My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. I love him very much but he makes fun of my flawsas a joke. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[OlderAndWiser]

You should have addressed this YEARS ago! WHat you describe is not uncommon, and I always think such teasing is mean-spirited and is a thinly-veiled disguise for some hostility. This requires repeated discussions and responses before he might change. . . if ever!

[slatyb]

DUMP HIM. "He makes fun of my flaws as a joke" -- that's abusive. He knows that it makes you feel bad but he does it anyway. He's not a nice person.

At a minimum, then next time it happens, say "That's hurtful. Stop doing it." If it happens again, DUMP HIM.

[Truthatanycost]

This is toxic and a form of subtle abuse but as OlderAndWiser said, it's something that had to be addressed years ago. Doing so now is going to be much more difficult. Partners are meant to ascend together. There is no room for making fun of each others flaws.

[Fireguy17]

Be honest with him and let him know how that makes you feel.
He may not realize it, and hopefully he will stop it.

[exitseven]

Tell him that it is hurtful to you and you would like him to stop. Then if he makes a joke about this you should kick him in the nuts.

[Luckycharms12]

Seems normal we all have faults why not laugh about it

[Iron_Man]

No big deal talk to him about it

[jahaims]

Communicate

[In_Trance]

Talk to him about it

[Jmmmfi4]

Talk to him

[karekaaaa]

Like what?