Why would a guy I’m online dating already be talking about babies?

[Anonymous]

[slatyb]

BIG RED FLAG! He's desperate for female attention and wants to marry the first one that gives him any. He's very immature and has no idea what it's like to be in a relationship. The second you fail to meet one of his fantasies he'll drop you. Save him the trouble.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes they will use the word babies instead of sex to make it sound a little more palatable or endearing.

[Asker]

Lol thanks for the insight

[kylee2437]

He most likely just wants sex

[rm_llort]

He's at the age where he's thinking about settling down and dating seriously. Therefore he's vetting potential partners.

[Asker]

Vetting lol well what if I don’t make the cut I may not bother then 😂😂

[rm_llort]

That's what dating is. You're both vetting each other for desirable qualities, traits, interests, compatibilities, chemistry etc. You can also decide he doesn't make the cut too!

[Asker]

I don’t know what to do as I’m not ready for sex and everything it brings with it: STDs, babies and I don’t want the risks of birth control either. Also I don’t want to give up my solitude being in a relationship but also although I’m not deeply attracted to him yet as only online stage I believe I could be in person definitely and the prospect of letting something like this go to waste is also unpleasant too

[rm_llort]

You've answered your own question. You ain't ready, you don't want anything like that. Make it clear that you're waiting for the right person. You only stand to lose if you compromise what you believe about yourself. Best of luck to you.

[Asker]

But what if he’s the right one?

[rm_llort]

If he's the right one, it wouldn't matter what I have to say.

[lonelyforeverr]

SI think he wants a child from you 🙂