I’m a young widow, 24, in a slow going relationship that has been building for the past year and a half or so but I just made things official a few months ago.
I’m trying to get my life together and not let the grief overtake me by working full time, going to school & aiming for a grad program in the next 2 years. Another big motivator for me is that I want to be ready to have children in my future. I hope to be a good example for them and be able to provide for them financially.
My boyfriend right now doesn’t seem to have any long term work/education goals at the moment. He makes decent money for himself and has a good work ethic but is nowhere near being able to support children. This bothers me because he talks about having a baby with me frequently. We haven’t had a serious conversation about it necessarily, but he makes comments and brings up having a baby much more than any man I’ve been with.
some examples:
-asking jokingly (?) if he can put a baby in me
-telling me he wouldn’t want me to abort if I were to get pregnant and we would figure it out
-this morning I woke up to him telling me he had a dream we had a baby girl together and that he was happy. Later in the morning he brought it up again talking about how cute it was.
I love my boyfriend. It just stresses me out because we are nowhere near financially ready and I am still figuring a lot of things in my life out. I have told him I am not opposed to children but I still have a lot of work to do on myself.
I’m trying to get my life together and not let the grief overtake me by working full time, going to school & aiming for a grad program in the next 2 years. Another big motivator for me is that I want to be ready to have children in my future. I hope to be a good example for them and be able to provide for them financially.
My boyfriend right now doesn’t seem to have any long term work/education goals at the moment. He makes decent money for himself and has a good work ethic but is nowhere near being able to support children. This bothers me because he talks about having a baby with me frequently. We haven’t had a serious conversation about it necessarily, but he makes comments and brings up having a baby much more than any man I’ve been with.
some examples:
-asking jokingly (?) if he can put a baby in me
-telling me he wouldn’t want me to abort if I were to get pregnant and we would figure it out
-this morning I woke up to him telling me he had a dream we had a baby girl together and that he was happy. Later in the morning he brought it up again talking about how cute it was.
I love my boyfriend. It just stresses me out because we are nowhere near financially ready and I am still figuring a lot of things in my life out. I have told him I am not opposed to children but I still have a lot of work to do on myself.
