What’s something that life has taught you this year?

Question

For me it’s that - looks are not so important after all. I am surprised about that myself…

Like yesterday, I met a man who I consider to be very handsome. His shoulders were even broader than the shoulders of my ex (Who I place in top 2% of attractive males) his hands and arms were so masculine too! He had beautiful curly hair and very cute eyes and all in all, was the type of man one would love to make lots of babies with. (At least if I was 22 and single, I would probably like him a lot)

But… I no longer felt anything other than aesthetic pleasure. Today I was talking with my mom and she asked me about the date, I told her about the red flags I noticed and that I had to decline the 2nd date.

She said she was impressed that I got a bit wiser and that his looks no longer mattered to me anymore. I am impressed too. Seems like I learned something after break up after all.

Isn’t it strange how life changes us?

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

A few things: Don't keep asking a woman if she's sure about something she wants to do for you or with you. They already overthink things and asking them that more than once seems to irritate them. I've had to learn to stop doing that even though I ask it because sometimes I'm really not sure if she's doing something for me/with me because she really wants to, or because she thinks she should. It really is important to disconnect from the world for awhile, especially on social media. I've always known that but have found it hard. This year that hasn't been so hard for me. The more you check up on your siblings, the less they care to check up on you. And they get into a habit of always expecting you to be the one to reach out.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

I think " Sabai Sabai " is my message to self , I've learnt to sleep properly , and I've learnt to avoid stress , Even today for example I had to renew my Thai drivers license for 5 years , now in Australia this is pretty easy , maybe takes 1 hour , when a " Farang " ( where always only a guest ) its a little more involved , I went to the doctor for my medical cert , did all the photocopying that was required , arrived at the government office , closed for lunch till 1pm , the whole process including a Grab home ( taxi ) took all day , no GRAB wanted to pick me up , but was very easy to get there.

Never did I have any amount of anger , it just is what it is..

Sabai Sabai.

Tina19 · Accepted Answer

2023 is the most important year of my life it has changed everything for me in a good way this year taught me importance of time and how to not waste it on random things instead invest it in work this year i started my YouTube channel which has a dream for me in 2013 but it wasn't getting possible back then but this year i did it along with that i always knew i am super ambitious and i was scared about this but i am no more afraid of this part of me anymore because i found the purpose of my life in 2023 i am in the processing of fulfilling all my goals

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

That no matter how long you’ve known someone doesn’t mean they care about you. You’ve given your all and in the end it doesn’t really matter like the Linkin park song. Nobody’s loyal.

Lliam · Answer

That the majority of people are brainwashed morons. But there are some young people who are brighter and better informed than some people, regardless of age and level of education.

Okay, I didn't just realize that this year, but your comment reminded me.

Sanser · Answer

That if I want to have a good life I have to go out and force myself to socialize... 😂
I am a guy who loves being in his home and study all the time due to my career but socialize is very important at the end.
This year has been one of the best in my college life.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Glad to hear this. Growth is good! Have a great day

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Hmmm... this year? I guess it really hit home for me that you never really know who is going to notice what about your behavior. That little comment you made to your friend might have seemed like a joke to you and your friend, but the person 15 feet down the street overheard it and thought it wasn't a very funny comment at all. And that can be an especially bad thing if that person knows your boss, or they're on the city council that you need to get approval from, or whatever else.

loveslongnails · Answer

Same thing I re-learn every year, a quote credited to Alexandre Dumas:
" One thing that humbles me deeply is to see that human genius has its limits while human stupidity does not."

A similar quote is credited, although not fully verified, to Albert Einstein:
" “Two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I am not yet completely sure about the universe.”

You get the idea.

Rangers · Answer

It's that life is meaningless and pointless, our conditions are pre determined and trying to change them will only lead to frustration and disappointment

msc545 · Answer

Life changes all of us in interesting ways. What is important to you now?

petitedollbabee · Answer

That I’m capable of a lot more than I let myself believe in the past.

Raaj4you · Answer

All my friends are happily married and have babies. They are busy in their work and family life. My  single  life sucks. My loneliness is telling me to find a partner before it's too late. Only my parents love me, are worried about me and my future. There is nobody to love me and take care of me. I don't have anyone to give my love and care.

MementoMori777 · Answer

that you think you always got time until life proves you wrong

Thatpearl26 · Answer

I learned that you really can’t control anything. Sometimes you just have to let whatever happens, happen.

Christoff92 · Answer

To be stronger realistically and conduct my emotions with modified strategies 😀

Meropatrick · Answer

That no one gives an f about u its what u can do for them

That sex controls and consumes most people 24/7

Money is what makes you or breaks you

Life is so difficult for the teenagers nowadays more than it was before

19magic · Answer

Honestly how much trauma I still have inside and how much I'm still holding onto it, how much I've let it shape and define me as a person.

EaterPeter · Answer

Nothing still feel helpless around hot and pretty woman

muscles_glasses · Answer

the people who says looks aren't important are always the most beautiful people

qqqqq0000 · Answer

Setting clear boundaries with everyone (especially in romantic relationships) and sticking to them is crucial to help keep yourself sane.

mommymommymommy · Answer

You're also moving anyway, i find it hard to believe you learned a lesson, because you're moving. If you werent moving, would you have still done the same?

Massageman · Answer

They start out as being strange in the beginning. The older we get, the more we come to expect these "detours" in life.

Jersey2 · Answer

The days go by slower when I slow down. It’s a good thing. My life used to be scheduled down to the minute.

sheikalana · Answer

Things can change for better and for worse really quickly.

Emmy87 · Answer

Never trust people, if u trust them they will hurt u

JonesT10Apr · Answer

there are only few relatives and friends who are real relatives... most people far from it... less earning family relatives are more kinder..

Unit1 · Answer

I think i ran out of what there is to learn. Nothing really surprises me anymore.

AɴᴋᴀʀᴀBᴇʏᴇғᴇɴᴅɪꜱɪ · Answer

Value the person who deserves to exist for me and don't keep people who don't value in your life

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

That there's still great people around amongst a couple I had to get rid of.. Very bittersweet.

NotInterestedSorry · Answer

How heartless and evil some family can be.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@lafemmefatale_1 Life taught me to pay attention to the saying "Road to hell is paved with good intention".

justabuddy · Answer

I have learned that nothing is set in stone, loyalty is expensive and a sense of self is most important.

AngelofDeath111 · Answer

To be prepared and to not be a follower and to think and trust for yourself.

CubaPirate · Answer

Don't worry be happy 😊

sheenagwapa · Answer

that western men are the shiitiest of all shit

DizzyDesii · Answer

I can’t always be in control nor prepared

SolitarySolace · Answer

That nothing lasts forever

whistlingwh0res · Answer

All men are asshole

robocop666 · Answer

I understood my inner demons

Nominal · Answer

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