Do people who work out and are in good shape also want a partner who is fit and toned?

[DermalPunch]

Does water find it's own level or, do opposites attract?

If you are someone who is active or, even a total gym rat, do you want someone who is in the same or better shape than you? Or does it not matter?

I mean are your body goals personal and separate from what you find attractive or does your partner have to match you?

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Interesting that not even ONE girl answered this question.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've done both. It's way more fun (life, not just working out) when you have a person to share it with, especially since much of my working out is real world activity, not just in the home gym. hauling, splitting and stacking several tons of wood every year is more fun with another person there. I build a lot of furniture with reclaimed/unique wood, some of those get heavy. I do charity races a lot. 24 I think so far this year, 2 next weekend, signed up for 9 in August so far. Trying to fit a 10th one in but I'll need permission from the race director to start late. We'll see. Anyway... tangent... sorry. If you're out of breath walking to the end of the driveway there's a lot less we can do together.

You don't have to look like the ripped lady up top (bonus points if you do, for sure), but you can't look like the second one.

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The first lady is fat the second lady is ripped and the third lady is a waif.

I think that is so awesome all the things you're in to.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Thanks so much. I had a very surprise heart attack last year. I've always been real active so it was quite a shock to me and my doctors. My rescue kittens motivated me to get in even better shape than I was, because when they told me I was dying I thought about how would anybody ever explain why daddy doesn't play with the special string anymore, which is why I now do all my races carrying weight, and why i went from 3-5 a year to... whatever this is. Figure I'll hit 40 or so.

[Andres77]

I’d prefer a fit partner. She wouldn’t have to be on the same level but at least strong enough to pull me out of a burning building…🤔

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🤣 Do you fall asleep with lit cigarettes?

[Andres77]

😆…no. But just in case of an emergency I’d like someone around who can actually help and not just be a liability.

[exitseven]

Yes, I have been a gym rat my whole life and lead an active life. I wanted somebody who could share that with me.

[DermalPunch]

It's clearly deeper than physical. Is it even deeper than a lifestyle compatibility or does it stop there?

[DextroShade]

Men definitely prefer a fit woman and fatties are a deal-breaker for most men especially if they go to the gym or have options. Women also like fit men but men can compensate for being fat in other ways such having money, status, and charisma while women cannot.

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I was with you j til you said that women cannot compensate with mo ey status and charisma. This is so false.

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Also, for eons a fat woman was a sign of status.

[DextroShade]

They can't, otherwise dudes would lining up to date Oprah which they aren't. If you are a woman and you are fat you are automatically disqualified by most men (especially high-value men) and they even bothered to get to know you (which they won't) your money, status, and charisma won't make up for your obesity, not even close. Men and women are different.

When food was scarce obesity was a sign of status but today its just a sign of laziness and health problems.

[DermalPunch]

A charismatic woman who is overweight with a beautiful smile and a nice face is way better than one-dimensinal 10 anyway.

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If that were true why do hot women go on complaint why "ugly woman have hot guys. Because they have personality.

[DextroShade]

I have never heard hot women complaining about ugly women getting more male attention than them unless the girls they are complaining about weren't actually ugly. A woman's appearance is what attracts a man and her personality is what retains him, but you can't retain what you don't attract. If you don't like it, suck it up, stop living in denial, and lose weight!

[DermalPunch]

I'm not talking about ATTENTION. I am talking about relationships

[Subflics]

Yes its a requirement at least eat healthy (and I don't mean the politically correct "healthy")

[DermalPunch]

Oh? What is politically correct healthy?

[Subflics]

Basically fat

[DermalPunch]

Oh ha ha.

[jahaims]

I care about being fit but not toned. I just want my partner to be healthy and like her body.

[DermalPunch]

Yes, I get that

[PizzaDaddyo]

I feel that a good 75% of people that are fit and active want the the same.

[inhua]

eventually yes but some of these are photo ops

[DermalPunch]

Yes, they sre called examples.

[Jmmmfi4]

At least somewhat active yes