I was talking to this guy and found out he’s engaged?

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I was dating and sleeping with this guy for 4 months and found out today that he’s engaged with a baby on the way he doesn’t know I know but what should I do?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I been in Your shoes a few times with married women that lied to me that they were single , so just be honest with him , that you no longer want to see him anymore cuz he lied to you because you found out the truth that he is already involved with someone else and that you are hurt that they played you this way , and ask him , why did you do this to me? Make him feel like a pile of shit because he clearly already is a pile of shit for fucking with your heart like he did. He will either stop calling you or He will try to get you to come back to him , Stand your ground and let him know that you will no longer see him anymore because he lied to you. Even if he decides to end his engagement with his fiancé , to be with you , don’t fall for that shit , because it would just be a matter of time he would eventually do to you , what he did to his ex fiancé. Once a cheater always a cheater. Just look at it this way , it was a good time but not a long time. He is more than likely going to go back to his fiancé and be there for his child on the way , he will live with the guilt knowing that he is a piece of shit by cheating on his partner and cheating on you so either way he is in for a rude awakening. Now it’s up to you if you want to confront his fiancé and tell her the truth that he has been cheating on her with you or you can just let it go and move on. Again that is up to you? Me personally would say something because he is going to cheat on his fiancé again if he feels he got away with it all. When my ex wife cheated on me with a married co worker , I told his wife the truth , now both of them are living with guilt knowing they both are pieces of shit , I divorced my ex and his wife divorced him , His kids won’t even talk to him anymore and he tried staying with my ex but my ex doesn’t want him anymore, so Karma is a bitch. So again it’s up to you if you want to tell his fiancé the truth.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

What should you do? Are you serious? Tell him you know he's engaged with a baby on the way and leave him. He'll get you pregnant and be out with some other girl while you're sitting at home, just like he's doing to the other girl with you now. Wake up and smell the bacon, lady. Ditch this shit bag guy now unless you want to be sitting at home pregnant with his kid while he's out fucking the next girl. Maybe you should tell his fiance about who he really is, but that's a whole new can of worms you may not want to get into.

Rei02 · Accepted Answer

I feel you. The answer is right there, in front of you, but before taking it, you must clear up your mind before you take the step.

If this is recent and you haven't talked to him yet, then it is your chance. Before starting the zero contact, cutting ties permanently, face him, tell him you know the truth, how you feel, and that he is not a real man, that he is a liar, a cheater and that you and his fiancé deserve someone better. Vent your anger and feelings, and whatever he proposes to you, don't fall for it, keep in mind that cutting ties is the best.

Dumping him, leaving him alone is going to hurt right now, but think that your future self is going to thank you if you leave him and decide to improve yourself.

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

You should cut off all ties with this man immediately. Do not continue a relationship with someone who is willing to deceive and betray his partner.

You should also consider telling his fiancée. She deserves to know the truth, and you both deserve better than to be with this unfaithful man.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Why is it women always seem to fall for these type of scumbags?

Here are the facts:

He’s a liar. Even if you never asked him if he was taken when you first met him that was a unacceptable lie by omission.
He’s a scumbag. If you can’t see that than there is a major problem with you.
He’s likely a sex addict. Doesn’t excuse his behavior but he will continue to do this with other women until he hits some sort of bone crunching rock bottom.

Whatever false feel good image this guy created in your mind was a complete illusion. There is no way of salvaging anything from it. You have to ditch that feeling and ditch it now. Get as far away from him as humanly possible.

But why the hell of women fall for these assholes to begin with? My theory is these guys act real charming but also have a “I don’t give a f*ck” attitude and never over pursue women. They might approach but never bend over backwards for anyone. Simply because they have no time too AND they don’t care if it doesn’t work. They also got something else going on.

Women find that irresistible whether they admit it or not.

integrale77 · Answer

If I was in your shoes I'd be tempted to meet for one more night of passion then give him a proper love bite on his neck and maybe scratch your nails down his back.

That would be something to explain to his fiancée.

I dare say he would come clean then

To take things one step further say you want to explore your kink and be his "mistress" get him blindfolded and tied up then out with the indelible ink marker and write something on his back like "cheater"

Married_mature · Answer

There's no way you can change your past. What has happened has happened. You ofcourse can't continue with him. You need to look for ways to move on. It would depend on how serious if was and how it affected your emotions. If it was casual and involved sex but not much emotions, it will be easy to move on. But if you are romantically attached to him, it's going to be a bit tough

Daniela1982 · Answer

Seriously? He is cheating with his wife-to-be already? What a douchebag!  You have to be trolling!

Anonymous · Answer

I was talking to a girl online met her on IG. 3-4 months later, she's like actually I'm engaged but let me find someone for you. I later blocked her, I mean how stupid. Sorry you went through that and it's dumb people aren't straight forward and honest. I mean your case is worse because you slept with him. I only chatted with the girl online beyond that I didn't do anything with her, never met her, it was short lived.

Paris13 · Answer

Block Him and Run, hun. I Feel For His Fiance that She is Stuck with a Cheat Sheet!!! xxoo

RavVid · Answer

Obviously dump. Whether you tell the fiance is another matter. I don't think people are entitled to your silence on sexual infidelity.

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

So basically another girl who chases men who have tons of other women after him. Just lol at women and their decision. Meanwhile 64% of young men in your age range are single and you most likely ignore them and treat them like shit.

exitseven · Answer

Tell him that you just turned up pregnant and see what he does.

Marcuslrh · Answer

Wave good bye I guess🤷‍♂️ leading a double life maybe more damn!

worldscolide · Answer

Wtf is wrong with people these days. I am so sorry. Were I in your shoes I'd break it off, contact his fiance and let her know what her POS fiance has been doing.

spartan55 · Answer

Did you even bother to ask him up front if he was in a relationship?

Anonymous · Answer

If you want a relationship with him then now would be a good time to exit. If you just want to have sex and you don't care about his relationship situation, then carry on.

Twalli · Answer

Stop the relationship now. You didn't know, so you can't be held responsible up to this point, but anything you do now that you know is wrong.

Anonymous · Answer

This sounded like a true story until it got to "baby on the way."

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him you got tested, positive for syphilis. Tell him he needs to get checked as well.

clampfan101 · Answer

Tell him you found out and dump him. Find someone trustworthy.

Daffotul · Answer

call him out on it and make him feel bad for wasting your time

sheikalana · Answer

Stop seeing him immediately.

AngelLily · Answer

Break it off with him.

Wise4myage · Answer

Tell his fiance anonymously.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Tell you know and to kick rocks

riverrat3 · Answer

What do you want to do

DJB72 · Answer

Walk awa

whistlingwh0res · Answer

he is a dog.

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