Finding someone who is attracted to you, and that you're attracted to, is underrated in terms of how difficult it is?

[Anonymous]

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[Katierose]

I understand your question. I’m the same. Obviously when people are looking for a partner they are going for looks first, they don’t know them so attraction is something they observe first, personality comes later and determines whether or not that person is suitable for you long term. It can be difficult though to find someone you’re attracted to and vice versa. For me I can find a guy attractive but not interested to date or engage in sexual relations. So yes it can be difficult because you need to find that person you click with and have a connection with and are also attracted to - romantically and sexually. I don’t know if I’m making sense, but I agree with you. It can be difficult but it’s not impossible.

[hahahmm]

If you mean for serious, nah. More like people are often looking in the wrong places or for the wrong thing. An example I gave in another post was if you want a car and you think it's about the numbers then you could go to a junkyard with a million cars in it... but none of them are driveable. You're wasting your time. Likewise a lot of people are wasting time looking in places full of broken people who are experts in failed relationships. People who are experts at having fun, being disloyal, fake and so on. It's not going to work.

Look in the right place and it's very easy. And the less you are consciously looking the easier it is too so it's more about being in the right place than actively looking, I think. If you're the right person for them and they're right for you then you will be drawn to each other. I met my wife because we had a shared hobby we met over. Nobody was looking for anything.

[J2ohhhhh]

Please say you didn't climb a bloody mountain

[hahahmm]

@J2ohhhhh You mean the hobby thing? No. Nothing like that.

[asphaltrhymes]

It's probably also more just people are at different wavelengths at the time or they just don't really think that hard. Or they just aren't looking and that's just how things continue rolling on.
I'd say it's both overrated and underrated. It's overrated that it's easy to pick up chicks or for chicks to pick up guys, vice versa, whatever.
And I'm sure it's underrated that it's a too hard effort. Lol. I mean, hello, dating apps, friends of friends of friends circles. Lol.
It's a big world out there and that's just one's own town or city 🏙️🌆 lol 😆

[SaRang21]

As a person who has gone through endless one sided love, either from my side or the other person's side, I must say that it is very difficult for me to find someone I am attracted to and also attracted to me. When I have a crush on someone, they aren't interested in me, or either they are already seeing someone else, or people show interest in me, but I don't wanna be with them, and so far, my love life sucks.

[Anonymous]

So much yes! I CAN'T be attracted to a woman I don't care how attractive she is unless I feel ut's at least somewhat mutual. And women are very fickle when it comes to attraction. They're attracted one moment, and not the next. They seldom give guys clear indication of anything. Which is why so many women get hit on by guys they don't want hitting on them vs. The ones they do. Because they discourage most men from trying. And that just leaves the guys who hit on anything wearing a skirt.😆😆😆

But anymore I don't even worry about it. At this age most women know if they want a man they're going to have to pursue him. After 40 the rules flip. And the women that don't adapt remain single.

[Kaamraj]

It has become very difficult from men because of social media and dating apps are giving women the perception of choice. You are playing in a field where the rules are made to benefit only women. So more and more men are becoming lonely and checking out. Women on the other hand are having all the fun, but there is an expiry date on that also.

[Typhon_]

it's fairly easy to find a person that feels romantic affection to me, same goes for me, which I despise even tho I know it's instinct, that's why I advise everyone to follow their rational and think more than twice because romantic feelings can always sway you.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Many women are attracted to me, but actually getting them interested is a whole other story.
You'd be amazed how many women just want to look at the water, but have no intention of jumping in

[Nikki1989]

If you are going to base everything on looks, you are bound to fail.

[Asker]

I am new to the dating game. So you feel if you don't base everything around that, then it's easy?

[Yannishka]

It's difficult for sure. Dating is no fun.

[FunkyMonkee]

BULLSHIT!!

[Asker]

Explain?

[FunkyMonkee]

It's VERY hard to find someone you're attracted to and is attracted to you! I've been attracted to dozens of girls and hardly any at all are attracted to me!! Especially not single girls!!