How to reject a guy without hurting his feelings?

[isabelledmarieberger]

The title says it all but just recently, a guy I've been working with has been trying to get closer to me and made it obvious he liked me, he's not my style but I didn't even have time to get to know him to judge if I would like him, because we had only exchanged a few words before he made it obvious he was into me that way, as I don't share his feelings not wanting to lead him on I did not answered his texts when they talked about wanting to see me, and I did not avoid him but did not go out of my way to talk to him and greet him. But now I'm doubting my decision, I feel like I've been so harsh trying not to give him the wrong idea plus I think maybe I could have been friendly and he would have still gotten the clue, honestly I don't know how to handle this, from my pov if you entertain a guy that's blatant about liking him he will think he has a shot and then saying no comes as a surprise but I'm honestly lost... I feel like I hurt his feelings even worse being aloof?

[spartan55]

Your last sentence is the most accurate. Like you said, you can be friendly and still reject. Most women won't put themselves in a position to be rejected, like ever. Now you are not wanting to reject him because it will hurt him... so what to do now?

[isabelledmarieberger]

But if I'm friendly it seems it gives off the idea that there is hope

[spartan55]

That's his problem, not yours.

[24kt_8k]

Keep it a buck. There's no real way to prevent hurting someone's feelings that is interested in you, but there's a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it.
Keep it a buck 50.
If you guys end up drifting apart, so be it. Try not to force a relationship you don't believe is there. (Assuming you're friends or coworkers.)
Discuss it in private but do it in public. Make sure other people are around for your safety but don't just air him out in front of everyone.
In my opinion that's the best way to do it. Like I said, there's no real way to reject someone without hurting their feelings. I know its not easy. Praying for you.

[Anonymous]

The guy told me he liked me, he liked my face and I'm super beautiful. I told him "thank you you very handsome but I'm not looking to date at the moment"

He took it well he replied " thanks no worries cool"

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yell them they aren't your type. It's honest, and isn't going to make them feel worse.

[TheSpaceGnome]

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