Do you prefer your partner or future partner to be in shape?

Question

Do you exercise and stay in shape?

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I exercise but I’m not in shape. I remember my old shape and how I felt and I know its not the same. I know I’m not that anymore. But I’m steady improving. I don’t want a gymfreak but hopefully he exercises a few times a week or month. I like lean to average men who have toned (not buff/bulky) arms/legs. I’m not a fan of abs. I find them a bit unappealing like seeing someones ribcage. But if anything, I see abs as a bonus, rather than ideal.  Ideally, the guys bod would look soft toned like one of the below

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Oh that's a requirement! He does not have to be a gymrat, or live at the gym. However, I do expect him to workout regularly, and eat healthy-ish with me.

I used to be overweight, and worked my ass off to get back to a healthy weight! Now I'm addicted to fitness. I need a partner that will support and understand that- not a couch potato!

Pinay_ako · Answer

Just be healthy. Take care of yourself. I want to grow old with you

OlderAndWiser · Answer

At my age, i don’t expect a woman to be in shape like a 20 year old girl, but I don’t want her to be rotund or porculent.

msmissydc · Answer

I dont need like muscles or even well shaped but I like, that he cares about his fitness and would want it, if he didn't do it by himself. I do the same and could understand if he didn't like it, if I just wouldn't care about my fitness. Its more about staying healthy and to be able to do things together, without having to take into consideration that your partner isn't as fit for some things you would like to do.

ohsheeT · Answer

There's all different levels of being in shape for me I need to be in shape I would want her to be in shape just because I want her healthy

And for all the women out there that are in shape and older and wiser this is why you want your man in shape

If he's not in shape then you will be asking 1 of the following questions one day

Why doesn't my husband want to have sex anymore

Does my husband have a porn addiction

Is my husband having an affair

The answer to all these question is he is out of shape and it takes work to please you. It goes both ways. Sometime it's take a work out everyday to keep that intimacy and loving relationship working the right way

provokeesmokee · Answer

Yes. And me, too, for them.

Doesn't have to be model fit, just able to enjoy the activities we like.

I climb 2-3x a week, do martial arts 2x a week, and enjoy an active social life. I'm only interested in people capable of keeping up or going further, not people who can't even climb with me for a while.

TheBootyChest · Answer

It doesn't matter if they are in shape before we date. But maybe we can both go on hikes together. On the off chance this happens, maybe we can do couples workouts, but that's up to her.

I don't go to the gym because my job keeps me active mostly. But I'm not against doing other things to get into shape with my partner.

Staximus · Answer

I'm 5'7" and 250 pounds. I look chubby but don't look morbidly obese. Definitely not "in shape", so it would be ridiculous for me to expect a woman to be more fit than myself. At the same time, it would be nice if she is able to keep up with me. I was laid off work for a year during covid and just laid in bed and smoked cigarettes for a year. Then I went up to the mountains and hiked 2 miles uphill at 7000-8000 feet elevation and wasn't even breathing hard. I don't know anybody who weighs 250 pounds that can do that after laying in bed smoking cigarettes for a year. I used to be as strong as somebody who was a foot taller and 100 pounds heavier than me, so I'm kind of a high-powered mutant. Maybe a woman who appears as out of shape as me would not be able to keep up.

Christoff92 · Answer

Since I like bikini shape bodies. Am not going to pressure her what so ever if she's not the fitness type. I'll love her for who she is 🥰 But she does have a bikini shape body or wants to have a bikini shape body because of her accuracy of fitness and weight loss then that to me is a big bonus.

Either bikini body that I like in the images below

Do you prefer your partner or future partner to be in shape?

is perfect. But she doesn't have is fine with me. Again she wants to have or already does have such tone. Then again perfect 😍

Anonymous · Answer

I refuse to answer this. Last time an old lady on here who was obviously self conscious about her weight I told her "you're over 40, it'd be ridiculous for anyone to expect you to look like you're 20". In my head it was a compliment but she got pissed and blasted me saying "so because I'm over 40 I'm not allowed to look good"?🙄

Of course being in shape is attractive. But I'd rather she be out of shape and be pleasant person to be around.

I workout to maintain health. Because I'm funny looking anyways no amount of exercising is going to fix that. 😄

Sour-rose · Answer

Definitely, in shape. I cannot have a partner who really can't keep up with my walking pace in a mall. I love walking a large place like a mall. And if they honestly are out of breath from us starting to walk from dillards and to the food court, they're just a burden to me.

noamazia · Answer

I have a standard I set for myself as well as others. the chest is more exposed than the belly. it's not something amazing, no six-pack or being buff or a model, just healthy.
it shows that you take care of your body and that I can suggest hikes as a couple's activity.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think I am in pretty good shape for my age, not like I use to be... Like this when I was younger. Similar to this now, but wider shoulders and bigger chest.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Lol and every girl wants a guy who is tall.

I think it is objectively more attractive to anyone to be in shape (just as it is for a woman to have an hourglass body type and a man to be 6' ).

Doesn't always mean that type likes you back. Best to work with what you can attract.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I've been taking care of myself most of my life.

Fitness is important to me for myself.

Fortunately, my husband is very much into fitness too.

It so happens that "birds of the same feather flock together" applies.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

It depends. I put a lot of work into staying in shape, although laity it has been more home exercise, mixed in with running and hiking. I don’t date people who don’t take care of themselves. But they don’t necessarily need to be on the same level. The last guy I dated was in really good shape, he had to be for work, but still took pride in it. The girl I am dating now is much less so, but she eats well, and I am starting to get her to come around.

NathanDavis · Answer

definitely in shape, or fit... or decently active able to keep up with a good hike, at least 
 
 no couch potatoes for me, I like those, in the grill... lol

petitedollbabee · Answer

To a certain extent. I don’t want them to be super bulky or toned, or have a 6pack, but I wouldn’t like for them to be obese. A good balance of dad bod & being in shape would be ideal.

Molly1997 · Answer

He’s been working out and his muscles have gotten so big my heart flutters and I 🤤, I love it when he takes care of himself - but I’ve also been with him at his lowest and loved him the same

Jazzy54 · Answer

As long as he’s not a slob who sits around and eats junk food all day, I don’t care. He has to care about his health and exercise regularly. I don’t need a man who’s muscular and/or has a six pack.

Lliam · Answer

I definitely love a woman who is fit, flexible and shapely. But I'm turned off by lean and muscular women.

Sanser · Answer

Yeah!! of course, a girl who takes care of herself seems very attractive to me, obviously not being in shape does not mean that she does not take care of herself or does not exercise but that she has a good healthy shape is a plus!

catiecatie · Answer

So I’d like to go on runs with my partner. So I’d say in shape to an extent.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I prefer them to be healthy, but that doesn't mean being a gym or exercise junkie.

SunnyRS · Answer

In shape as in fit? Yes.
For me in shape doesn't mean building a lot of muscles and buffing if you lose your flexibility because of it though.
In shape means healthy with stamina and flexibility.
I want my partner to stay fit and healthy and for that regular exercise is necessary.
I myself do exercise daily.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Yes, I would, she doesn't have to be a Health Nut, but I would like to to show that she is taking care of herself. I want her healthy now and around for later on.

Bobbysworld · Answer

I’ve always been more attracted to a lean body type, but that doesn’t always mean they’re in the great shape. I go more off physical appearance than how fast she can run.

Bricealan · Answer

I bust my ass to stay in shape, and if my partner does not care enough to take care of herself, I'm not interested in being with someone like that for any longer than it takes to realize that they are 'lazy' in that regard.

Sparkie460 · Answer

She can have a few extra pounds on her. As long as she's healthy it doesn't matter to me. I'm more attracted to her eyes, smile and what is inside.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

As long as my partner is healthy then I'm happy 😊

TheSimFans · Answer

just be heathy and do some exercise like walking is easy. that i been doing is walking

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Hopefully You Are!

xoxosilentgirl · Answer

I consistently working out and been to healthy diet, but as for partner i dont really care if he’s muscular/gym guy or not. Tbh prefer man with not so much muscle but still looks healthy and decent

Coden7 · Answer

She doesn’t need to have a six pack or anything. But good workout habits yeah

OnlyMeee · Answer

I go to the gym, I like to get fit, my wife does not go to the gym, it matters not though, I love her for who she is.

justJoshua555 · Answer

In shape

My mom was very fat and obese person and I have seen my family suffer for that reason, I don't want my kids to see what all things I had to see because of my mom.

(Don't worry, I don't hate my mother lol)

PointTaken · Answer

Healthy not really one that e exercises. I don't exercise much. A little here and there.

Emelina · Answer

It's a choice for my partner to decide, I will love him just the way he is, and I will keep going to the gym bc I love it.

Adam1978 · Answer

In shape as in physical form, not necessarily athletic as in being in good form when it comes to running, having high stamina etc.

Katie1964 · Answer

Absolutely, we both need to be in shape. It has so many health and psychological benefits and these are on top of the appearance benefits.

Justaguyagain · Answer

Not necessarily in shape, but at least trying to be healthy. I do work out, but mostly to be healthy, i'm not that fit

NYlatefun · Answer

In shape, for many reasons, including that it means the person is disciplined.

MackBoy · Answer

My girlfriend goes to gym and she wants me to go to gym too

Guardian45 · Answer

Health-wise, it's important to exercise and eat properly. How about you?

Paulychicagoluv · Answer

I don't need someone who has to workout 7 days a week, but I also don't want someone bigger than me.

Hanrej · Answer

I exercise 2-3 times a week and prefer a partner that does something similar.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I have a very Physical job unlike a lot of People, So I get a good Workout there.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I do walk a lot but I feel like I’m completely out of shape

crossdressingrihno · Answer

It would be nice but it’s not at the top of my priorities in a partner. Theirs much more important things like if she’s fun to be around or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 6' and 185lbs, 12% bodyfat and good amount of muscles. Used to 310lbs and 38% bodyfat. My girlfriend is 6'2" and 270lbs.  I met her 2 years ago, getting married in 2 weeks time.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Yes 😍 Definitely in shape. I’ve been into muscular guys for the past couple of years.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I have been a gym rat all my life and have a very active e lifestyle. Being with a couch potato does not suit me

Adam_Badry · Answer

It is a feature but NOT everything a human being would love to have in his /her partner,  :))

Levin · Answer

She gotta be, dudette. I move like at least 3 hours a day. ain't no excuse for laziness.

Apple1996 · Answer

It doesn't matter I'm still gonna love and care about my partner regardless of how he looks

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

In shape, just a bit of muscle shape. I myself train consistently.

CrimsonAngel09 · Answer

Doesn't matter, as long as they're not in the obese to morbidly obese range.

e232bm · Answer

I prefer someone who takes care of their health and their body but they do not have to be crazy about the gym.

Unknown29 · Answer

My girl is in shape, but never has gone to the gym. I mean she went on a backcountry elk hunt in Arizona with me that required 12 miles of walking on crazy terrain (no trails).

clampfan101 · Answer

Both. It’s fine as long as she’s in decent shape, but being fit would be preferred. I don’t exercise, but I think I just need a gym buddy. We could help each other.

alearningboy · Answer

If im in a relationship I like every size of my girlfriend but if she wants to sport yes why not.

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