If she likes me, why won't she go out with me?

[Anonymous]

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She usually uses "her having two jobs" that she just doesn't have time, but, that wouldn't make sense. She could always call off, and has even done so before.

[Anonymous]

Because she doesn't really like you. She likes your attention. See the distinction? Some women do not want to date any guy really. They just want EVERY guy's attention.

There's a good way to check if this is the case. Ignore her! I guarantee you if she's who I'm saying she is she'll be driven nuts by this and want to get your attention back. Then Start paying attention to her again. And I guarantee you she'll Stat ignoring you and going cold on you again.

[Asker]

Actually the last time I ignored her, she didn't come crawling, saying whered you go

[Opinion Owner]

Well you got your answer then. See doesn't want to date you. She doesn't even care if your her friend or not. Just move on with your life. She's only 1 of 3.5 billion women on the planet. In that respect she's not special.

[Asker]

We kissed, and she wants to take my virginity

[Opinion Owner]

OK are you just f***ing with me. Cause I'll answer your question but not if you just want to keep changing your question.

[Asker]

If she wants to fuck, why won't she go out with me

[Opinion Owner]

Has she f**ed you yet? No? Then why on earth would you believe her.

[Asker]

Because she wants to?

[RyanK9b]

She doesn't really like you. The kiss is just a magnet to keep you around.
If she really wanted to be with you she would rocks and mountains to be there.
She's playing with you

[Sasha0426]

She’s probably scared.

[Asker]

Of what?

[Sasha0426]

Probably having something serious. I mean, dating and relationships are scary.

[Asker]

yet girls want it, right?

[Sasha0426]

Yeah, but they don’t know what the outcome is going to be. Unless you try to assure her everything is going to be ok.

[Asker]

We don't know how jobs will turn out, yet, we do them, so we can make money, and hope we're not fired. So, what's the diff. here?

[Sasha0426]

Well, jobs don’t cheat on you.

[Asker]

they can't "cheat" but they can do some pretty dirty things, depending. My moms boss, pays her under the table.

[Sasha0426]

With jobs, you can (almost) easily find a new one. You can find something better just like that. As for relationships, they’re more complicated than a job.

[Asker]

I know people whove fucked tons of people. relationships are easier than you think. people make it harder than it is, for the very reason you're telling me. fear of rejection and failure

[Sasha0426]

Have you talked to the woman you want to date? Like, see why she doesn’t want to go out with you?

[Asker]

Every time i do, she'll use her two jobs as an excuse. the only other reason she's given me for example is that she just got out of a relationship, where her ex stole her car. So she's a little distant with men right now. But, even before then, she was always using "jobs" as an excuse

[Sasha0426]

She probably fears you’re going to end up like her ex. So seems like she’s being extra cautious.

[Asker]

I figured, but, using her jobs as an excuse, thats silly. So, what do i do?

[Sasha0426]

It’s up to you. I mean, if you don’t see it going anywhere, it’s best to go your separate ways.

[Asker]

Well like, for example, her sisters getting married, she posted a story about how she "said yes to the dress" of course, and so, I was like "so, are you going to go to the wedding, stag". She read the message, and she didn't answer back. I just sent a message saying "i wasn't asking if i could be your plus one, at this point, i HATE weddings, and believe that not only are they bad luck to me, but, bachelor parties before hand, are, too. I was just curious. She's not online right now, since it's late, but, i wonder if that's something i should have said. considering we're not even dating

[Sasha0426]

I see the problem now. She probably wanted something serious to the point where she wants a marriage. But, seeing how you feel about marriage, she pretty much opted out. Of course she doesn’t want to get married right away but, after you saying that to her, she now knows where you stand.

[Sasha0426]

She probably thinks you’re only in it for the sex and you’ll dump afterwards.

[Asker]

She doesn't want marriage either. She was married already and didn't like it. She doesn't want it. SHe also doesn't want kids too, like myself

[Anonymous]

Where did you invite her to LOLOL 💀

[Asker]

lots of places, from something simple like the movies, to going across the state

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you invited her to Oppenheimer LOL

[Asker]

Nah!

[Anonymous]

She likes your attention.

[Anonymous]

Cause she wants you as a friend to talk to.

[Asker]

we kissed

[Opinion Owner]

Just tell her you are going to take her out for some coffee. Don't ask her out just tell her let's go get some coffee. Be confident.

[Asker]

I have