I have a 3rd date this Saturday evening, but I am invited on a Birthday Party, which I forgot and I can’t skip it, because I was invited there much earlier than on my date.
It’s still two days earlier before date, so is it rude to reschedule it now?
Owwf. As a guy I would just assume you're dodging me. Here's the thing, how much does this guy mean to you if you're going out for a third date? I would say you do have feelings for him. You are a grown adult woman, you can make your own choices. But if you want my sound advice, if you do not want any drama/tension/heart break. Do not tell him you have a birthday party to go to. He will assume that this birthday with friends means more to you then seeing him. Just say that something with family came up. However, you have to reassure him and say, I reassure x-name_________, I will reschedule and I want to see you even if that means you throw in that you will offer to pay for dinner or something. That way he can respect your life of what you have to do, but also being clear with him by communicating and reiterating that you still want to see him. Make sure you don't do this in the future. Im not saying you did this intentionally, mistakes happen but that's how I would go about. Again, make sure you reassure him you will meet up and even suggest where to go and on what potential day to meet again. I can't stand girls who are vague when they talk, gotta be clear, hope this helps.
As for honesty it’s the best policy & being open as well as honest is the best way to go. As for C. R. S (Can’t Remember Shit) it does happen to all of us but when you do remember things that is when you have an O. S. M (Oh Shit Moment).
As for you you’re in a pickle & as of the moment you have a birthday party to attend which you were invited to first as well as a third date to attend & if you are unable to be at two places at once you need to do something about it instead of putzing around.
If truth be told the second you remembered you had a birthday party to go to you should of been on the phone talking to the person you have a date with to reschedule.
Stop Putzing Around or you can kiss your third date goodbye.
Just be honest, explained and then cancel, plain and simple.
Or maybe you can be a little bit courteous by showing you actually cared, so you invite him on a date instead. Ask him the best time that works for him, you’ll choose the location for the next date! You may choose to pay for the date too, or if he is gentlemanly enough he won’t let you pay…!
What time is the birthday party? Try to see if you can still make it to the date without rescheduling. Two days ahead of schedule is not rude. Just be honest with him and try to see when HE IS available.
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It's rude but it is what it is. You basically tell the truth, ask for a rain check and most importantly... the most important is offer up two other days that you are free for him to choose from. More then not they will choose one of the two days.
Invite him to the birthday.
explain the meeting was way before and you forgot and you would want to go with him in honesty and you think the third date is a plus but you’re not the type to cancel on previous engagements that was made or the type to really just skip a birthday that’s not something that can be rescheduled.
Include him. 🤷♀️
Have you considered asking the birthday party host/ hostess if you can bring a plus one?
Then instead of cancelling, you can merely say there's been a change of plans and how would he feel about a birthday party instead?
Everyone's happy!
"Rude" is too subjective a thing to put a lot of energy into worrying about. If you are honest, sincere, mindful of the other person's feelings, and not deliberately hurtful... that's really just about all you can do. And in my opinion it is enough. At some point, perceived rudeness is on the perceiver.
explain the situation, that you forgot about a birthday party that you already agreed to previously to be at and can't miss. you'll risk being rude to your friend if you don't. and i'd rather risk being rude to a 3rd date that i don't know too well yet
if the date doesn't understand, then that's his problem
No, these things happen. Not a problem unless he has already paid for something that is non-refundable, like tickets.
just let them know what happened and reschedule.
I was at a major fire once and I knew that I would be there for an extended period of time, so I called her when I had a chance, told her what was going on, she could hear the sirens, radios in the background, and watched the news and there I was.
I was forgiven.
It happens, they should understand.
If not, it may have not been the right person for you.
Be honest. I forgot I have a b-day party… I’ll have to reschedule.
Simple as that.
Since you are discovering who this guy is it’ll be good information for you to see how he handles disappointment. 😊
it becomes more rude the closer it is to the date. for me personally, the person who cancelles is the one responsible for trying to make a new appointment. i won't keep running after you if you cancel on me. i wanna see that you want it at that point.
If you reschedule not just cancel it's fine, just let him know why and that you're looking forward to seeing him again
Just bring him to the birthday party. Even if he doesn’t have an invite, it’ll be a nice surprise for your friend who has the birthday and then you can introduce him to everyone at the party as “your boyfriend”. It’s a win-win.
But, really, it’s okay to reschedule your date for next Saturday. It’s not the end of the world. Plus, if he rages out on you for this, then you know he has anger management issues and you found out in less than 3 dates
I just opted out at the point where she couldn't stop sticking to her phone, asking questions which would have led the whole thing into me not only accepting her kid's dad but who knows maybe also impregnate her. I've heard of such scenarios, that ended up with 6 kids of 6 dads, some growing up relatively retarded. Nope, I'm out.
u You're not canceling, just rescheduling. Just tell the guy that you forgot completely about this party and then set a firm time, date, and place. Or ask your friend if it's okay if he comes along.
No. Fess up and reschedule. Make sure you emphasize how excited you were to get to three, you forgot about your friend, and schedule for as soon possible after.
he probably will know better what is rude to him. Just talk to him.
I would say, explain him the situation really calmly if if he wanted to, he will reschedule, If he not that kind enough to do that, then it’s good for you.
Sounds like you still want to date this guy, right? It’s not rude if you are honest to tell him you got other plans. Just ask to reschedule. That’s not rude. He will get it.
You inform them that you have a prior commitment and that you would like to reschedule for x day. Make sure you give a new day otherwise it is open ended and THAT is rude.
Tell him exactly why you need to cancel the date, offer a time to reschedule it to show you're interested in rescheduling.
Apologize and Just say that you have to cancel due to unforeseen circumstances but you'd like to reschedule for another date and tell them when you're free to meet again. Simple.
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