Why hasn’t he asked me out yet?

[Audiofox]

A male coworker who is about five years older than me keeps showing signs he’s attracted to me but not making a move.
In the past he’s been very insistent about driving me home, even at union meetings outside of work. He’s shown up at three in the morning (I work night shifts) with coffee and donuts. He brought a joint to work for us to smoke when our shift was over. If I mention other men’s names in conversations he will repeat the name with scorn in the tone.

The biggest tip off to me, though, is the eye contact. It’s intense and lasts longer than typical eye contact. It’s as if he’s trying to send me a message.

Yet, he never actually does. No messaging, never asked me for number and never asked me out. How should I handle this?

[plate]

You should ask him out. There’s nothing wrong with the girl making the first move. It seems like he really likes you, he probably just doesn’t know if you’re into him or not.

[Vikkrram]

Coz he doesn't know that if you likes him or not coz no one can't know the feelings of urs till you would express it

[chicosuave]

well this is mostly aimed at men and we dont want to get fired for asking a girl out when a girl rejects us. Its really awkward after we get rejected. Pretty much we are trying not to shit where we eat. So its best if you make the first move like ask for his number and give him a suggestion on when he might take you out for coffee or walk around the park. good luck.

[Anonymous]

The question that immediately comes to my mind is... why haven't you asked him out yet? He's probably wondering the same thing. It's not 1950 anymore.

[Pohjolan]

Maybe he doesn't want to get in trouble with HR?

[In_Trance]

Don't fuck your coworkers. Never turns out the way you think it will

[jayhams]

You can make a move you know