Ex boyfriend playing games?

[Anonymous]

Why would my ex boyfriend inhibit me of having a relationship with someone else if he doesn’t want to have a serious relationship with me? (Me 22)/ (Him 26)

[Anonymous]

Inhibit you? Not sure what you meant by that, but my guess is that he doesn’t want to commit, he just wants the benefits you come with, which is usually sex. If you’re in a relationship then you’re no longer available for that unless you’re cheating.

[Asker]

Yes, I agree with you my friend… He doesn’t want to commit but wants the benefits… You’re right..! That’s confusing..! And nope, I’m not dating anyone at the moment… I’d never cheat…

[Opinion Owner]

Ugh, I can’t stand meant like him because it’s just such a selfish way of operating. If I were you, I wouldn’t even give him the time of day anymore because he shouldn’t be allowed to have his cake and eat it too. If you’re at the place in your life where you want a relationship, and he won’t give that to you, then no hard feelings against him but he shouldn’t be given anymore of your time. You can do better than that🩷

[Asker]

Thank you so much girl..! I do appreciate that! 🥹💖

[Opinion Owner]

No problem! Good luck with this🙏

[lightbulb27]

can't commit, but doesn't want to lose you. confused...

[Asker]

Yes friend, he is confused and he is making me confused as well 🤦‍♀️ If he can’t commit, why would he be afraid of losing me? That’s so silly of him..!

[lightbulb27]

Because he's screwed up. Evaluate his childhood and traumas and there you shall find your answers…

[Asker]

Yes friend, I know about his childhood and traumas and they do tell a lot about his attitudes, as you said. I just wonder if he can’t get over it as an adult and have a healthy relationship…

[lightbulb27]

Changes arw possible if he recognizes and wants to change. Otherwise this is a major disconnect and be exhausting emotionally. I know someone much older in the same situation. I went through commitment issues. If you confront issues head on and he does the hard work, then maybe. His fear is then issue. Where that fear come from? Heal that wound, focus then on what he really wants in life.

[Asker]

Thank you friend… I do appreciate that..!