I’m not comfortable going on a date I have scheduled for tomorrow. How do I cancel politely?

[Anonymous]

He’s also 40 and I’m 27. I’m not sure if he’d be looking for something serious given the age disparity. Should I still go?

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Update: I sent a text like this:
Hey Jordan - I’m so sorry, I don’t think I feel comfortable going out tomorrow evening. After some conversations and things from the app I’m just reluctant to move forward. I sincerely want to be conscious of your time as well. Please still go enjoy your evening. Thank you again for inviting me out!

[kylee2437]

Trust your gut feeling, and be honest with him. If you fully aren’t interested - just say “hey I’m just not comfortable with the situation - our age difference isn’t fitting for me” or if you are still interested but need more time say “hey I’m not really comfortable meeting up - I just need more time to get to know you, is it okay if we reschedule?” Do not go on a date when you aren’t not feeling comfortable. That could be your body telling you this isn’t a good idea OR it can be something where the date isn’t enjoyable because you are hung up on the level of discomfort.

[slatyb]

What do you want? Why did you accept in the first place?

If you are sure you have no interest in seeing him beyond this date, then you should cancel. Just say "I'm sorry, but I'm not feeling it. Thanks for the invitation and I wish you all the best". That is kinder than wasting his time and money by going on the date when you have no interest.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

If you're not attracted or into him, no you shouldn't. Just text him that you don't want to. It's better than him dating someone that doesn't want to be with him.

[Asker]

Yeah and he was sending me short messages not really asking a lot of questions.
I just updated my question with what I sent him

[Vikkrram]

Look tbh don't make an opinion before meeting anyone. Who knows he might surprise you

[mommymommymommy]

If he's trying to get you in bed on the first date, chances are no, he's not into something serious. Go, and if he tries to get you to bed, then you know not to have another date

[Danny_dan92]

Hey, I’m not interested.




Then explain why, upon being asked why

[Anonymous]

Yes. You accepted. To back out at this point makes you a bad person, Sorry. You're the type of flake that makes guys not want to ask women out.

[Asker]

You sound psychotic…

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry you don't even realize you're a bad person.

[smashleyy]

If you don’t want to go just be direct

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Awe... poor guy 😢