Is there even a way to reject someone without hurting their feelings?

[iiinsOMNIA]

I never really thought about what I would say before. She probably thinks I'm an asshole now. How do you reject someone softly enough that their feelings don't get hurt? I still want to be friends, just not girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

Not really. And I would caution you about trying to soften the blow. Like I told one woman who rejected me once and did a really bad job of it.😆 she agreed to go out with me, then avoided me for a week, then changed her mind. She said she didn't know how to tell me no without hurting my feelings. I don't why I felt bad for her in the situation, I was the one who got rejected.😆 So I told her analogy. I said "would you rather be shot 5 times in the stomach and bleed to death. Or take one shot to the head and BOOM, lights out"? I told her by trying to be nice you're just prolonging the pain with a guy. Always be firm in a rejection. Otherwise you POSSIBLY risk sending the guy the message "try harder".

Yes I realize you're talking about a girl.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Yikes, good points

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't know that there's a way to reject someone without hurting their feelings. The fact is; they're hoping to have something more with you and you have to deny them of that hope. It's a really crappy place to be for everyone involved.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Ugh, you're right

[provokeesmokee]

Not necessarily.

How the other person reacts to and feels about rejection isn't something you can control.

You could do literally everything right but they'd still be hurt. That's just the nature of human emotion and connection.

All you can do is stay calm and level yourself, be genuine and gentle, but stand your ground.

Don't expect not to hurt those you love. Hurting happens, it's how you heal from it that determines the future of the relationship.

[Sarahr123]

If we want something and are told we can’t have it then naturally we’ll be upset regardless of how it’s expressed

[TonyMetal___86]

It seems that you're a lesbian, well tell her that suddenly you started loving men, someone hit you with a hammer on your head and you're on the right track again 🤣🤣

[iiinsOMNIA]

What? 😂 I'm not a lesbian, and I ended up telling her that I liked this guy (which is true) but I don't want to be telling everyone that every time I have to reject them... I've been getting a lot of confessions recently

[TonyMetal___86]

You're a girl and you said SHE so i thought that you're a lezzie haha, don't worry about her feelings, they are like crocs, they will just move on and celebrate their pride day 🤣🤣

[iiinsOMNIA]

Nono, I'm not a lesbian, I don't know what I am. The girl who confessed is different from the guy I like right now.

Apparently she was able to move on and find someone else she likes in the ten minute span she had after being rejected so it's all good I guess 💀💀

[TonyMetal___86]

😁👍🏻

[serious]

Well, it is possible to reject someone softly and nicely by bringing up the points politely but if the other person pushes it then one has to be firm and blunt.

[loveslongnails]

There IS NOT any way to do that, or at least, no one has found it yet. If someone cares about you, or wants to get to know you and care about you and you reject them, it's going to hurt them no matter what. The only time it doesn't hurt is if two people discover they're really polar opposites and don't care that they separate.

[LiamJHayden]

It often depends upon the person who is being rejected as much as how it is done. Some will be offended simply because you reject no matter how nicely you do so.

[Billlewis]

I love these discussions about how best to reject a guy more than anything else on this site... they're so incredibly hot...

[Billlewis]

Let's also keep in mind that this wonderful young lady is only 15 years old, so we need to keep the dialogue squeaky clean.

[iiinsOMNIA]

... could you answer my question though? 😭

[Billlewis]

If he's really interested in you, there probably isn't a foolproof method of rejecting him, at least in most cases.

[iiinsOMNIA]

It's not a guy, it's a girl. I said so in the description ^

[Anonymous]

ask them if they're into spanking. if they are, tell them, I am not sexually interested, but we can still be friends and It will be my pleasure to spank you whenever you want.

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Don't know what I'm saying. I am bored.

[iiinsOMNIA]

Heh, you do seem rather bored.

[MementoMori777]

You tell them you are taken?

[iiinsOMNIA]

No, because I like someone who she is acquainted with. I don't want to risk him thinking I'm taken, especially since he has shown interest in me

[MementoMori777]

That makes sense, then just be honest and tell him you have interest in someone else, if the rumor spreads, it might even help you with your crush problem as well, if he's interested he will want to know more.

[inhua]

yeah if they're a robot

[Anonymous]

No I don't think so.