Can you be fat and want a fit partner?

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muscularbumblebee · Accepted Answer

In theory you can but I don’t see how that’s going towork long term with lifestyle differences and all but depends on your idea of ‘fit’ I guess.

If by fit you mean healthy and slim slightly toned then sure it could work but if you mean completely shredded and always at the gym meal prepping then that ain’t gonna work lol unless the other partner completely respects those choices but even then it’s a major part of their life. Hence me personally and many other fit people I know only stick to other fit people who do the same

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I know a female fitness trainer with a hard body. Her husband looks just like the guy in your picture, only he nerve smiles. He's actually kind of a jerk. I have no idea how they ended up married. He's a blue collar worker and she comes from an affluent family. That rules out looks, personality, and money.

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

You can "want" anything - it doesn't have to be logical or make sense. Personally, I think it's insultingly dumb to expect that to happen, and hypocritical to even want it. That said, there are many known cases of women and men who pick less physically attractive partners. The most common reason seems to be "I won't have to worry about them cheating on me or having wandering eyes, because they KNOW I'm the best they'll ever get". This is especially true when the less desirable looking person makes a lot of money!

Creampiekarl420 · Accepted Answer

Women do all the time even Giselle married a big fat bitch

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Of course. And I can want a date with Kristen Bell. Doesn't mean it's gonna happen!

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes I think you can want one the questions is rather should you have one because chances are that you are too different in your ways of living and the food you prefer. Also of importance is the question if we talk about a fit person, that is actively working or if we´re talking about slim/atheletic person. The difference is that it in the first case it´s easier to make it work. Otherwise the chances are high that you´re way of life is too different.
I think it can work out but it´s harder to make it work because both have to find aspects of life that they are agreeing on. Fitness is a lifestyle for many people and that´s something an overweight person can have a hard time to take part in.

numscul · Answer

that's kind of how it goes... do you really think fat people dream about getting another equally as fat person to rub their fat together? i'm leaning towards probably not very often

Hey what did the fat person with a mirror ask tell another fat person with a mirror?

I'll show you yours if you show me mine

wingattebaby16 · Answer

yes, i have gfs that are big with a fit skinny guy.

yet, it seems that fit girls dont usually want a big fat guy. Sex is painful becoz he crushes you with his weight, not to mention the "smells" that accumulate in the fat areas (rolls).

i am not into fat guys.

TRORT · Answer

I never been fat so I can only talk 1 sided. I seen and enjoyed woman with weight more irresistible and attractive too then woman that is thin. Having weight is sexy on woman body.
“Teddybears“ someone you can cuddle all night and can’t wait to be near her and kiss and suck every inch of her gorgeous body. Just depends on the person preference.

Kaamraj · Answer

Can you? - Sure, there is nothing stopping anyone from wanting. But realistically the sexual marketplace will dictate the terms of the interaction. In case of men, their sexual marketplace value (SMV) is not solely dictated by looks alone, so if a man has other things in order, there is nothing stopping him from wanting a fit partner. Saying that, no one should be overweight for the sake of their own health and longevity.

Anonymous · Answer

That only works for women, fat men mostly get fat women, at least when they are younger. If the fat man happens to acquire wealth then fit women can date him. Fat women can have way more options than fat men, if their faces look pretty they even attract the most good-looking guys. at least as per my personal experience.
All the fat women I know married to or dated fit, good-looking guys. At university, they dated the hottest guys in class. Confidence and flirty nature can play a huge role in it.
Have you seen euphoria? the fat girls dated so many guys, even the good-looking women are not so sexually adventurous.

Commander_Red · Answer

Sure, but you YOURSELF also need to get off your butt and at least TRY to be healthy. People aren't fit because they want to be fit. It's an entire lifestyle that they have chosen for themselves. So you being fat due to laziness or because you love McDonald's too much is never going to fit together with someone who chooses to wake up in the morning at 5 in the morning each day.

Anonymous · Answer

You can want what you want just like any other person but you have to ask yourself is it realistic, if it’s like how it is in the picture for example eh….. ‘people that are fit work out, eat right, value their health more I’m sorry to say, it’s a lifestyle. To be with someone that doesn’t do those things isn’t just less of a bonding experience, it’s also unattractive if those are things someone values and the other doesn’t.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'll let you in on a secret: some fat people want fit partners because their partners will help keep them accountable and motivate them to get into better shape. If both partners are fat, then they will just enable each other and they'll both get fatter.

Staximus · Answer

There are plenty of fat girls who want a fit guy and then get sad when he just uses them for sex. I have never heard of a fit girl using a fat guy for sex. I am a fat guy and every guy likes fit girls, but that is not realistic. Realistic expectations save you from disappointment.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

I have friends and they make no damn sense like that. She is hot. Really hot. He looks he would weeble and wobble but not fall down.
It's not the money either. He works in a low level insurance position and she runs a law firm.
Thing is that she chased him.
Let me repeat that. She chased him
She.
Chased.
Him.
So if the rest of us fat guys are SOL because he already became the exception to prove the rule.
That's alright. Fit isn't the biggest thing on my mind

jirwin7979 · Answer

yes social media has destroyed what love really is its not the size down stairs or the flat tummy or the size of the breasts it is what is in the heart that should truly matter but social media and hollywood destroyed that and makes it so hard for the few nice guys that are out there to get a girl... not saying it is not possable but its like a grain of salt on jupiter

TickleMe4ForFun · Answer

HELL NAW!! Fat needs to stay with fat! If someone works hard at stating fit, they are going to look down upon the fatty with disgust! "I care about my body. Why don't you, Chubby?"

We honestly should send fat people to a camp in the desert that they can't leave until they get down to their height appropriate BMI. Only available food is fruits and vegetables.

Sasha_Gee · Answer

I find it a bit shallow. He or She has to be fit all while they don't look the part themselves. From that point of view it's weird! But fit people are liked by the majority so liking fit people is normal!

uwu_princess · Answer

Tbh, yes. A lot of fat people wanna have fit, slim partner. But tbh not every slim person wanna have a fat partner XDDDD.
Being fat is unhealthy af. I wouldn't like to be with person who doesn't care about his/her appearance and health. 🤷‍♀️

MCheetah · Answer

Yes, but it's hypocritical as f*ck. Why should you be worthy of someone you can't be an equal to? Unlike some things like race or height, weight is changeable (albeit not easy).

Quack4 · Answer

Absolutely, but you only really see this in mature couples who truly value their partner’s personality. Most of the time larger people want to lose weight and they just need a little motivation, which can be provided by their partner. And sometimes skinnier people just prefer to be with people with a little more weight.

CrazyGirl666 · Answer

People will like you based on more than one thing so it could happen if you're their type. If not, then no. I don't really think it matters--fat or not.

sage2021 · Answer

I know a guy that's 5' 8", 155 pounds and his wife is 5'3 and weighs 330 lbs. and it doesn't bother him. He loves her.

KerryJulia78fd · Answer

I see fat people with skinny partners all the time.

lightbulb27 · Answer

sure. what matters is the self image of each and what they want.  will it work, no idea. I see "mixed" chubbiness people at the gym.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yep, you like what you like, but it doesn't mean others aren't allowed to think it's hypocritical and it doesn't mean you'll get it either.

sissyalexa · Answer

Yeah of course! You can want to live your life one way but be enamoured with people who live in a different way 😊🥰

Anonymous · Answer

You can wish for whatever you want. Doesn’t mean it’s going to happen. I’ve seen plenty of men who are oversight w skinnier women. But it’s usually a skinnier man w a big one. Men will usually date down, women not so much.

Flower7 · Answer

That’s very unrealistic, and also a bit inconsiderate. If someone expects others to look good for them, they should be willing to do the same.

slatyb · Answer

Of course. People can want anything. They may not get it. I want Anya Taylor-Joy. It's not going to happen.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Yeah you can want someone who has the opposite body shape from you but actually getting that person is the hard part.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Omg i see it all the time.. i see big heavy women who only want fitness / bodybuilder guys. And they think they deserve them too lol. I would never be something I'm not interested in.. i don't think it's fair..

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I weigh 254 and have many ladies find me attractive if they can look over my weight issues then I'm cool if not then better luck next time.

Apulu_3 · Answer

There is a difference in wanting something and getting something.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

You have the ability to be. You probably won't succeed at attracting a fit partner because no one like a hypocrite, but you might do it.

megabamse · Answer

That really do depend on the partner it self. If they don't mind then fine. But it does look a bit strange.

Now_Here · Answer

Sure you can. No guarantees on whether you'll always get it hah

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Obviously. However chances of that actually happening are extremely low.

genericname85 · Answer

of course xD most people want a fit partner. it's just that fat people typically can not attract such a partner. cause everyone wants the fit ones.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh yeah. I've see several females on here say they're fat but they're only attracted to fit guys. A girl I worked was like that too. Plus she had weird boobs. Like each one was kinda doing it's own thing... ya know kind of like Steve Buscemi's teeth.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

You can. Just like you can be human and want a unicorn partner. doesn't mean its going to happen or that people won't think your weird or laugh at you.

Layafell · Answer

You can but it will be much more difficult to find one. I think most people who work hard on their body also want someone who looks a bit after themselves

Paul09 · Answer

Possible. But not for me. I love a active for life. And if like to share that with some one. Being fat is giving up on yourself. Unless you have a rare medical condition.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You can want anything, whether you get it or not is a different matter

Phoenix98 · Answer

There are people out there like that both men and women. They aren’t common but they do exist.

Hangry06 · Answer

Yeah. What we find attractive may or may not be similar to us

exitseven · Answer

You could want one but you might have a problem finding one.

silkjames · Answer

Sure why not u can be like WHAT I still got it going on nomatter how i look like lol!

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

I don't see why not, we can always wish for whatever we want and it will always has a chance of happening

jasco · Answer

I am chubby and fit at the same time. I am not obese or fat, just chubby. So I wouldn't mind someone who was like me

douride2 · Answer

Everyone like different things. If the fit partner wants a fat partner things could work out.

skytatoe · Answer

Yeah you can, but it may or may not be realistic based on what you have to offer.

PAcc92 · Answer

You can't want anything, you can have what you get.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Sure but wanting and getting are very different things

anylolone · Answer

But not complain about men's high standards. You are free to want all you want, but not free to get it or be taken seriously when you expect it.

Andro36 · Answer

I would say no. Cause you will clearly have different habits and a very different vision of life in general

Quidthonian · Answer

Yes. I need that kick up the backside to lose the weight. I need her discipline to rub off on me.

Mangospacho · Answer

You can. Absolutely. It just might not turn out well.

zagor · Answer

Sure. You can be anything and want anything. Doesn't mean you're going to get it.

Guanfei · Answer

You always can, but the chances of it happening aren't very big, unlike you.

Chthou95 · Answer

Overweight and fat women could find one. It's pretty rare for a fat dude to find a fit girl that would be into him

sattii2607 · Answer

Well I was fat, my wife was always fit. I felt she deserves to see me back to being fit and got back to the fitness.

standardguy · Answer

Yes of course. Your body state will not change your sexual preference.

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