What does it mean for you to be seen as 'a difficult woman' in context of potential romantic relationships?

[Anonymous]

[JeffersonA]

Means who ever is saying that thinks your hard to date. When you just have a wonderful strong personality!

My wife was described like that and she is an amazing women guys just hated her being so strict with them at work!

She is amazing and sweet so tender! We are in our 2nd and she is great with our baby girl. Hormones make it hard for her right now and is difficult but still a wonderful woman!

Who ever you find will be great!

[Asker]

Thank you, that is so sweet to hear. :)

I am definitely a bit hard on people at work when the situation calls for it - but always fair.

Congratulations on your happy family. :)

[JeffersonA]

Your welcome and we are so happy.
Your going to be just as happy with someone who looks at you for you and not what others say about you!

[JeffersonA]

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[Asker]

Sure. :)

[JeffersonA]

Thanks for. mho

[Asker]

Of course. :)

[ProbablyClueless]

You're probably seen as demanding to an inappropriate degree. You probably hold men to higher standard than they are accustomed to. You have to make sure you're holding yourself to that same standard though.

[Asker]

Oh, no worries there, I hold myself to a higher standard than anyone else.
I guess I can be a bit demanding, but I wouldn't say to an inappropriate degree.

[ProbablyClueless]

I feel that! You have to remember that the bar is so low in dating today that it might as well be underground. If you aren't expecting anything from other people that you don't expect from yourself; it's tough for people to say you're being unreasonable.

[Billlewis]

If a woman has a reputation for being very hard to please, she will inevitably become much more popular and sought after, because the stricter she is, the more guys are going to want to kiss her ass.

[Asker]

Is that really the case?
Not in my experience, though.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It means people precieve that you expect a lot from people and lack self awareness or if it's really bad, they'll think you're just selfish.

[Asker]

Hmmm, interesting take. Not sure how being 'difficult' equates to not having self awareness, but I guess it might, depending on who's looking at the situation.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Being difficult always boils down to some level of "not reading the room"... So to speak.

People are rarely direct, especially if their afraid their directness might eventually create a confrontational situation.

Just going off personal experience, but usually when someone in a relationship is called difficult, it's because they have a habit of unintentionally bullying their partner. Sometimes it's because they know deep down the guy can't leave, sometimes the partner is maybe a little narssicistic or they feel mistreated whenever they have to make a concession, sometimes it's none of that stuff and the person just has a hard time knowing when they're taking something too far or are overly stubborn.

I'm an incredibly difficult person. I like to do things my way and if I'm not convinced the other way is at least as good as mine, it used to be very hard for me to let go and not take other people's stubbornness personally.

Fixing being difficult isn't easy to fix but admitting the problem is the first and 2nd most important step

[Asker]

Oh, I know I'm stubborn, no doubt about that, but it's because I'm usually right.

I honestly need to give up more control, but I am always open to compromise.

*Just to note, this was a question pertaining to a potential romantic relationship, not one that is ongoing.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

That's funny, I'm always right too. But what I'm starting to learn is that there's a reason people don't always seem logical, it's because sometimes their priorities are different than yours and a lot of the time, people keep their personal motives to themselves. When I end up in those situations where I know I'm right and someone won't budge, I know now that it's time to start thinking of how to make things work their way. Or find a compromise.

Because you got to learn when it's not worth your time and energy and all the other costs that come with being stubborn. Like I said, I'm still getting better

[Asker]

Definitely. I will keep that in mind. Communication really is key, but if someone is terrible at it, sometimes there's no helping them.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Communication is all about being able to see through the other person's eyes. All that takes is a little empathy. I hope everything works out for you. You seem like a good person 👍🏼

[Asker]

Ah, yes, I try to do that - it can be challenging, but working on it is key, I guess.

Thank you! That's really nice of you to say. :)

[TomMarks]

The only time I know of a girl being described by a guy as “difficult” I found out later that he wanted more than she was ready for at the stage of the relationship they were at.

[Asker]

Huh, interesting...

[jahaims]

She doesn't learn from her mistakes

[Asker]

Interesting take. Definitely possible.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Asker]

Just here for a good time, huh? :)

[Opinion Owner]

No. I'm here to help. But I just laugh at those that are beyond it. If you're 30-35 and still having this problem. You're beyond help. Good luck!

[Asker]

A very ironic statement indeed.