Well... I am 23 yo and I have dated nobody, I was the kind of kid that was romantic, I still am. The case is that I dont feel atraction to girls that im not in love to or I try but I feel tired of it, I dont know how to get rid of this kind of mind state... When I have been in love with two girls in both of them it wasn't reciprocate. One liked me as a friend and the other just gave me signs of not being atracted to me even when we got along well.
Well I think im just going late, I want to change my mindset, it seems that falling in love is not an option anymore because its rare and I won't be waiting for it until Im 40. How do I get rid of this mental state that I feel tired trying to aproach girls who I dont have emotional atraction? How I work in that? Or even better, how can I become atractive? Its very sad to know that no one has ever felt nothing towards you than friendship, its very sad. I started hiting the gym a year ago, i feel more confident about my body and I want to keep working on it but I have lack of personality I think... I want to change myself and try to live my youth. I want to feel loved for one time. Being romantic haven't brought me nothing more than loneliness. I dont feel atractive or nothing like that and its killing me inside... Having all my friends with girlfriends and boyfriends or just not being virgins makes me feel terrible and feel like I've wasted my youth...
Any sugestions guys and girls?
I know that maybe there is a post talking about this but I really want to interact with you and have feedback...
Well I think im just going late, I want to change my mindset, it seems that falling in love is not an option anymore because its rare and I won't be waiting for it until Im 40. How do I get rid of this mental state that I feel tired trying to aproach girls who I dont have emotional atraction? How I work in that? Or even better, how can I become atractive? Its very sad to know that no one has ever felt nothing towards you than friendship, its very sad. I started hiting the gym a year ago, i feel more confident about my body and I want to keep working on it but I have lack of personality I think... I want to change myself and try to live my youth. I want to feel loved for one time. Being romantic haven't brought me nothing more than loneliness. I dont feel atractive or nothing like that and its killing me inside... Having all my friends with girlfriends and boyfriends or just not being virgins makes me feel terrible and feel like I've wasted my youth...
Any sugestions guys and girls?
I know that maybe there is a post talking about this but I really want to interact with you and have feedback...
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I mean, demisexuality (feeling attraction only to those you have an emotional bond with) is a valid sexuality.
It isn't a mindset to get rid of, it's just the way you love. And that's a wonderful thing.
Casual, random, throw away romance isn't for everyone, nor should it be.
The key is doing everything you can to build as many of these good friends as you can, and focusing on buildng them with people you'd be interested in feeling attraction to.
It sounds like you already know how to make those friends, so keep doing that. Keep going. Keep trying.
I dated someone who recently turned 39. For reasons unrelated to age or her character (she's wonderful) it just wasn't a fit between us.
It's okay to embrace who you are. You'll have better luck finding love if you do.
I just dont want to feel alone... I really want to change because I feel miserable being the way I am... I just want to feel happy and It has been so much time since all my friends started dating and I haven't even given a f kiss that is not related to a drink game. Im not happy the way I am and I dont think I should feel ok about it...
but DON'T, only go to the ones/ person you feel attracted to, unless your goal is companion for loneliness
Why? I am already alone. I feel miserable and like I said Im wasting my youth being the way I am.
about loneliness i said, get a companion but that differed from relationship. relationship is for when you feel attracted as above.
Ok srry and how do I change my mind set? As I told I have it very difficult to feel like energetic towards seeking someone that i dont feel emotionally atached
I had a dating anxiety, after break up, I still felt anxiety, what I did was facing my fears and dated just for fun and just to face my fears. I think I overcame that anxiety.
I am also demisexual , my sexual attraction is depended on my feelings.
I can't even date for fun... I mean, I tried using apps and that stuff but i really think they are not made for me since first you have to have a match for it.
I haven't dated someone never and I think that even if I try it with any girl I see in the street I would get 1 of a 1000... I dont feel atractive and all this romantic thing has just destroyed me inside... I really dont know what to do or even from where start...
Srry if I sound rude Im just very frustrated...