that.

So today he’s working and said we would meet up in the evening and I said what do you want to do and he said it was up to me and I told him I’m really bad at picking stuff and he said it’s fine we can have a think closer to the time.

He’s been leaving my messages on read all day and replying an hour later with short replies I feel so crap as I was looking forward to the date but it’s getting late and I just feel crap as he’s making me feel like he’s not interested

[California_Poppy]

To me he just sounds like an indecisive guy. He's probably thought of a few ideas already but isn't sure what to do. He wants you to share some ideas so he can pick a date that won't disappoint you.

Tbh, being with someone like this is just exhausting. If you are looking for more of a traditional male that will take lead and properly court you- this guy ain't it. Guys like this will never be assertive and you will always question where you stand with them.

My man doesn't ask me where we are going, he tells me, and that's much more attractive to me

If you want to go on the date, I'd just throw an idea out there, and go. But if I were you, I'd question whether you want to be the one making all the moves in your (potential) relationship.

Also, he's just working and he can't text that much. That's pretty normal in my opinion

[Asker]

He text me late today saying have I decided on what i wanted I wanted to do later and I just said can we do it another time as I’m just down as tbh I like a guy to plan a date not me and I understand if he was working but he opened my texts and wouldn’t reply till an hour or so later when I said about meeting up another time he was fine with it I just don’t feel he’s interested

[California_Poppy]

Even from that information, it still seems like to me that he's just a passive guy (people pleaser).

But I don't blame you for not wanting that. I wouldn't either. You're so young and there's lots of guys out there. Don't worry.

But again, with the texting, I've definitely worked at places where it's not acceptable to be on your phone that much or you're just too busy to text -- You might be able to read an incoming text, but only be able to send quick and short replies when you get the opportunity to, which may only be every few hours.
If I were you, I just wouldn't be so quick to write that off as a lack of interest.

Best of luck to you.

[JeffersonA]

Not a date and not interested in planning things.

Kinda sounds like a boring guy not worth it.

Just wanted to be with you more I guess.

Kinda sad cause you wanted a wonderful experience

[Asker]

Why say he wanted to meet up I don’t get that if he won’t plan anything and isn’t interested and I am sad I’ve payed on my bed all day feeling crap