How do I turn down a date without any complications?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I got a very nice job and my silly self flirted too much and now the owner of the company asked me out on a date, I am not interested to go out, I was just flirting because I like flirting.

I have to somehow find a way to get myself out of this situation and still be able to not hurt my job.

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I don’t want to date him.

[caring__1]

Flirting is teasing. It's enticing a person to come closer... to be more intimate. Unfortunately, people often think it's cute when little girls tease their daddy, so the behavior is reinforced from a young age and becomes a habit. Girls see the attention they get from flirting as boosting their ego, self-esteem and value as a woman. It also raises their likelihood to become a victim, as they're inviting potentially unwanted attention. As long as you flirt, you'll have to deal with those who take you up on that implied offer. Hopefully, you'll never encounter someone who won't take no for an answer.

In this particular situation, you can tell him you don't date co-workers or those who have authority over you, but don't tell him this and then continue to flirt with him.

[MrNameless]

Just say you don't see him that way/don't want a romantic relationship.

I'm sure you already know this.. But don't flirt because you like flirting. Causes way too many headaches and the other person think you led them on. Even worse if you do when there's power play involved.. work of all places especially.

[Screenwriter]

Simplest thing is to say you're already going out with someone, and you didn't mean anything other than harmless flirting. Apologize PROFUSELY and STOP DOING IT!!! Heavens.

Don't put yourself in this position ever again. It's dangerous. Remember, don't shit where you eat... Now dig yourself out of that pile and shower off!

[Spongebobssocks]

Flirting without wanting to date someone is a red flag you have. Nobody is perfect and we all have stuff to work on but just letting you know its good to consider working on removing that behaviour.

And just turn him down lighlty and he'll be fine.

[AviatorTom]

Explain to him that you'd like to keep your relationship professional. Thank him for the dinner date offer, and politely decline.

[Summeroflove]

Just be nice and say you’re not interested by thanks. Why flirt with someone you’re not into though

[Guido]

You could tell him that you started seeing someone and it wouldn't be appropriate for you to go on a date with him while you are seeing this other guy.

Or you could tell him you are only dating women st this time in your life.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Omg! Dating women! Such a good idea!

How did I not think of it.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s a nice excuse…

[BoopBoopBeep]

"I don't date coworkers, thank you very much though and I'm sure you'll have no problem finding someone else to (dinner/theater/whatever he invited you to)"

[ProbablyClueless]

Oof! The dangers of being a flirt! My guess is that your safest bet would be to pretend that you're oblivious to your boss's interest.

It seems like sometimes the best way to handle situations like that is to sweep them under the rug.

[sheikalana]

When you have a job you need to take things seriously and act professionally. Just tell him you'd like to keep things professional and not mix up things with your private/personal life I'm sure he'll appreciate your honesty. And then stop flirting.

[loveslongnails]

Tell him you appreciate the interest and you were just being your usual, friendly, bubbly self, but you make it a strict policy to NEVER date anyone connected with your work.

[Grond21]

Be gracious. Thank him very much for the attentions and just let him know that you are not interested at this time.

[Anonymous]

What are you stuck in highschool grow up. Tiur acting very immature now you just hop on socialmedia asking a bunch of strangers how to solve your childish problem. Maybe you beling working in a grocery store where little teenagers work. Get tested with your doctor looks like you have a mindset of a 10 year old.

[BobLouis]

I agree she's 26 this is what I expect from a 19 year old. I thought she was 20 or 19 and then I looked at her age and I was like wtf.

[Opinion Owner]

@BobLouis you are correct this behavior would be expected from a 19 year old kid. She is grown sounds like she isn't ready to handel huge adt responsibility.

[strateguy632]

explained that you don't want to mix business relations with relationships

[spartan55]

That really sucks that he put you in that position.

[strateguy632]

he? he responded to her flirted

[spartan55]

@strateguy632
He isn't some Joe she, met at a coffee shop, he is the OWNER of the company she is employed at. You don't understandut the potential problems here? She certainly holds her share of the blame in this, but man, you don't ask out your employees...

[Alex-Snow]

Just be honest and tell him that it is not wise to date ones boss

[Vampire_Killing_Time]

Turn them down like the rest. This can not be your first rodeo.

[CatVader]

how is your local legalities on sexual harassment?
Just be aware of where you stand legally when you let down your boss at work.
and maybe apologize for wasting his time.

[Bklynbadboy12]

So tell him it's a very nice offer but I have a rule I don't date people I work with or just tell him your taken

[Jennz6]

Just go to dinner with him and never kiss, maybe he’ll get tired of spending money on you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t want though…

[Jennz6]

@lafemmefatale_1 I know because I flirt too

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Cool. There must be a way to figure it out without, I don’t want to go on a dinner with him, It will only give him wrong signals and I’d not like to deepen the mistake I already made.

[Jennz6]

I suppose you are right…why don’t you just tell him that you didn’t mean to flirt or give him the impression that you wanted to date. Also, you are not dating anyone, just trying to concentrate on work

[MrNameless]

This is awful. So she should lead him on and take his money? And then she should wait until he asks where the relationship is headed only for her to respond," Sorry I don't see you that way?" wtf. That's manipulative and abusive behavior.

[OddBeMe]

Nicely, blame it on plans or family events. Ease the relationship down slowly.

[eagle1951]

Thanks very much, but I don't date people I work with.

[genericname85]

i'd just simply say "sorry, at the work place, i keep it professional. i don't date members of the company i work at". he'd be a moron to punish a worker with that kind of ethic.

[Fireguy17]

just tell him after further review you don't feel that it is such a good idea after all.
It can be hard dating in the work place.

[Luopio27]

If you reject him, you may get fired soon or things won't go back to normal anymore. If I were you, I would ger ready to leave the job and find a new one.

[Anonymous]

take this to HR immediately. you shouldn't have to feel like you'll lose your job just because the owner decided to be inappropriate.

[Opinion Owner]

also, i would suggest to stop flirting for "fun" it's never a good idea and leaves people hurt and confused. also there is no point.

[zagor]

I would suggest you just tell him you don't date co-workers as a rule, but then he might fire you and ask you out again...

[Finchie40]

Just be nice and apologize

[Finchie40]

I hit send by accident , just be nice and apologize and be honest that you have a tendency to flirt and say you are sorry if he took it the wrong way , and that it wasn’t your intentions at all , Just say you are currently seeing someone so flirting was something you shouldn’t have done. Just kill him with kindness and you should be pretty
Good to go

[driven159]

don't flirt at work just makes a mess of things this should be a lesson for everyone.

[Twalli]

Maybe just say that you don't like dating people who you work with.

[brownup]

Haha finally that behaviour comes back to bite in the ass.. :)

[007kingifrit]

too late, well you're old enough to get married i guess

[tfan1]

Graciously apologize

[Anonymous]

Suck his greasy dirty cock, he will be fine then that you didn't want to go on a date then

[KrakenAttackin]

So, what's the lesson here?

[Likes2drive]

Say you have a boyfriend you see on occasion

[msc545]

Tell him you are married.

[Tstrbrainer]

What difference does that make?

[you_asked]

Just give him a nice bj and enjoy early retirement

[Tstrbrainer]

Look for a new job.

[jimmy2]

Be careful there