If men are better cooks, then why are women expected to cook?

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I’ve heard this a lot and if it’s true then why do women need to cook? If that’s the case, I want my future partner to cook every single day where I don’t have to. I can’t believe I wasted my whole life learning to cook if I’m bad at it and men were the ones who are better.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Most women I know are better cooks then I am. Sure I know some men who are really good cooks but not that many of them compared to the women I know who are better.

Also learning how to cook is never wasted time that's a life skill everyone should learn man or woman like cleaning and how to do maintenance on basic things around your house. Or on your vehicle like changing oil or putting antifreeze in your vehicle, changing a tire etc.

Also just because some of the best cooks in the world happen to be men doesn't say anything regarding the general population those men who are some of the best cooks in the world aren't as good as they are because they're men but rather because they strove to be the best in their field.

Men like women occupy both extreme ends of the spectrum being some of the best cooks in the world and some of the worst cooks in the world just like anyone else in literally everything in the world.

The notion of your question is silly, lots of people are better at doing things you know how to do that doesn't mean you shouldn't learn or know how to do something. That sounds like an excuse to just be lazy or ignorant to me.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Damn, this is a good question. It's true I'm a hell of a cook, and your question raises a good point too. But I think the expectation for women to cook is largely based in situations where the woman is maybe a stay-at-home wife. Although you do still have a lot of women who work too but still want to do the cooking and want her man to have something to come home to. Men will sometimes do the cooking on the weekends. I think either situation is fine, if she does all the cooking, or he does all of it.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I’ve finally learned a bit in terms of cooking but thankfully 90% of the guys I’ve dated insisted on cooking (and thats before having ever tried my food) 😂 So i’ll stick to dating little chefs. To answer the question, I think men assume they have more hands-on work to do than women so they probably figured she could cook and clean to keep herself busy. Mehh

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

In my family, men are wayyy better cooks. 🤣 so yea why do we need to cook if they can cook better? This ain’t a competition. My dad sulks when the food is bland. 🤣 when someone else tries to cook at home and not him

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Sounds like they need the practice.

j/k

But seriously, I don't expect women to cook. If you are asking why some people feel this way, I think it's just a traditional gender role thing. Like "Guys are supposed to take out the trash and mow the lawn. Women are supposed to sew and cry about random things." It's kind of arbitrary, but my best guess is because a lot of these things seem to be associated with indoors and outdoors? Trash, lawns = outside. Cooking, sewing, laundry, &c. = inside. Men go out, women stay in, that seems to be the basic traditional formula.

If men are better cooks, then why are women expected to cook?

Lionman95 · Answer

Because women are more careful doing certain things and they take more care into details. Like compare when going who takes more time on average going out to prepare for going on a date, a man or a woman?
I think there are many guys that are great cooks but I disagree saying that´s the average of all men. I think on average women are better cooks though there more male chef cooks publicily known.
But the reason for that is that those guys are good at taking the spotlight. Male chef cooks know how to attract the crowds attention to what they are doing while female chef cooks are more focused on the details of their meals.

madhatters4 · Answer

are men better cooks? i've never really heard this. i tend to not think it is true though because it is far too general and not rooted in some biological trait that would give men an edge towards cooking.

but why are women expected to cook? i think it comes from long long contrived social constructs. typically men were hunters. so they came home to women who were to have prepared the fire to cook the kill. later men tended to be the earners. so they were out all day worker while (traditionally) the woman stayed at home, so again the logic says the person staying at home would prepare a meal.

but i think this has changed a ton in the last few decades. i know i am the primary cook in my house

inhua · Answer

the very best cooks happen to be men, not because men are generally better at cooking

just like the best musicians, best bodybuilders, best mathematicians, best fighters, best chessmasters etc. happen to be men

men occupy both extreme ends of the spectrum from being super skilled and talented to being completely incapable of anything like speaking

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Because a woman has more time in between the day to "cook" something no matter how small, we get up at 5 we bolt out the door at 6, and see you at 6,7,8,9,10pm, so only free days might be weekends, and if we have time i'm sure we like/love to cook for our woman in one of these 2 days. But always a man loves to feel that there is a "woman" in the house.🤷‍♂️

BeMuse · Answer

Knowing how to cook for yourself and your immediate family is part of being an adult. It's not exactly a hard skill to pick up. Today you don't even really need to know how to cook, all you have to do is know how to listen. There are endless video tutorials and recipes that you can watch or read for free all over the internet. So basically anyone that doesn't know how to cook, doesn't know how to listen. If you don't know how to listen, then you don't know how to be in a relationship.

ohsheeT · Answer

I really can't tell you if men are better cooks or not I know some women that can cook pretty good me personally I love to cook and I'm pretty good cook

To be honest I don't think there's anything written in stone on who has to cook I mean when you're in a relationship you're both helping each other by doing things when needed to be done I mean if I was designated cooker I would be designated cooker it's not a big deal to me

Boomchakalaca · Answer

No way men r better cooks 😂 my boyfriend has 10% knowledge of cooking bc he wasn't taught that or just not interested in it. I taught myself to make bread, pie crusts, and even pasta noodles. He was taught to take care of cars. That is why women cook and men get dirty 🫦

wizardnikhil · Answer

I think this mentality is rooted on the economy and family maintanence system of old times. Just simple distribution of work, that, man had to go outside and women had to stay in home to take care of children and home. Being a better cook too was used to be a work to be done outside thus men learned better way to cook thousands dishes which definitely was not with the case with women who stayed in the home and cooked regular meal everyday. In a more part of the world than then women now have started to go out but i think this culture is not yet spread equally in every society. Also culture of women cooking in home too has decreased a but definitely has not got readen of from every society.

Kaamraj · Answer

In a long term relationship, or marriage the partner who makes less money or no money at all should do the household work. A marriage is a partnership where the sum of the union is more than the sum of the individual parts. If the woman is living in my home, her lifestyle is being upgraded by my income, if her kids (mine also) are getting a good education and head start in life, then she's going to have to cook to show her value.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m Hispanic, and my mom taught me to cook for myself so my future wife doesn’t have to take care of me like a maid. My mom was tired of seeing grown men in her family be with women they don’t even like just for their food and the chores around the house. But it depends, I think relationships should be 50/50.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

This is coming from the decades when women didn't work, either because it wasn't necessary, or because they weren't allowed to.

So they stayed at home and did all the work there. While the men were working a fulltime job.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Gender doesn't matter. Knowing how to feed yourself is just a life skill.  Why are so many people so afraid of cooking?

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

We're just better at everything. Have you seen us beating women in women's sports lately? See what I mean

Anonymous · Answer

I've never expected any woman I've date to cook for me, I was raised in a household where whoever got home first started preparing the meal and we'd be cooking for 7.

Being able to cook was seen as a basic skill in my family, T

Though the same cannot be said for most younger women today for some reason their cooking 'skills' are virtually none existent and they find boiling an egg or preparing Ramen noodles a challenge.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't believe that men are better cook, i don't even know how to cook, cooking and house chores were made for a woman, at least for a prehistoric man like me that's how it is 😁
Women makes the most delicious meals only if she cooks with love, BUT in your case sorceress sasha, you use your magic spells to make your food tasty haha

pervertedjester · Answer

In my observations, Men are better on the Grill and Women are better on the Range. With occasional exceptions on both side. But I learned how to Grill before I learned how Cook and I've always been better with the grill.

jshm2 · Answer

Men are better chefs, women are better cooks. Hence why TV chefs are 99% male and high end chefs are too.  There is a large difference, between the two careers.

Billlewis · Answer

I neither expect nor desire to have the woman I'm serving cook, clean, do laundry, run errands, etc, because as her personal servant, those tasks are always my responsibility.

Tyrael · Answer

Sadly we can't do everything. Evidently women these days aren't even willing to cook badly for the man that provides for them. So I guess they're off the hook.

debbiedenise · Answer

Because men are hunters and women are cooks? LOL!

UniquelyBasic · Answer

It depends on the relationship. Maybe the guy is working and the woman is staying at home so it's just a way of her doing her part.

Jersey2 · Answer

Men are better chefs is the thought. Men can lift the heavy soup pots and have a sense of logic. So men can be amazing chefs. My wife cooks and she could be a chef I think but she disagrees. Her food is better than most restaurants I think.

slatyb · Answer

I never expected a woman to cook for me. My wife does because I have a job and she doesn't. If she were working then we would split the work.

strateguy632 · Answer

the expectations are due to the "outdated mindset" influences people, that lady does the house work, like in ancient religions.

MemeSupreme · Answer

I don't know what they're smokin but my grandma makes the best food. ik other peeps who've said the same about their own grandma lol

Decoded93 · Answer

Gender and cooking are unrelated, it's like asking who is better at breathing or who can spell better

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Because I don't want to have to cook every meal for the rest of my life. If I'm going to be your personal chef what do I get in return?

RyanK9b · Answer

Bc of time Efficiency.
The guy goes to wirk and the female is the nursing and caring part. So if he comes home from a long day if work, a finished meal is lovely. He doesn't has to spend time in the kitchen and can relax

loveslongnails · Answer

Did you say future partner? Didn't you swear you'd be better off single the rest of your life in many earlier posts? That being the case, it's important to know how to cook!

Raaj4you · Answer

I don't like cooking and cleaning. I am not a good cook. Women look more cute when they breastfeed babies, cook and clean.

gothbxtch · Answer

lol, it’s because misogynistic men want to have the best of both worlds. “we could do this work better than you, but also you have to put in the work instead of us.”

normalice · Answer

Men aren't better cooks. They are better at taking credit for their work.

marish01 · Answer

If women work too why should men always pay for dates?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I've never heard it said that men are better cooks?

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

They are following the tradition where men have other things to do and women are expected to cook. Men are expected to do the more dangerous jobs.

monghjay2 · Answer

are you gonna build society? noo!!! okay so get in the kitchen and have a cook book

Anonymous · Answer

Men are better cooks than women because women have turned their backs on cooking, because they think it's "demeaning". All they have done is lower their value even further as women.

msc545 · Answer

We are to busy working our asses off to buy food and housing and other things to support you people like you expect.

IsaacDahBoi · Answer

I don't know who told you that because I can only cook microwavable ramen haha. Women shouldn't be made to cook all the time, and men aren't generally better at cooking. That's just my opinion anyway

anon1903 · Answer

My mom-dad does a fifty-fifty in the kitchen. Shrugs. He's almost as good as her.

Rangers · Answer

Who says men are better cooks? I'd say it comes down to individual skill set but yeah, generally women would dominate that role

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Myth that men are better cooks. Cooking is a learned skill.  If you try to learn then you will learn.

DextroShade · Answer

Then man has to work a job that is likely harder than yours, so yes you should be cooking even if he might be better at it.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I have no idea where you got that idea from. I’ve never heard anyone say “men are better cooks”, and I’m not being sarcastic for that matter either

Anonymous · Answer

I am a far better cook than most women and men i have ever met, I have been cooking since i was 8.. That does not mean that the chore should not be shared. My wife cooks almost as much as i do.

TallAnon · Answer

Goes back to how life was 100 years ago. Women would feed their families, but men were paid to deliver quality.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s probably because men get home late and women are usually home before them or a stay at home mom and have dinner ready but yeah most men are better cooks. That’s why they have chefs.

mommymommymommy · Answer

They're not? My mom doesn't cook. My dad does it all. Married 35+

Unknown29 · Answer

Boys are not better cooks. At least in my experience

Luopio27 · Answer

If I ever get in a relationship I will enjoy cooking together.

Anonymous · Answer

If women are better at housework, why are men expected to clean the house?

BLP11520 · Answer

My wife is better than anyone I have ever met and can bake omg. She has around 200 cookbooks

HusamRocks · Answer

Because men are expected to pay the rent 😁

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Because I'm not letting my man do all the work

Tecilla · Answer

The way you asked this is so funny

dudeinohio · Answer

Just a traditional thing.

gorydetails · Answer

If I cook, you clean

In_Trance · Answer

because they don't make any money

Anonymous · Answer

All the top chefs are men.

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