Are women flaky with online dating?

[Anonymous]

I match w a decent amount of women but I'd say 25 percent give you their real phone number, make real plans, but then flake out. Just me?

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A little update on the scam comments, the majority of women I match w I can background check w my company or just common sense, they are real women, they don't try to get money out of me or anything like that, but they do make plans and flake.

[Finchie40]

Online dating is a bunch of scams , the so called girls’ you matched with are more than likely trying to scam you and more than likely they are not the girl they claim to be , I tried online dating to realize it’s a bunch of bullshit , if someone hesitates to prove to you who they truly are , don’t waste your time , Sadly there is a lot of wack jobs in this world that pretend to be something they are not, If I talk to a girl online and things seem to be going well , I will ask her to prove to me she is the girl in the pictures , if it hesitates to prove to me they are that girl they are posing to be , i tell them to fuck off , if someone actually likes you and wants to get to know you , they aren’t going to hesitate to break the ice with you , Never fall for that nonsense, most of them will try to get money off you as well , Tell them to get a life and to get a real job , I would never send anyone money that can’t prove who they actually are period.

[Asker]

I background check anyone I'm gonna meet up with so no issues there. But they do still flake!

[Finchie40]

Just watch out from the ones that ask for money , and the ones that can’t prove who they truly are , so many cat-fishers out there , And sadly a lot of wack jobs pretending to be someone they are not

[Kaamraj]

Yes because as a general rule the more abundance you have of something you didn't work for the less you value it. Modern dating apps and social media is highly in favor of women where they can get dates easily so it's easier to flake on them because it's of little value.

[Anonymous]

I only online dating for like a year. That BS gave me depression for a good while. Most men there are completely undesirable. Then the couple that have good genes. They match with you, and leave you on READ.
I don’t even know why the f-k I tried it. I was getting food quality men in my real life 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ How stupid. Everyone on that is a social reject

[Asker]

So men pretty flaky too.

[Opinion Owner]

The desirable ones

[Kaamraj]

The men most women go for are the top 5% so they have options.

[Opinion Owner]

@Kaamraj
Yeah, it why I rather go for them in person. 🖕
In person it always works 💅

[electromagnetic]

I’ve never used alone dating before but my friend has and she basically said the same thing about men. She said she’d give her number they’d make plans then he’ll make an excuse. She got completely ghosted twice after the first date and the others turned out to be either crazy, home bodies or flat out creepy. It gave her mild anxiety for a long time.

[chicosuave]

its been proven that women are there for validation and nothing else. your lucky to even make it to the matching part and then having them respond to you at least. most guys can't even get a single match worse even a response if they do get a match. consider yourself lucky

[stepyo99]

No, it's not just you. That's very common. Women use dating apps as a way of inflating their ego and only respond to a tiny percentage of messages, and of those that respond, an even smaller percentage end up going out on a date.

Gigantic ego + unrealistic standards for men = lonely cat lady scrolling dating apps wondering where all the good men have gone

[slatyb]

Maybe depends on the platform. I got divorced and started dating at 36. That was a while ago. I had good success on match. com and eventually met and married my wife. As soon as there was mutual interest, i suggested a meeting. Every woman who said agreed to meet showed up as promised.

[Texasgal95]

I didn’t and now I’m in a great relationship. I think the ones that do are scared about getting some pedo , getting catfished or ghosted. I know I use to tell myself I’d never online date but then Covid happened and I changed my mind

[Anonymous]

Most people online are flakes in general. Because even if you're talking to who they pretend to be (and you're probably not). They're is no real commitment until you meet.

My advice to any guy using dating apps is take every woman you meet on thier with a grain. And chase every woman you meet on thier with a shot of penicillin.😆

[peedy]

If you are referring to all those girls on these millions of dating sites most of than are fake accounts designed to draw you in get you hooked so you send them money

[Asker]

See my update.. I can background check, anyone I plan a date w is real, but then they flake.

[peedy]

Most women are kinda flakie thatd why they like us aka men because we hold things together when they are falling apart

[peedy]

But getting back. to the dating site and there are thousands of them. and the ones I've seen claim that there are 20 -30 young beautiful sexy playboy caliber women just a few miles away now in a large city this lie is very believable because of so many people but where I live a very rural small population were you literally know everyone it doesn't work one site even had 2 girls living in this nearby town that technically is s town there is a zip code but there nobody living there its only a grain elevator so their lie was exposed

[Nikki1989]

Online dating is mostly one big scam. It is amazing some people never figure that out.

[Drumlin2001]

Can be. What you have to bear in mind is that women tend to get many more responses than men, so it's likely any time you're talking to them they have at least one other option available.

[skyla_is_learning]

Online dating sad. Cause the end is disappointment

[Asker]

Why for you? Females get 1000s of matches. All terrible?

[skyla_is_learning]

it's all sad

[BarryLiverstone]

Happened with me so I left the online dating sites. Now I just approach in person.

[BarryLiverstone]

You do realize the majority of people don’t use dating sites to find a date, right?

[Asker]

I do 50/50 bar/online. I don't talk to women really anywhere else. Totally open to suggestions?

[BarryLiverstone]

Make friends, go to weekly events, go to church, and get off all dating apps

[Yoyoyogi]

yes many women are flaky. Its ok, thats how you weed out those types of girls, they make it easier

[Asker]

Any tips?

[nastyb]

i can say same for men on online dating. they schedule to meet up but never show up

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course. They're even worse with online dating.

[SolitarySolace]

Women date online? That's news to me because I haven't met a women online in over almost 9 years.

[Shy_Steve]

Women can be pretty much anything when Dating that's the Problem, A Guy has to be a certain way otherwise he won't get any Dates.

[zagor]

Yes, a lot are looking for ego salve. Or are guys getting some weird kick.

[Anonymous]

not real women

probably trans lying to you

posting pics of other girls

Guys, are women all the same?

[inhua]

statistically it's very common

[Christoff92]

It's every man on dating sites.

[sheikalana]

Very much.