If you plan a date and they don’t show up, is it worth it to follow up on the future?

[BarryLiverstone]

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+1 y

Talked to a friend and she said my date probably got her period. But wouldn’t she let me know she’s not coming?

[Usernone]

Do they have a good excuse? Have they done it before?

You can absolutely take that as a red flag. I have a three strikes rule when dating, so this situation could immediately strike them out or give them two strikes.
The determining factor would be their behavior prior this incident. Have they been flaky in the past? Have they genuinely put as much effort as you have?

[BarryLiverstone]

This was to be our first date. I confirmed Thursday and she sounded excited. So I don’t know what the excuse is as I didn’t hear after that

[ShellyB]

They would never hear from me again, unless they apologized and had some really good reason that they convinced me was true, I can't even think what, like maybe they were in a car crash and taken to the hospital. JMO!

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks for the answer. I haven’t heard so think she’s history

[Kaamraj]

It is mostly women who do not show up, this shows extreme lack of respect for you as a man. And why would you deal with disrespect? Even if you could secure a second date it wouldn't translate into bedroom fun.

[BarryLiverstone]

I wasn’t looking for bedroom fun anytime soon. But ya a 2nd date no thanks

[ShadezMcgee]

If a woman stands you up with no words prior, the bitch isn't worth it. She showed you exactly what she thought of you by doing that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ty for the answer. She was a human by the way, I don’t date dogs

[ShadezMcgee]

I know. Still doesn't change the fact that bitch is the synonymous correct teem with women that do that.

[Alli39]

Nah, you can reach out and give her the chance to clarify if there was some kind of emergency, but if there wasn't anything major then I'd say pass and find someone who will be more respectful of your time.

[BarryLiverstone]

Thanks that’s my plan. I did call her last night after she didn’t show up to give her a chance in case it was an emergency but haven’t heard from her

[Alli39]

Yeah, just leave it alone then. If she contacts you at some point in the future with a legit decent excuse then feel free to hear her out, but honestly you've got better things to do. Hope you find someone!

[LazerBean]

Nope, not unless they were in some sort of horrific emergency

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok and if that happened then I assume she will get back in touch

[inhua]

when a would-be-passenger doesn't get on the train in time, the train doesn't stop and turn back

[BarryLiverstone]

So don’t follow up? Got it

[inhua]

it's one thing to not show up for the 2nd or 3rd date, but the 1st date? well that depends on how much you value your time

[BarryLiverstone]

Makes sense. She could have texted

[WhitneySnow]

That’s really rude. I would move on. I get wanting to cancel because you’re on your period but she should’ve at least texted you.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are right. Why would she be too scared to text me?

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not sure

[BarryLiverstone]

Glad most people agree that she should have contacted me

[WhitneySnow]

Definitely

[Brandi555]

First, Is this a first date?
Why did she miss the date?
Did she call? And when?
It depends on the situation.

[BarryLiverstone]

This was a first date. I don’t know why she missed it. Had called her Thursday to confirm and she was ready for the date on Friday.

[Brandi555]

Ok. So why did she miss?

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s what I can’t know rn. She hasn’t communicated since Thursday. Do you know why?

[BoopBoopBeep]

Even if that were true, I've no interest in following up with someone who's going to bail for that, number one, and number two, can't pick up the phone and call me to apologiz ahead of time? No, there are more considerate women out there.

[mandyfire98]

Were you ghosted? Why didn't they show up? Any reasons given?

[BarryLiverstone]

The plan was to meet for karaoke at 10:00 pm. I checked in yesterday and she said and was excited. Tonight around 10:30 I called her and left a vm. She didn’t show up

[BarryLiverstone]

So I have no idea as they haven’t communicated

[mandyfire98]

You got ghosted. I wouldn't follow up at all. Very crappy what she did. I'm sorry that happened.

[BarryLiverstone]

I agree, crappy and I also embarrassed myself telling the waitress she was coming and she never showed up

[mandyfire98]

Not your fault, don't feel embarrassed.

[BoopBoopBeep]

If she's not in the hospital or car wreck there's no excuse for that in 2023

[Nikki1989]

Yes and no. I won't go out of my way for it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Okay Ty

[BunBun369]

Definitely not. Unless they call and inform you of the change in plans. Then sure try again but I wouldn't let it keep happening.

[Staximus]

Just like a job - No call, no show? You're fired.

[BarryLiverstone]

Correct no call.

[Staximus]

Not calling her again. Don't do it.

[BarryLiverstone]

I don’t plan on it. I meant she didn’t call me. Seems flaky

[JCT666]

Absolutely not. Someone who has no respect for my time will only be worse of in the future.

[BarryLiverstone]

Good point.

[linka_pat307]

𝑰 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒐𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕, 𝒊𝒕'𝒔 𝒂 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒇𝒇 𝒔𝒐 𝒈𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒓𝒚

[cloud9vortex1234]

No, she should off at the least let you know she wasn't coming.

[Drewtate]

Nothing risked nothing gained

[BarryLiverstone]

Meaning?

[JackCarter]

Without a legit reason , no

[CuriousMufuxka]

If they don't show up, that's it! Done.

[BarryLiverstone]

Seems like it

[sheikalana]

Not worth it at all. Block them and move on.

[Slim57]

Never. Unless it's a good reason

[BarryLiverstone]

What would be a good reason?

[Slim57]

Family or friend emergency, or sick, they got hurt

[BarryLiverstone]

Hope she didn’t get hurt. I would assume a family emergency she would let me know

[exitseven]

I would not unless they had a really good excuse.

[Anonymous]

Not to me. I can't speak for everyone.

[Jmmmfi4]

Homie... tell that bitch to kick rocks