Should I call her or should I stop any contact with her?

[JohanCruyff]

Let me explain: this woman used to be my crush for over 2 years. She knew about my feelings but she rejected me several times, after giving mixed signals. Many months later, and after several attempts from my parts to date her, she revealed me that she is in a long term relationship since at least 3 years ago. She then asked me to be friends. I tried to, but I was unable to give up my feelings for her and I couldn't move on, so I tried to date her a couple of times more, without success. Several months later, after my latest attempt to be with her, and the subsequent rejection, I finally told to myself that I should force myself to beat my feelings and my obsession, and be what she asked me to be: her friend. So I did, and finally, about 3 months ago, I got a new girlfriend. I keep in touch with my crush and some weeks ago, I told her that I am dating this new woman, mostly because I wanted her to know that if I am approaching her, it is in a friendly context and she told me that she is happy for me. Anyways, now that I have started establishing a friendly contact with her (my actual girlfriend knows about my unrequited love for that woman), 5 days ago I called her and she told me that she would call me a couple of hours later, but she didn't... And I feel like I 'm starting obsessing again with her, which is too bad, as I don't want to betray my girlfriend. Should I call this woman again, just to see what happened, or should I stop contacting her at all after she didn't call me back as she said?

[Alli39]

Just cut contact with her (not because she didn't call back though). The fact that you've asked her out like what? a half a dozen times? indicates that you really should have cut contact a while ago. If she changed her mind about you, she's fully capable of telling you herself. Repeatedly asking someone out is honestly just kind of disrespectful in my opinion since it doesn't show very much respect for their personal autonomy/decisions. She's not interested, and you don't seem to be capable of seeing her platonically, so the best thing you can do for the both of you is end the relationship before you do something that hurts everyone. I'm not even sure you should stay with your girlfriend if you're still in love with this other woman. That's bound to hurt her if you don't move past it because she's probably trying to work towards a real connection with your despite your crush.

[Anonymous]

Call her and ask what happened and then stop associating with her again