Am I at a very hard level of difficulty when it comes to trying to enter a relationship with a woman?

[Anonymous]

Due to genetic reasons, I look like a child. I am 25 years old, working as an engineer. I am also a classical mandolin player. I even own a car which most people in my country don't at my age. I have female friends, but none of them would want to date me for obvious reasons. I used to think that it was being short that prevented me from being attractive. But many short men have married into my family. At least they look like adults. I look like a 14 year old kid. No amount of gym will fix that. There is really no way I can convince a girl to marry someone who looks like a child. My parents are trying to find a bride from our ancestral village by paying a hefty dowry. If I did end up marrying this way, the girl would be very uncomfortable having someone who looks like me as her husband. I know people will say "Find someone who likes you for who you are." But logistically that would be extremely difficult. Let's say 1 percent of girls would accept how I look. Would it make sense to meet 100 girls until I find one who likes me? And what are the odds that I would like her too?

[Lovelailaxo]

It sounds like before you find a woman to settle down with, you need to work on yourself.. mainly your confidence. You can look way younger than you actually are but you saying no gym will fix me negatively impacts your outlook on yourself to become a better you. Instead of fixating on how many women you would actually have to go through to find the “perfect woman” who wouldn’t mind you.. don’t think of just finding someone who will tolerate you. If you work on yourself, you will feel better which will make you look better.

[Asker]

I don't lack confidence. I know that I am a good person. I just know objectively that most women would not be attracted to me purely because of my appearance. Just think of it this way. If a wealthy, responsible man who looks like a young boy approached you with a lot of confidence, would you want to date him? There's nothing wrong in admitting that you wouldn't. I never wanted to change my appearance until I realized I would never be able to get married because of how I look. It's not something that comes from within.

[Anonymous]

You sound like you have too many issues for most people, let alone women.

[Asker]

I am not a bad person. I am a good person. I work hard. I am honest and kind. What is it that you expect I should do anyway?