Anyone else super selective of who they hang out with?

Question

I’d rather be alone than hang out with most people

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Very. The older I get, the more selective and pickier I am about who I consider a friend or associate myself with.

I was just discussing this topic with an acquaintance last night- it's so tiring investing your energy and time into people, only for them not to feel the same or treat you the same.
I'm too tired and old for fairweather, flaky, and unreliable people.

So I'm careful who I let into my life. I'll be polite to anyone, but that doesn't mean I'm going to befriend or hang out with you.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Whenever someone invites me to somewhere, first thing I usually ask, “who else is going to be there?”  My answer would depend on their answer 🤣 of the company.

Meropatrick · Accepted Answer

No i am a very peoples person. I hang out with everybody and knows many people. Maybe i am lucky nothing bad happened yet. But in my culture people are very social and you need people to get by. Of course i consider few to be real friends. And i know how dangerous the world can be. But for now being social just added to my personality and didn't harm me yet

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Extremely selective. And it's the reason why I don't have very many friends. I can look at people in a room and figure out just which ones are the ones I want to avoid, and that's most of them. I feel like a lot of people just want your friendship so they can use you to get stuff or just to look good.

Reem12345reem · Answer

my ex "best friend" was toxic so I left her and walked alone the rest of the year just bc i didn't want to be with someone who's so offensive , I'd rather wallk alone than be with her

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'm selective with who I hang out with just because I'm picky with personalities.

Novacane · Answer

If it was a more 1:1 then yes, and I agree most people I would not choose to hang out with. I would say in group settings I do not mind who is there since I have that saying the more the merrier mentality, I just have certain people who will get more of my energy.

CaptainOverthink · Answer

Not really.
I can hang with most, like 80%.
But I only keep few as close friends and I am careful about trying to fit all my friends into the same categories or to fill all types of friend-roles.
Some friends are better friends if met with the right expectations. Some are not really friends but aquaintances that vibe well and have friend-potential.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Selective? 🤔 Yes & No.
I mean is in human's nature to read other's body language to be able to see if they are bad apples or not, that like to "invade" other's space, so i guess all comes down to senses. If is a good person and doesn't push its way on to my space, guess we good, but if it crosses my arm's leght then, i leave them as quick as i found them...🤷‍♂️

sheenagwapa · Answer

i do not like rude people. i can be hapoy on my oen and so i'm not really dependent on having a company. i hate rude people. for examole i do not like beinh make fun of what i wear, i do not like backbiting i have aunties who love to backbite bullyinh people who are poor for fun and i wannq crample their faces.

FatherJack · Answer

Yes , I far prefer the company of other species / my own company , than that of our own species. I'm introverted & also quite aloof , I keep my distance from the vast majority of people. I don't like people in general , most are stupid & incapable of critical thought. Disclaimer... I am very far from perfect , I admit that !!

Bananas83 · Answer

I'm very selective about who I wanna hang with. If you can have a good time with no drama, then that's who I wanna surround myself with. Also I wanna hang people that listen to me and actually give a shit. That's just my 2 cents!

Deformate · Answer

I'm not selective, just more an introvert. Social situations exhaust me mentally, although in alignment to what you asked, Inwontnlet myself hang out with an idiot or someone who only ever talks about the same thing.

Anonymous · Answer

I never thought I was till I met some of my sister's friends. Then i realized the difference in the quality of people I accept. I think I'm very accepting and I like varied and colorful people. But I do not tolerate people with questionable morals and values.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

If you're on this app, chances are your social life isn't exactly up to par lol

CreatingWonders · Answer

Yep, my friend circle is a circle ⭕️ there’s no one in it but me. 🤣

I keep myself to myself I’m better off alone as I’ve been lied to and manipulated so many times by people claiming they like/love me that I’m done with people now.

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, I used to hang out with a lot of people in high school and shortly after. As the years go by, I find myself wanting to be around less and less of them. Now I only hang out with about 20 of them

sheikalana · Answer

I am. That's why my circle is so small. I have loads of acquaintances but three good friends only that are my ride or dies.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I’ve had the same two best friends since we were all 15. Selective is an understatement.

hello123456789 · Answer

I don't hang out with women too much because they like to spend my money.

Anonymous · Answer

Being an introvert, most people tend to get on my nerves very fast. So I am very selective of who gets to be in my tiny circle and those that know me know that I need my space a lot of the time.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Yes, I like to hangout with those that are positive influences (works hard, responsible, loyal, etc)

electromagnetic · Answer

I’ve been friends with the same 4 girls since 2000. I pick them every time over making new friends.

Bricealan · Answer

Learned that as a teen You DO have to be selective about the company you keep.

imfreeze95 · Answer

I would only hang out with people of good reputations who I trusted preferably from good families.  My mother always said you can judge a man by the company he keeps.

exitseven · Answer

Yes I don't like too many people. I do not mind being alone most of the time

Anonymous · Answer

Im very selective to who I hang out with, 3 days ago I hanged out with my father to a nearby restaurant and it was the desaster, it made me more conscious about who to go out with.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am super selective about whom I allow into my home, but for just hanging out not really.

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Yeah, I'm not wasting my time hanging with people I don't like for no reason

TheeTrybrid · Answer

Absolutely! Always be particular about the company u keep

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely there are so many people id rather just never have in my life this is why i have like 2 friends

dolemite58 · Answer

totally agree, i can’t stand most people lol

Anonymous · Answer

Same here different people , different energies

katiesmuff · Answer

I'm somewhat selective

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yeah pretty much just my friend group

fonduegirl · Answer

Real, that's why I'm struggling socially

Jazzy54 · Answer

As I’ve gotten older, yes.

LavLavLuv · Answer

🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️ Well, I’m picky… So.

Minahh · Answer

Same I can't stand toxic people

OddBeMe · Answer

If it’s none, is that a yes?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, no liberals and only people also in business

Sonorous · Answer

Yup‎‎

hardboiledink · Answer

I dump most people

Anonymous · Answer

me too. i dont find friends easily :((((

BigDog1989 · Answer

And I'm the pope

peterrezeeek · Answer

And I'm the pope..

kakaling · Answer

Yes, always.

007kingifrit · Answer

i wouldn't say that

Anonymous · Answer

Same

Anonymous · Answer

Yup!

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