She said she wants someone who is self reliant?

[Anonymous]

if she rejected me and i said its fine, no big deal, delete her number and moved on.

Am i posing these characteristics?

[Anonymous]

Self reliance to a woman generally has nothing to do with your ability to move on and delete her as if she never existed. So in this case, I wouldn't say you proved that you are self reliant.

Self reliance to a woman, generally speaking, is when a man can hold his own without relying on her for mundane tasks (ie: cooking for him, cleaning for him, doting on him without getting much in return). You have to understand that modern day feminism has created a very toxic mindset in a lot of people. You have women who are so dead set on being a "strong independent woman who don't need no man" and furthermore, it has created a bunch of men who retaliate to this statement by saying "fine, be an independent woman and I won't do anything for you because you don't need me but you still need to do shit for me to make me feel wanted". It's turned in to a battle of the sexes. Who can do what better, if you will.

So, to me anyways, self reliance is more of you being able to do shit for yourself without needing to rely on me. Can you cook for yourself, do your own laundry, run your own bath, fix problems yourself without looking to me for solutions constantly, pay your own bills without relying on me to move in and cover half AND are you capable of being a 50/50 partner when it comes to the home life and doting tasks of taking care of me while I take care of you? Women still want manly men. We want to be able to express our femininity without getting our hands dirty and we will 100% be submissive to a man that we can trust to be self reliant without relying on us for absolutely everything.

Take me, as a prime example: I met my husband when I was 100% stuck in that "I'm a strong independent woman" phase of my life and he wasn't a self reliant man. He expected me to be his problem solved, his mommy, basically. I wasn't in to it but I was in to him (redeeming qualities go a long way). So we talked and we communicated for 2 years trying to work through the issue of him being self reliant and eventually, through lots of struggles, he understood what I meant. He worked his ass off. I did too. And now, 6 years later, he can rely on me for absolutely anything his heart desires because he proved to me that his self reliance could be trusted.

So, in turn, women need self reliance. We need to be able to fully believe that we can trust you to make shit happen for us (as in- me and you) without "needing" us. And when you do that, we will fully give in to the submissive nature that we desperately want anyways. It's in most women's nature to be vulnerable and submissive. Prove to us that we can be submissive and depend on you and you will achieve it.

[Asker]

This is such a great answer.. thanks for sharing. Hope everything's well with you!

[Fireguy17]

Some people are very self reliant, others aren't.
I am very self reliant, but that might be why I do what I do.
It takes all types of people to make the world go round.