When you go on a date with someone for the first time do you ever bring a friend with you?

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If not do you ever notify someone in advance that you're going on a date?

hello123456789 · Accepted Answer

Hell naww... The date is a one on one experience. Friends be damned.

However, double dates are a thing too. If a person really needed support (or if he or she was super shy), double dating with a friend can make the situation less awkward (especially when you all already know each other.)

And it could be the start of a nice friend group.

JHNS98 · Accepted Answer

One of the girls I used to text always told me that she was coming to my city to see a friend, but the friend always flaked on her. She lives in the next city 80 miles north.

Meanwhile the girl I'm talking to at the moment was going to bring a friend to our first date, but I said no - so she and him will be going there some other time.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I have never done that personally but my best friend brought me with her for her very first date with a guy. She was really anxious and the guy was okay with it, he brought his friend too so it ended up being a double date. Which honestly I’m glad she did because he ended up being really weird.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

No unless if it’s a group date of someone sort which I have been on before. If I plan to meet someone, I intend on being one on one with them. I prefer it this way because it’s easier to negotiate if they are a person that I truly like or not. With a friend, it is harder to determine

Avicenna · Answer

Absolutely not. I'm there to get to know her better and bringing a friend signals a lack of comfort.

AviatorTom · Answer

Never, why would I do that? The purpose of a first date is to have fun and start getting to know each other. A wingman would just get in the way.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Almost always. And i tell them to bring someone too. People are crazy these days and its best to have a sidekick if you have to fight to survive 🤣 The first time can be called a date or simply a hangout. If things go well then the next time we meet up, it’ll just be the two of us. Bt either way, i’m not going to be under my friend the entire time. Maybe for the first 30 mins then i branch off with the guy. Our friends are just there from a distance to kinda to monitor the situation.

BadApple69 · Answer

It’s always good to notify a close friend of where you are going and who with. Heck if I was a girl I would sit down with this blind date/first date and snap a picture and send it to your friend.
If the guy doesn’t want that then it’s a good time to leave. Your safety should always come first.

Slingblade1126 · Answer

The first time my wife and I went out, we ended up at a bar that a bunch of her friends happened to be at. I was kind of pissed but she made it clear she was interested in me. Though they were there, her attention was 100% on me. She's just a social butterfly and to this day, likes to be surrounded by family and friends when out. She has always told me how happy it made her when her circle of family and friends became friends with mine.

Lily_lilac · Answer

Preferably no.. as it is easier for both side to be natural as compared to when there is someone else which then kinda defeat the purpose of y'all going on a date.. but notify someone about the date is a must!! Especially the location and let em know if they shld be alert on that day incase u need emergency help etc

musicbrain5 · Answer

No! I would not bring a friend along with me. That's a bit strange, I think. I would let someone know where I'm going and with who, but yeah I'm not going to have them tag along.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I have but, like a couple friends just in the same restaurant or near by just incase anything goes wrong so I had a safe way out if the situation turned bad.

Alli39 · Answer

For safety reasons you should always tell someone if you're going out to meet a relative stranger, even if it's not a date. But bringing a friend would definitely be a little odd...

matchrestore · Answer

I've been married for almost 10 years, so I've been out of the game for a while, but other than inviting a girl to join me when I'm out with friends already, I don't think I ever did that.

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly wouldn’t. If it was a group setting and I knew no one then yes. There is this one guy that I know likes me a lot and I don’t want to date him at all. Or maybe just at the moment because I have a big crush on this other guy. He just can’t seem to get it in his head that we are just friends. Like I have plenty of guy friends but dude just calm down. I don’t need all this other shit. Let me take a shot at my crush then if that doesn’t work out then I’d guess I’d give it a try.

Dawnn13 · Answer

Never brought a friend but I let my bestie know I'm going and with who and share my location with her (this is mainly for meeting people from online for the first time)

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. But if I get a bad feeling during the date or after, I have a friend meet me. Armed or not, I'm not risking my life.

Senator754 · Answer

Absolutely not. You may end up being expected to pay for everyone you have agreed to join your date. Friends and acquaintances come after you’ve established a dating relationship. Set boundaries up front before you go out to meet others.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I would never bring a friend on a date. I do let people know where I'm going to be though.

provokeesmokee · Answer

No, dates are for me and my date to get to know each other. If it's a group date, that's different.

panda2712 · Answer

I don’t because it would be someone that I’ve known for a while and I’d trust them

wishiwasfiction · Answer

No, I want it to be just me and the other person

haiuyu · Answer

Noooo. You want to be with that person you like, just the two of you. So you can get to know each other better. A third party will make things awkward.

molonski2 · Answer

NO , If anyone thought that was going to happen , simple , dont attend , its a date -NEVER ever.

Anonymous · Answer

Whoever brings A FRIEND. Is not sexually attracted to that person. It’s why they had to include the friend. The friend is like a cock-blocker. Because obviously the person is not interested at all.

comekitty · Answer

I'm married now but when I was single, no - I wouldn't bring someone. I'd say it's a good idea to let someone know of your plans. 🙂

thatshydork · Answer

Would I tell someone that I’m going on a date? For sure. Would I invite them to come with? Not unless they’re my date.

CubsterShura · Answer

Depends on the situation, but even if I do set up the first meeting in a group I'd prefer to have a private meeting soon anyway.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I never have. I haven't even done "the phone call " at a certain time to use as a possible out, or to make sure all is well, but I'm a guy.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Only once it was my dog and she was still a puppy at the time I wouldn’t bring a friend otherwise  not just because my friends look much better than me lol  but because it’s weird third wheeling

shades777 · Answer

Third wheel means you already dont trust a man and he hasn't even done anything yet, not a good move on the womans part but for safety tell someone

Anonymous · Answer

My parents always know if I’m going out on a date with someone new, though tbh this hasn’t come up in a while because I’ve been with my current boyfriend except for one short breakup since sophomore year of high school

Anonymous · Answer

Lol i saw a video of a girl bringing her friend on the first date and expecting the guy to pay everything so he lied saying he’s going to the bathroom but instead he ran and left them to pay😆 but anyway no to your question thats fucking stupid.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Had that happen to me once. One of the most beautiful women I ever met brought her friend w/ her on our 1st date. Needless to say there wasn't a 2nd.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I'll tell people that I'm going on a date, but I've never brought a friend.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Hell no. And if she does at my age we are off to a bad start unless it's for a threesome

exitseven · Answer

I never tell anybody anything. I always travel alone.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Nope. Don't recall ever telling anyone to be honest

DextroShade · Answer

Bringing a friend is a very, very bad move. Notifying someone ahead of time where you are going is good.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I never have but I did go on a few double dates which were kinda fun

Reorx · Answer

No & if she did, that dates over fast. Unless it was agreed upon in advance we were double dating.

jeffend888 · Answer

Why would someone do that? Are you in middle school?

lorenzomichael · Answer

No you never bring anyone else with you. however you do notify the police just in case.😁 LOL...

Anonymous · Answer

I talked to a guy online, and him and his wife had a secret code.

Andres77 · Answer

I don’t but I didn’t mind if she did

lightbulb27 · Answer

Not unless really dont want to be alone w them

ChooChooHaha · Answer

WHAT? WHY? Then that's not a date.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

No, and no.

Subflics · Answer

I know girls most likely to do this guy's nah

msc545 · Answer

No I just go. I don't need any help

TheMan35 · Answer

No, never, if she came alone.

SxcSierraa · Answer

No, it's not my friends date

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Nope…

Kacka · Answer

ofc no

sheenagwapa · Answer

no and no

eagle1951 · Answer

never

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You should!

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, I do not.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Hell no!

In_Trance · Answer

Never

deadgirlinthepool · Answer

never

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