I exercise but I’m not in shape. I remember my old shape and how I felt and I know its not the same. I know I’m not that anymore. But I’m steady improving. I don’t want a gymfreak but hopefully he exercises a few times a week or month. I like lean to average men who have toned (not buff/bulky) arms/legs. I’m not a fan of abs. I find them a bit unappealing like seeing someones ribcage. But if anything, I see abs as a bonus, rather than ideal. Ideally, the guys bod would look soft toned like one of the below
Those are tough standards for guy as he gets old! I think I can pull off the bottom way in my 40s now if I train really hard. Mass gets easier with age but leanness is tougher.
The ultimate answer, yes, I would like my partner to be in average shape. It can be a challenge as you get older, have kids which equals less personal care time. It definitely has to be one of the ongoing / sustained priorities by both individuals in the relationship (both continuing the workouts and supporting your partners time for the workouts). Definitely doable though. I personally ride bicycles/exercise bike and lift / do manual labor (weekend warrior). I would put myself solidly similarly between your 4th and 5th pic.
isn't it atractive to be with someone who takes care of himself? Of course!!! Obviously being a gymfreak shows that he can't offer too much than his body but if its a complementary thing it must be Yes for sure!
Oh that's a requirement! He does not have to be a gymrat, or live at the gym. However, I do expect him to workout regularly, and eat healthy-ish with me.
I used to be overweight, and worked my ass off to get back to a healthy weight! Now I'm addicted to fitness. I need a partner that will support and understand that- not a couch potato!
There's all different levels of being in shape for me I need to be in shape I would want her to be in shape just because I want her healthy
And for all the women out there that are in shape and older and wiser this is why you want your man in shape
If he's not in shape then you will be asking 1 of the following questions one day
Why doesn't my husband want to have sex anymore
Does my husband have a porn addiction
Is my husband having an affair
The answer to all these question is he is out of shape and it takes work to please you. It goes both ways. Sometime it's take a work out everyday to keep that intimacy and loving relationship working the right way
I dont need like muscles or even well shaped but I like, that he cares about his fitness and would want it, if he didn't do it by himself. I do the same and could understand if he didn't like it, if I just wouldn't care about my fitness. Its more about staying healthy and to be able to do things together, without having to take into consideration that your partner isn't as fit for some things you would like to do.
Doesn't have to be model fit, just able to enjoy the activities we like.
I climb 2-3x a week, do martial arts 2x a week, and enjoy an active social life. I'm only interested in people capable of keeping up or going further, not people who can't even climb with me for a while.
It doesn't matter if they are in shape before we date. But maybe we can both go on hikes together. On the off chance this happens, maybe we can do couples workouts, but that's up to her.
I don't go to the gym because my job keeps me active mostly. But I'm not against doing other things to get into shape with my partner.
I'm 5'7" and 250 pounds. I look chubby but don't look morbidly obese. Definitely not "in shape", so it would be ridiculous for me to expect a woman to be more fit than myself. At the same time, it would be nice if she is able to keep up with me. I was laid off work for a year during covid and just laid in bed and smoked cigarettes for a year. Then I went up to the mountains and hiked 2 miles uphill at 7000-8000 feet elevation and wasn't even breathing hard. I don't know anybody who weighs 250 pounds that can do that after laying in bed smoking cigarettes for a year. I used to be as strong as somebody who was a foot taller and 100 pounds heavier than me, so I'm kind of a high-powered mutant. Maybe a woman who appears as out of shape as me would not be able to keep up.
Since I like bikini shape bodies. Am not going to pressure her what so ever if she's not the fitness type. I'll love her for who she is 🥰 But she does have a bikini shape body or wants to have a bikini shape body because of her accuracy of fitness and weight loss then that to me is a big bonus.
Either bikini body that I like in the images below
is perfect. But she doesn't have is fine with me. Again she wants to have or already does have such tone. Then again perfect 😍
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I refuse to answer this. Last time an old lady on here who was obviously self conscious about her weight I told her "you're over 40, it'd be ridiculous for anyone to expect you to look like you're 20". In my head it was a compliment but she got pissed and blasted me saying "so because I'm over 40 I'm not allowed to look good"?🙄
Of course being in shape is attractive. But I'd rather she be out of shape and be pleasant person to be around.
I workout to maintain health. Because I'm funny looking anyways no amount of exercising is going to fix that. 😄
Definitely, in shape. I cannot have a partner who really can't keep up with my walking pace in a mall. I love walking a large place like a mall. And if they honestly are out of breath from us starting to walk from dillards and to the food court, they're just a burden to me.
I have a standard I set for myself as well as others. the chest is more exposed than the belly. it's not something amazing, no six-pack or being buff or a model, just healthy. it shows that you take care of your body and that I can suggest hikes as a couple's activity.
It depends. I put a lot of work into staying in shape, although laity it has been more home exercise, mixed in with running and hiking. I don’t date people who don’t take care of themselves. But they don’t necessarily need to be on the same level. The last guy I dated was in really good shape, he had to be for work, but still took pride in it. The girl I am dating now is much less so, but she eats well, and I am starting to get her to come around.
To a certain extent. I don’t want them to be super bulky or toned, or have a 6pack, but I wouldn’t like for them to be obese. A good balance of dad bod & being in shape would be ideal.
Yeah!! of course, a girl who takes care of herself seems very attractive to me, obviously not being in shape does not mean that she does not take care of herself or does not exercise but that she has a good healthy shape is a plus!
He’s been working out and his muscles have gotten so big my heart flutters and I 🤤, I love it when he takes care of himself - but I’ve also been with him at his lowest and loved him the same
As long as he’s not a slob who sits around and eats junk food all day, I don’t care. He has to care about his health and exercise regularly. I don’t need a man who’s muscular and/or has a six pack.
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